As a lesbian, it doesn’t make sense. It seems like people- particularly on Twitter- have to do so much stretching and reaching to make their explanations fit in.
I am a lesbian because I like people with vaginas- women. This, to the masses, makes me a “genital fetishist”.
The woke definition is now, “any non-man attracted to a non-man.” But anyone can be a non-man if they ‘choose’ to be. Ie, a man- not even on oestrogen- can say “I’m a women” and all of a sudden they are part of the lesbian dating pool? By this logic, and self identification, labels such as lesbian literally have no meaning anymore. As anyone can be a ‘non-man’ or a ‘lesbian.’
I don’t know if it’s everything going on, but I’m feeling exhausted by all of it. I have no issue with trans people existing, I have trans friends. I use their pronouns, I try my best to respect them. My trans friends happily agree with me that this kind of language is ridiculous, yet slowly it is making it’s way into every area of my life that is LGBT.
It’s got me thinking- the LGB part can’t fit in with the trans narrative much longer surely? Maybe it once could, but you can’t keep rewriting labels and what ‘gay’ and ‘lesbian’ mean. Even with all the re-labelling, and over-explaining they don’t make sense. They clash so clearly already.
I’m just tired of “messing up” in LGBT spaces because I said something considered transphobic, my language wasn’t inclusive enough or I have to put up with being told I just have a “genital preference which is nothing to do with being actually a lesbian.”
Sorry if this has been covered already, I’m fairly new to this area and it’s one of the only places online I won’t get torn apart.