Why are the trans community blaming women for the actions of men?

Funny how they acknowledge biology when looking for someone to blame. We don’t play ball.

A few random thoughts.

Some people do seem to be under the illusion that coming out with an unwelcome opinion/statement of facts is just as bad as physical violence. Obviously emotional abuse using words can be just as damaging, if not more so, than physical abuse, but dialogue and debate is not emotional abuse. Resilience and critical thinking are sadly lacking amongst some of the young people parrotting TWAW, TMAM, NBPAV!

Then there's the astonishing level of sexism that still underpins a lot of people's thinking. Women are not expected to be assertive and ask for anything for ourselves, especially as we get older and if we are mothers. Our role is to look after others and put ourselves and our needs last. Anything else is treated as selfishness, even when it's blindingly obvious that a man making the same statements/demands would be treated as entirely reasonable. A woman saying no is a threat.

(As an aside, I believe research has shown that when a woman is convicted of a crime her sentence is often harsher than the average given to a male convicted of the same offence. This would appear to be because as well as the lawbreaking the woman has also transgressed against what's expected of women, viz, be kind and put yourself and your needs last, not first. Obviously I'm not condoning crime in any way, but it's interesting that there seems to a kind of weary acceptance of male pattern violence and other criminal behaviours, and far more surprise and outrage if a woman behaves the same way.)

I'm in my late 50s. When I was in my 20s I thought feminism was irrelevant to my life because all the battles had been won. Ha ha ha! That's another factor here, though. I genuinely think some younger women (and a few of the men) have no idea how much female biology will impact on women's lives and careers. See attached cartoon.

*according to them - "them" being all the people who verbally abuse plus those who are complicit by not calling the abuse out.

I think that for some of them there's an active drive of hatred of women.

But for the majority it's clear that they lack critical thinking skills. They also want to feel good about themselves. They are told X is the cause of the problem and with NO QUESTIONS jump on the band wagon and vent at X. And combined, I reckon that there are a LOT of people - both sexes - who have had a lot of access to hardcore (ie normal for today) porn and have very strange ideas about women. I don't mean sexual, simply the roles they are used to seeing women in.

So when women stand up, or are not in a submissive role, say they want a barriers and distinctions between them and men, and to exist without men in certain places, they deserve abuse. It doesn't even count as abuse to them, because it's deserved - hence why DR and EW etc haven't made a single comment about how the abuse should stop.

It's not abuse if it's deserved (according to them).

Like an abusers script...

And actually ... poor women 😔

Notyourhandmaid perfect post and excellent research! 'Collective narcissism' - makes awful sense. I agree it is deeply unsettling and yes vicious misogyny.

It’s almost as though they’re... acting with male aggression and entitlement? 🧐
yup.

Poor JKR. 🥺

I am wary of jargon, understandably, but I've found this useful:

collectivenarcissism.com/about-collective

"Collective narcissism is belief that the ingroup’s exceptionality is insufficiently appreciated by others (Golec de Zavala, Dyduch-Hazar, & Lantos, 2019). Collective narcissism is motivated by the investment of an undermined sense of self-importance into the belief in the ingroup’s entitlement to privilege. Collective narcissism lies in the heart of populist rhetoric. People endorsing the collective narcissistic belief are prone to biased perceptions of intergroup situations and to conspiratorial thinking. They retaliate to imagined provocations against the ingroup but often overlook real threats. They are prejudiced and hostile. Deficits in emotional regulation, hostile attribution bias, and vindictiveness seem to lie behind the robust link between collective narcissism and intergroup hostility." (emphasis mine)

The real threat: violent men who actually kill trans women, albeit at a rate that is not drastically different from how they kill 'cis' women because, shocker, these are not good guys.

The imagined threat: women who are broadly sympathetic but with some nuanced concerns, who are presented as wholly responsible for 'killing' trans people and threatened with violence.

It's a viciously misogynist movement, and to acknowledge this doesn't mean 'therefore I hate all trans people and want them to die', despite what the current woketalk would have anyone believe.

It’s almost as though they’re... acting with male aggression and entitlement? 🧐

Because subconsciously they know which team they're on. Because they hate women. Because women aren't threatening To them. Because it gives them a kick. Because women are meant to do what men say.

Because men are godly creatures to be admired by women since they can do no wrong.

Or something equally stupid.

Transactivism IS misogyny. By definition.

Women are a soft target. We’re supposed to move aside and let the men in, so they get angry when we say no. And it’s much safer threatening women, we’re not going to turn up at some TRAs house with a few burly mates.

I suspect also, that it’s resentment of the thing they can never be. We are women because we exist - the only way they can really validate themselves as women is by making the category of women disappear. Also, men hate women, any excuse to exercise aggressive misogyny.