Please help me with text to DIL

I'm a bio-medical scientist and a woman can be born with a penis.. ok what's your biomedical description of a 'woman'?

So my DIL answered. “I know, I love her”

I love a happy ending! Glad you had the courage to discuss this with her.

I had a similar experience with a friend. I was terrified to let her know my GC views. It turns out she has stronger views than I and the willingness to put her job on the line for them!

I would love it if my MIL texted me about controversial topics, even if we fundamentally disagreed. I love a good debate, and under the circumstances it's hardly like we can go to the pub to chat about it.

For those who have questioned my point of view. I think that the sex you are born does not define your gender and so yes a woman can be born with a penis.
I am aware that this is not a popular view on this board so I am not trying to change anyone mind simply stating what I believe.

The point I was making is that being a fan of someone doesnt necessarily mean that you agree with everything they do or say.

I also think an adult child doesn't necessarily have to agree with their parents point of view. My mother is an anti vaxer and I'm a biomedical scientist. To say we disagree would be an understatement and we have had screaming matches about it. We just dont discuss the topic as we are both fully aware of the others point of view and rehashing an argument untill the other agrees would gain nothing and place a strain on our relationship. In this case if my mother text my partner about this in a sideways attempt to change my point of view I would call her out and it would result in an argument.

I'm glad that didnt happen here and this didnt put any strain on your relationship with your son.

Bloody hell, I wouldn't touch that with a barge pole!

@Smellbellina really... you think that randomly texting forcing your opinions to on your family is the what any good feminist should do ???

Oh fantastic! What a great outcome!

Why do people have such conversations via text message?
Or any conversations for that matter?

You need to let your son have his own opinions.

It was your hidden agenda that was the issue.

Have a conversation with your DIL but be direct. Don’t passively aggressively use your DIL’s interest in HP to argue with your Ds.

Well thats a relief strange

You only need to get your woke person to give one line of JKR's that he or she disagrees with.

Please let us know which line is chosen.

FWIW I don't think you will be even getting a reply as, well, you know..

She might not know much about, I don’t. I’m busy working from home and home schooling, I know the rough details but I’ve not read a news article or the essay nor did I know that she had responded further.

I'm a massive harry potter fan and a feminist but I dont agree with JKR point of view on transgender individuals

Which part/s of her point of view?

'J.K. Rowling Writes about Her Reasons for Speaking out on Sex and Gender Issues'

(extract)
"If you could come inside my head and understand what I feel when I read about a trans woman dying at the hands of a violent man, you’d find solidarity and kinship. I have a visceral sense of the terror in which those trans women will have spent their last seconds on earth, because I too have known moments of blind fear when I realised that the only thing keeping me alive was the shaky self-restraint of my attacker.

I believe the majority of trans-identified people not only pose zero threat to others, but are vulnerable for all the reasons I’ve outlined. Trans people need and deserve protection. Like women, they’re most likely to be killed by sexual partners. Trans women who work in the sex industry, particularly trans women of colour, are at particular risk. Like every other domestic abuse and sexual assault survivor I know, I feel nothing but empathy and solidarity with trans women who’ve been abused by men.

So I want trans women to be safe. At the same time, I do not want to make natal girls and women less safe." (continues)

www.jkrowling.com/opinions/j-k-rowling-writes-about-her-reasons-for-speaking-out-on-sex-and-gender-issues/

Why would be an odd word to use as a brush off as it is essentially a question.

My son has previously bitten my head off when I mention the rights of women and the rights of trans women. I’ve only spoken gently about it, but he’s soooo woke it’s a definite conversation stopper.

I think the bigger issue is the description of a man biting his mother's head off & preventing her raising concerns about women's rights & children's Safeguarding.

Weird responses on this thread.

Why shouldn’t a MIL text her DIL about this topic again

Am I on the right board? Feminism...I encourage any woman to discuss her thoughts about this, with anyone, even MIL’s.

If the DIL isn’t interested she doesn’t need to engage any further.

I agree that it's strange that you have started this when she hasn't even said anything about JKR?

I'm a massive harry potter fan and a feminist but I dont agree with JKR point of view on transgender individuals. My point of view is womens right and LGBTQ rights are not mutually exclusive.

So if we have a situation where a woman who has been sexually assaulted and is in a refuge does not want to share that refuge with someone with a penis, but the person with a penis thinks they should be allowed in that refuge because they identify as a woman, should the woman just deal with it because of the way the man feels and identifies?

Sorry to derail but I don't understand how you can't see a clash here? Especially if you are a feminist and therefore presumably care about women and girls?

If the "why" was meant to be confrontational she did a crap job of it. If a celeb had posted an essay that felt was sexist or racist and my mil texted me to let me know they were happy about it, I'd have more than "why" as a response

The OP describes her son as very woke. There is no way her daughter-in-law won't know what is going on. The one word reply is quite clearly a brush off.

Eh? I don't get it. Why do you feel the need to say anything at all?

You can’t not answer, but i agree that you need to be very careful

I told ds1 partner about it because he had no idea, ds1 did

I wouldnt have imposed my views on others like that. My fil is like that, he argues with you until you agree. We now avoid him as much as possible.

Wherever you stand on this issue, I’m not sure what reason there could be to actively go and antagonise someone into debating this with you, when they have expressed no interest in doing so.

Is there some back story as explanation? Are they trans-ing your grandchild? Are they in politics? Or do you just like to provoke conflict in your relationship with them?