I know dads have their narratice also, but I'm interested in mums.
I have very little to do with mine for various reasons but when I do I'm struck by how disparaging she can be sometimes especially about older women and when she will be. For example, she'll talk about 'when I'm an old crow', 'When I'm a bat', 'I'm not a doddery old mare just yet'.
Because when I see her it is very brief and there are loooong gaps in between I don't generally try to explore this with her; time is short so I don't like to put her on the spot (about that or some of the other things she says). But it is strange and sad.
What's your mum like, positive? Encouraging? Fair? Down-beat? Sneering?