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Why r/GenderCritical was banned by Reddit

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MadBadDaddy · 29/06/2020 23:38

Hi! TRA here! Thought I'd take a quick breather from all the crowing, high-fiving, etc. to throw a lifeline to any actual open-minded critical thinkers wondering why Reddit banned r/gendercritical. Basically, you have 2 options when it comes to what to believe:

  1. It's a true conspiracy: silicon valley, hollywood & the media are in the thrall of the well-funded TransAgenda, the need for woke points, child-groomers, women-haters, MRAs, etc. etc.
  1. r/GenderCritical was hateful - if you want evidence then go to r/GenderCynical which existed to harvest said hatefulness. Read their strictly enforced rules about hate speech, misogyny, anti-feminism, pile-ons, doxxing, etc. (NB: abbreviating "trans exclusionary radical feminist" is not considered hate speech on this subreddit) and then sort their posts by "top" and "all time" and judge for yourself.

The trans men, trans women and non-binary people of Reddit do not hate women and do not tolerate abuse. Have a better day. x

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MadBadDaddy · 02/07/2020 01:35

WeeBisom

Thanks for your thoughts
If I'd posted anything on r/GC I would have been insta-banned just by virtue of the other subs I belong to, never mind anything I'm likely to have said.

I agree our perception-gap is a real problem. The idea that a male could have an experience of himself as a female is something completely alien to many women - how could that be true? I totally get that. It was just as alien and incredible to me when I first had that same idea as a 6 year old.

I wrote a lot more than that but scrapped it as it isn't really on-topic. Another time maybe.

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DeRigueurMortis · 02/07/2020 01:25

Maybe some do, who knows but bit much to claim as fact they're out to demote us all as women

People who support a TWAW ideology are absolutely "out" to "demote" women.

Look at the language.

The term "cis" has been deliberately coined and utilised in this debate to demote women to a sub category of their own sex.

It's a linguistic attempt to redefine the meaning of the word "woman" into a mailable concept as a route to render it meaningless as far describing an adult human female and the unique experience of womanhood.

In that sense I'd go further than the word "demote" and use the word "redundant" in terms of intent.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/07/2020 01:14

Proponents of the TWAW gender identity ideology, lemonade. Not all trans people. Read the post I was referring to.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 02/07/2020 01:06

YY. They want to demote us to a third class

"They?"
I'm pretty sure "they" all don't, sounds a bit of a sweeping generalisation?
Maybe some do, who knows but bit much to claim as fact they're out to demote us all as women

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/07/2020 00:57

The TWAW mantra and associated ideology is oppressive and misogynistic in its desire not only re-cast womanhood as a "concept" but also appropriate the experiences of being a biological female whilst simultaneously denigrating us as a demographic when we say we object to this

YY. They want to demote us to a third class.

Men

transwomen and other biologically male trans people

women and biologically female trans people

DeRigueurMortis · 02/07/2020 00:51

Women seem to be the only group who aren't allowed to police the boundaries of their own identity.

I'd edit that to revise the word "seem" with "are".

The TWAW mantra and associated ideology is oppressive and misogynistic in its desire not only re-cast womanhood as a "concept" but also appropriate the experiences of being a biological female whilst simultaneously denigrating us as a demographic when we say we object to this.

WeeBisom · 02/07/2020 00:18

@LemonadeAndDaisyChains

It's strange to me that the only category that you can identify into is 'sex/gender'. This enables the oppressors of women, men, to claim a female identity for themselves and to frame women as the oppressors (which is very convenient if you want to, say, destroy the women's liberation movement.) White people cannot declare themselves to be 'trans black'. It would be absurd to see a white person take over Black Lives Matter and claim to be more oppressed than 'cis black people'. And it's the same for literally every other socially constructed category in existence. I can't just self identity as disabled, or as a child, or as a different nationality.

It's even more galling given that we are told that identity is all about how someone 'feels' inside. Well, if I feel like a six year old child (a feeling that I have actually experienced!) why can't I self identify as a six year old? But all of a sudden it turns out that my feelings aren't so valid at all. Reality takes precedence. If I claim to be a child I'm a liar or a fraud. Women seem to be the only group who aren't allowed to police the boundaries of their own identity.

ErrolTheDragon · 02/07/2020 00:17

And isn't it suspicious , or strange, that 'transness' as a phenomenon only occurs in the domain of sex

I don't think so - it's because sex is the one true immutable binary characteristic of humans.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 02/07/2020 00:11

And isn't it suspicious , or strange, that 'transness' as a phenomenon only occurs in the domain of sex
curious as to how that's suspicious or strange?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/07/2020 00:11

This is just to say that from a female point of view this isn't mere 'theory' to us either.

Indeed.

WeeBisom · 02/07/2020 00:04

@MadBadDaddy
But Gender Critical wasn't a debate sub, nor did it allow feminism 101 discussions. If you popped onto Gender Critical crowing about your victory over the evil transphobes then yeah, you would have presumably been booted off for trolling. Brigading was never endorsed, and posters were banned if they brigaded. With regard to the gulf between our perceptions - this is a real problem. Women have the lifelong experience of being females in a deeply patriarchal society. The idea that a male could have an experience of himself as a female is something completely alien to many women - how could that be true? And how offensive for one of our oppressors to say that not only is he one of us, but he is actually the most oppressed! And isn't it suspicious , or strange, that 'transness' as a phenomenon only occurs in the domain of sex - there is no such thing as trans age, or trans race, or trans class? This is just to say that from a female point of view this isn't mere 'theory' to us either.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 01/07/2020 23:53

The fact that this discussion is even taking place is the main difference between MN & r/GC

Very true, and that's one good thing MN has going for it, it allows discussion (even though posters themselves in FWR sometimes don't seem to want a discussion or try to hound you off if you speak up with a different opinion)
As in if you stay around, answer repeated questions at you, you're merailing, or ooo recipes, who knows about weetabix?! or if you go away like asked you apparently can't hack it and you've gone to do your knitting or bake a cake instead Confused Hmm
WTF make your mind up lol

MadBadDaddy · 01/07/2020 23:45

@WeeBisom

Having been a regular of Gender Critical for many years, I think the sub was about as hateful as Mumsnet- which is to say it wasn't.I can see why someone wouldn't like it if they had a different theory about gender.
The fact that this discussion is even taking place is the main difference between MN & r/GC. I've made several comments about why I think one is hateful and the other isn't. I also think the mods make a huge difference.

And there was also a problem with r/GC users "brigading" other subs which I've yet to see on MN/FWR. That was pretty actively hateful

And just to illustrate the gulf between our perceptions - what you describe as a "theory about gender" is what I'd describe as 'my lifelong experience of myself'

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Zinco · 01/07/2020 23:36

"However, I still don't think it was a wrong move on Reddit's part. "whataboutery" doesn't justify any hateful behaviour."

Haven't read the whole thread, so perhaps you have addressed this elsewhere but...

What do you consider to be "hateful behaviour"?

Is it "hateful behaviour" merely to deny that TWAW? Or to say that they should be excluded from women's sports? Or that they should be excluded from certain women-only areas or facilities?

Is it "hateful" to voice the opinion that they are suffering from a mental illness, rather than them actually being women/men as they identify?

Generally speaking, I would say political discourse should allow for a fair amount of supposed "hate", because of course accusations of "hate" are somewhat subjective. Different sides can accuse each other of being hateful, while defending their own use of rhetoric. You don't want accusations of hate to easily shut down political debate. You can accuse abortionists of being "murderers" right? Is that hateful? From one perspective sure it may look like hateful rhetoric. From another perspective it's just an accurate statement of the immorality of what they are doing.

Of course you can distinguish threats of violence, harassment, and personal abuse, from political rhetoric. But in political rhetoric, supposed "hate" needs to be protected to a high degree, or it's the end of free speech.

postingintotheabyss · 01/07/2020 23:14

You're right, no-ones ever asked me suck anything online. I have mixed feelings on that.

MadBadDaddy, was this a joke? If so, can you not see how utterly inappropriate it is?

RufustheRowlingReindeer · 01/07/2020 22:56

Especially when you see so many passionate women doing so much on these threads and in real life

RufustheRowlingReindeer · 01/07/2020 22:55

So, ashamed as I am to say it, I wimp out. I try to keep my own little corner free of weeds as I've described above, I'll sign a petition or upvote a post, but I guess that's all

I know what you mean

Sometimes I don’t even sign the petition

It’s shameful really

WeeBisom · 01/07/2020 22:53

Having been a regular of Gender Critical for many years, I think the sub was about as hateful as Mumsnet- which is to say it wasn't.I can see why someone wouldn't like it if they had a different theory about gender.

MadBadDaddy · 01/07/2020 22:52

@picklemewalnuts

Why aren't you campaigning and organising for the rape and violence threads to be taken down? As you are so against people saying hateful things? Don't you think they are hateful?
It's a fair comment and I suppose the only honest answer is that I only act in furtherance of my own direct self-interest and my own little world. I of course knew the 'darker' side of Reddit existed but never went there. There was a time when the larger 'edgy' subs like r/watchpeopledie and r/TheDonald would make it to the front page and I never felt like going there either. From what I understand it used to be a lot worse.

Having looked into it a little earlier on (see above) I could see a can of worms that I simply don't think I've got the stomach to sift through. Is a horrible sub sincere or ironic? Hateful or edgy? Is it describing real people/events or fantasies/kinks? Also it is an American site where 'free speech' is almost an article of faith. I've read the words of some of those that do campaign and challenge the hypocrisies at a systemic level and they have my admiration and respect.

So, ashamed as I am to say it, I wimp out. I try to keep my own little corner free of weeds as I've described above, I'll sign a petition or upvote a post, but I guess that's all. I'm a single-issue SJW

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MadBadDaddy · 01/07/2020 22:23

PacificState & others

Thank you for your understanding comments

the maintenance of the rape subs is grotesque and deeply revealing of their misogyny.

Having just googled around "reddit rape subs" and "Reddit misogyny" you'll get no argument from me. I just wish I hadn't just eaten a big meal. I can see how any woman would feel unfairly targeted if all they had to go on was the headline of "Reddit bans r/GC"

I personally never reported or campaigned for their removal but evidently many people did and maybe it was a case of the squeaky wheel getting the oil.

However, I still don't think it was a wrong move on Reddit's part. "whataboutery" doesn't justify any hateful behaviour.

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picklemewalnuts · 01/07/2020 22:16

Why aren't you campaigning and organising for the rape and violence threads to be taken down? As you are so against people saying hateful things? Don't you think they are hateful?

Kettlingur · 01/07/2020 21:30

You're right, no-ones ever asked me suck anything online. I have mixed feelings on that.

....uh okay. Confused

PacificState · 01/07/2020 21:15

@madbaddaddy Thanks for the reply and for confirming your stance on the rape subs. I hope you'll see that Mumsnet is a platform containing multiple points of view, just as Reddit is.

I don't think you or trans people and their supporters in general are responsible for 'suck my dick' stuff or 'cotton ceiling' stuff and I know many trans people deplore that stuff too. For the most part, women and trans people are terrified of violent men - it's something we have in common and something (in my opinion) we should work together on.

I will forever think that Reddit HQ fucked up here though, and that the maintenance of the rape subs is grotesque and deeply revealing of their misogyny.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 01/07/2020 20:46

Why is it a case of "silencing women"
Surely if there's hateful shit being posted it doesn't matter a toss what sex you are