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Why the Feminism board wasn't banned by Mumsnet

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Kennebec · 02/07/2020 07:04

Because, despite Reddit's best efforts, there are still many people believe that women have a right to discuss issues that affect them. Women will continue speaking.

But, hey, GenderCynical - I hear you still have r/abusedsluts with which to console yourselves.

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bitofasleuth · 02/07/2020 19:29

@GreytExpectations Yes I agree, that was what was behind the point I was making really.

I don't much care for anyone telling me how to think or what opinions I should have, to be honest.

Reddit is not somewhere I'm inclined to venture, so I keep out of all that side of it. I like my blood pressure to remain stable Grin

GreytExpectations · 02/07/2020 18:34

*I don't think men or transwomen (or anyone else) should tell biological women what opinions they can and can't have.

We are not all of one hive mind anyway.*

It works both ways. Nobody should tell anyone else what opinions to have. The reason I mentioned women was because of women on here saying women on the reddit pages shouldn't have the opinions they have (and yes there are women and men on that subreddit). 2 women are allowed to have different opinions on feminist issues.

bitofasleuth · 02/07/2020 17:54

@GreytExpectations

I don't think women should tell other women what opinions they can and can't have. So what if people on reddit don't agree with this forum? That's the nature of the Internet, we don't have to like everything on it. So just crack on with your own discussions and let those who don't agree have their own discussions
I don't think men or transwomen (or anyone else) should tell biological women what opinions they can and can't have.

We are not all of one hive mind anyway.

Thinkingabout1t · 02/07/2020 17:36

she hinted at the role that the sexual satisfaction some men take in mistreating women may have played in all of this. It's not polite and womanly and accepting to notice that bit.

Nail hit on head.

Shedbuilder · 02/07/2020 16:55

I’m just boggled by the efficacy of standing on the roof flipping people the bird. It’s a bit ‘come on over ‘ere, I’ll ‘ave ya!’
It’s more of a tactical concern than tone policing

This is what I meant when I said I didn't like the tone but agreed with the sentiment. Personally I'm trying to channel Michelle Obama and rise above, though not always succeeding.

DuDuDuLangaLangaBingBong · 02/07/2020 16:07

@madwoman1ntheattic

I don’t have a problem with righteous anger. I’m just boggled by the efficacy of standing on the roof flipping people the bird. It’s a bit ‘come on over ‘ere, I’ll ‘ave ya!’ It’s more of a tactical concern than tone policing. 🤷‍♀️
Ha. Yes.

Sit down and finish your beer/gin/ProseccoOP, save the fighting for another time.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/07/2020 14:40

See all OP's posts feature Ah! That equally weird thing! And we don't even have to pay for it!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/07/2020 14:39

How bizarre. Not just me then? It has been a weird afternoon for posts winking in and out of existance!

madwoman1ntheattic · 02/07/2020 14:33

I don’t have a problem with righteous anger. I’m just boggled by the efficacy of standing on the roof flipping people the bird. It’s a bit ‘come on over ‘ere, I’ll ‘ave ya!’
It’s more of a tactical concern than tone policing. 🤷‍♀️

Roseburn · 02/07/2020 14:23

Something's gone a bit awry. My TIO says there should be 2 posts after kittens' post at 13:03, h but they're not here.

I'm having similar problems

it seems to be the threads with the new See all OP's posts feature

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/07/2020 13:10

You're only allowed to be goady if you have a penis.

Would seem so.

GreytExpectations · 02/07/2020 13:10

I'd really like to know what this reddit thread is. The OP hasn't really given much context or information

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 02/07/2020 13:03

I think it's because she hinted at the role that the sexual satisfaction some men take in mistreating women may have played in all of this. It's not polite and womanly and accepting to notice that bit.

RufustheRowlingReindeer · 02/07/2020 13:01

I'm not exactly sure what the issue is that people are seeing with the OPs 'tone' ...especially if you do a comparison with another current thread re reddit

Its honestly gob smacking...im 😲

GreytExpectations · 02/07/2020 12:56

...especially if you do a comparison with another current thread re reddit.

No idea what this thread is and if someone is going to post a complaining thread in here about it, it'd be nice they provided a link so some of us could actually figure out what the hell people are talking about

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/07/2020 12:55

If OP can critise other people's opinions then people can critise her tone. My bad! Didn't check the poster's name!!!!

GreytExpectations · 02/07/2020 12:54

...and then pretty much does exactly that?hmm

Not doing that at all actually. But nice try. You really can't tell the difference between a tone and an opinion?

RoyalCorgi · 02/07/2020 12:53

I don't understand why people are attacking the OP.

Why hasn't MN closed down Feminism Chat? There's no good reason for them to - this is just women discussing issues that affect us. If you believe in free speech, then why would you close down the feminism board?

If you were to look at it from a purely commercial point of view, then you've got two countervailing pressures: one is that some advertisers have withdrawn advertising because of the supposed "transphobia" on this board; the other is that this board draws in huge numbers of users, probably more than AIBU and chat.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 02/07/2020 12:48

You're only allowed to be goady if you have a penis.

ErrolTheDragon · 02/07/2020 12:44

I don't think women should tell other women what opinions they can and can't have.

...and then pretty much does exactly that?Hmm

I'm not exactly sure what the issue is that people are seeing with the OPs 'tone' ...especially if you do a comparison with another current thread re reddit.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 02/07/2020 12:35

FFS women ! Bloody phone.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 02/07/2020 12:34

Aw, the men don't like when talking, women know your place. Hmm pricks.

GreytExpectations · 02/07/2020 12:32

If OP can critise other people's opinions then people can critise her tone. It's a two way street, if you are going to attack an entire online community because you don't agree with them than you can't get anoyed when people point that out