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Showing that feminists don't all hate heterosexual male sexuality

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IronPyrites · 06/07/2020 22:06

OK so I am talking about consensual adult sexuality only.

I think there is a feeling, imo an incorrect one, but still a feeling, among many straight men that feminism wants to impose celibacy on all straight men, and hates and derides any expression of male sexuality.
Now, while I think this is unfounded, I wonder sometimes if there is any mileage in perhaps showing some compassion for the difficulties that many straight men encounter in their personal lives in general, and perhaps even that the pain of sexual or romantic frustration is no less real (and perhaps heightened by societal expectations of the straight male stud) for this group of people than anyone else. I have nothing but contempt for the so-called incels who clearly despise and feel entitled to women, and for men who express disdain for and behave badly to women in other ways, but I do think it may do some good to counter the message that you sometimes hear that feminism is anti-men, and showing that there is probably a societal bias against and fear of male sexuality in general. I hope you understand what I mean.

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Pertella · 07/07/2020 12:26

@DuDuDuLangaLangaBingBong

Crocs just look sweaty

This is where socks save us.

Oh.

No.

What? 🤣

DuDuDuLangaLangaBingBong · 07/07/2020 12:24

Crocs just look sweaty

This is where socks save us.

QuentinWinters · 07/07/2020 12:23

dervel that's because you are Not A Real Man. If you were, you'd be on pistonheads talking about mysterious "difficulties" Grin

QuentinWinters · 07/07/2020 12:22

torktork that's hilarious Grin

some compassion for the difficulties that many straight men encounter in their personal lives in general
What difficulties are these? I'm confused. I assume not getting laid enough? But it could be that they are expected to wash their own pants? Or buy their SOs a birthday present? It's very confusing....

Getting laid - think mrstp covered that, but also they can make do with wanking like everyone else
Pants - lots of videos about how to use common household appliances on youtube
Birthday presents - just buy her something she likes. Job done.

Now waiting for more thorny difficulties

Cascade220 · 07/07/2020 12:09

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merrymouse · 07/07/2020 11:57

Is it wrong that I've started to feel an affection for this thread and it's title? It's so earnest and old fashioned.

It's just like being in the early 2000s, what with all the talk of Crocs.

Dervel · 07/07/2020 11:52

I’m a man and been posting here for many years, I never once felt my heterosexuality as a Male was under any sort of assault by any feminist. Ever.

Pertella · 07/07/2020 11:46

I favour a birkenstock in more clement weather myself.

Crocs just look sweaty.

HeistSociety · 07/07/2020 11:37

I hope I don't dream about Bowie in Crocs. Or those rubber feet things. I'm quite scared to go to bed!

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 11:34

Those shoes would give me nightmares, I'd be lying in bed all "the horrible rubber toes are coming to get me".

DancelikeEmmaGoldman · 07/07/2020 11:32

Can you get crocs on Amazon? My son says more likely Caimans.

🐊

LillianBland · 07/07/2020 11:22

@ScrimpshawTheSecond

Can you get crocs on Amazon? My son says more likely Caimans.

Ta-boom-tish

I had to look up Caimans. 😳

But once I got it, I chuckled. 😁

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 07/07/2020 11:20

Can you get crocs on Amazon? My son says more likely Caimans.

Ta-boom-tish

DancelikeEmmaGoldman · 07/07/2020 11:16

I would only run if someone was chasing me, but there is a terrific book about running by Christopher McDougall called Born to Run. It’s about a tribe of ultramarathoners in South America and it is fascinating. They run barefoot and nearly naked.

LillianBland · 07/07/2020 11:12

@TheProdigalKittensReturn

There is something a bit David Lynch film about them, isn't there? Like some sort of mutant combination of that and the original Planet Of The Apes costume department.
They look even creepier in real life.
TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 11:02

There is something a bit David Lynch film about them, isn't there? Like some sort of mutant combination of that and the original Planet Of The Apes costume department.

LillianBland · 07/07/2020 11:00

My middle ‘child’ runs and wants to try barefoot running shoes. They make my stomach churn and I’ve warned him to keep them in his room. shudder

Showing that feminists don't all hate heterosexual male sexuality
TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 10:58

Nope nope nope

HeistSociety · 07/07/2020 10:57

@TheProdigalKittensReturn

On the barefoot running thing, if you live in the middle of nowhere maybe, but in a city I just think broken glass, discarded needles, general rubbish, dog poo...don't care how good it would be for me in theory, I'm not putting my bare feet anywhere near that.
The reporter tried it in Delhi! Madness.
HeistSociety · 07/07/2020 10:56

@TheProdigalKittensReturn

Terven Footwear: How the Humble Croc Became a Signifier of Heteronormative Oppression.

One of my personal favorite androgynous males is so attached to his red Crocs that you'd have to pull them from his cold dead fingers, or possibly toes, funnily enough. It's one of the few things about him fashion wise that makes me go "babe, really?"

Haha!
TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 10:55

Terven Footwear: How the Humble Croc Became a Signifier of Heteronormative Oppression.

One of my personal favorite androgynous males is so attached to his red Crocs that you'd have to pull them from his cold dead fingers, or possibly toes, funnily enough. It's one of the few things about him fashion wise that makes me go "babe, really?"

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 10:52

On the barefoot running thing, if you live in the middle of nowhere maybe, but in a city I just think broken glass, discarded needles, general rubbish, dog poo...don't care how good it would be for me in theory, I'm not putting my bare feet anywhere near that.

HeistSociety · 07/07/2020 10:51

@TheProdigalKittensReturn

There seem to be rather a lot of us who like androgyny when it's not coupled with delusions of gender and intrusion into women's spaces. I feel like there's a useful life lesson in there somewhere for heterosexual males, which brings us right back around to the original thread topic again.
Maybe I should have thusly advised the poor OP.
HeistSociety · 07/07/2020 10:50

Terven Footwear: How the Humble Croc Became a Signifier of Heteronormative Oppression.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/07/2020 10:50

There seem to be rather a lot of us who like androgyny when it's not coupled with delusions of gender and intrusion into women's spaces. I feel like there's a useful life lesson in there somewhere for heterosexual males, which brings us right back around to the original thread topic again.