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Attractive men can’t be creepy or abusive, apparently

27 replies

Dyrne · 07/06/2020 11:01

Just come here to rant.

Someone shared a “cute” and “romantic” post on our neighbourhood fb page of a man trying to find a “girl” he met on a night out. Apparently they had a deep and meaningful connection but he somehow failed to get even her name, let alone her number. Hmm

Lots of posts of “OMG how romantic we HAVE to help him find her!!!”

A couple of posters recommended caution about sharing; as this is a tactic abusers use to find women who have escaped them; and others have pointed out that if the woman really felt such a deep and meaningful connection then she’d have given him her number, and maybe there’s a good reason she didn’t.

Cue cries of “how ridiculous!” And “if this was the other way round and a woman trying to find a man you wouldn’t be saying that!” (Um, ok, maybe when 2 men a week are killed by women the same caution will be recommended?)

The main thing is, the guy is extremely attractive - lovely black and white photo, tidy beard, cute smile. You just know if the bloke was short, fat, and balding there’d be cries of “creep!!”

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Fimofriend · 07/06/2020 12:25

that is ridiculous. It is just like those jerks who tell that we wouldn't mind if it was George Clooney doing the stalking. Yes, we would actually. For most women the survival instinct doesn't get disabled just because someone is good-looking

Deliriumoftheendless · 07/06/2020 11:32

Many women considered Ted Bundy to be quite the handsome man.