Please help me with text to DIL

pretty odd thing to text her tbh.

Weird

I'm a massive harry potter fan and a feminist but I dont agree with JKR point of view on transgender individuals. My point of view is womens right and LGBTQ rights are not mutually exclusive.
Being a fan of someoneliteraturedoesnt meanyou agree with everything that person does or says.
Back off and leave her alone especially if you have butted heads with your son over this in the past.

It's never a good idea to start such a politically-charged conversation with in-laws, even if you get on with them. That's especially the case via text or email, which have a nasty habit of becoming misconstrued.

I agree completely with your position, BTW.

This may not go how you want it to go so back off if there’s any hint that she doesn’t see your viewpoint.
Just agree to disagree and respect each other’s views and leave it.

Maybe just send A link to the essay? I doubt you could put it better than she did...

@LaureBerthaud because OP knows they disagree and the text out of the blue was just an attempt to stir sh*t for no reason?

Yes, and you could make it a bit lighter and add something like: 'I'm going to have to watch the series/read the books now, aren't I!' - (If you haven't already)

I think her 'why?' is not the most forthcoming of responses.

Can't wait to see a thread about a nightmare MIL who's trying to start a fight with her son through DIL about JKR first thing in the morning

Oh come on - how can she possibly not know?

Because loads of people don't follow the news or live on Facebook/ twitter. Or maybe they saw a story out of the side of their eye but haven't actually read it. DH reads the news all day long but hadn't clicked on the story as he doesn't tend to click on 'sleb' stuff (other than to shout "Who even if is this person" occasionally in my general direction.

Truthfully, news gets missed all the time particularly in the middle of a pandemic and BLM. I can name 10 different stories around the subject at least but that's because I read feminist twitter people and MN.

If the "why" was meant to be confrontational she did a crap job of it. If a celeb had posted an essay that felt was sexist or racist and my mil texted me to let me know they were happy about it, I'd have more than "why" as a response.

But people are often happy living under rocks. Whole rafts of people could not care less about this issue either way. It's not your job to impose your views on your son or daughter in law.

I would be proper annoyed to get anything like that from my MIL

Why? Are women not allowed to have conversations (albeit by text), share ideas just because they are only related by marriage? I'd bloody love to chat about this with my MIL!

Yes I’d leave it too. This has all the chances of developing into a horrible situation & causing a rift with your DS & DIL

If she supported JKR she would have replied positively, she didn’t. Leave it

Why would you send this message in the first place?! I would be proper annoyed to get anything like that from my MIL.

I feel pretty sure that if your Ds knows about Trans rights etc, then his wife certainly does. And almost certainly agrees.

And your Ds has probably rolled his eyes and decried you as a TERF to his wife, with ‘it’s generational’ and a sigh.

Her ‘why’ is fully confrontational.

Have a conversation with her for its own sake, using her to get at your Ds is not on.

Leave it, or just reply ‘ to have left an abusive marriage and made a life for herself writing’.

I don't think the OP can leave it entirely alone or it would be really weird if her dil genuinely doesn't know what the hell is happening

Oh come on - how can she possibly not know?

Don't do it - don't reply. Anybody in the UK who hasn't lived under a rock will know what this is about.

I don't think the OP can leave it entirely alone or it would be really weird if her dil genuinely doesn't know what the hell is happening.

Just say "Oh I really enjoyed the essay she wrote and thought it was a good way of addressing some concerns she had" and then possibly link it. But don't get into it with her it's not her job to deal with your woke son.

This is definitely not a conversation to have over text! The HP mega fan in my life now hates JKR rather than get into a massive FB row we’ve agreed to disagree

why would you text your daughter in law that, do you think she wants to be lectured by you so that you can make a point to your son?

Why are you volunteering your views to your DIL? The first way to cause unnecessary tension it is not you're role as a mil to project your views or try to change those of your adult sons. I would imagine your DIL shares similar views to your son. you sound like a nightmare mil tbh

Your daughter-in-law will presumably know exactly what has been happening re JKR. The one word reply "why" shows she does not share your opinion of JKR.

I'd drop it now.