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"Don't kink shame me!"

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Lamahaha · 09/05/2020 07:38

I apologise if this article has been posted before -- it's a year old. But it has lots of delicious sound-bites.

www.spiked-online.com/2019/05/08/the-pervert-community-oh-please/?fbclid=IwAR0TTPSvyJvUNgbTjQIAhupaRvUXXtFgU56r566Zsa09kLbh7bOPU2ijDaw

"‘You’re not going out dressed like that!’, has become ‘You can’t say that!’ – and it’s all the more sinister coming from a younger generation rather than an older one, who could be excused for being cautious."

"Someone who likes dressing up in a gimp mask is not Rosa Parks, and I find the increasing lack of ability to differentiate between the two in some quarters highly risible at best and downright insulting at worst."

"Personally, I don’t think Pride needs to be family-friendly – it’s about the very adult desire to connect your genitalia to the genitalia of the same sex, which is pretty specific. But neither is it about kinks. Considering its origins, lesbians have far more right to be there than men who pretend to be dogs at weekends."

"I can’t help thinking that outrage is to this generation what sex was to mine."

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TheProdigalKittensReturn · 09/05/2020 14:59

Stonewall law is to actual law as the fast food that Famine came up with in Good Omens is to actual food.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 09/05/2020 14:56

She's a national treasure! It's the pleas for validation that confuse and annoy me too. Kinks aren't meant to be validated, that's supposed to be part of the fun of having them. Does anyone really want their mum and dad nodding approvingly as they earnestly describe what they get up to in bed? For the love of god, why?

Also not all kinks are created equal and some of them deserve a thorough shaming, while others might be fine in certain contexts but that context is never, ever at an event with children in attendance.

ScreamingBeans · 09/05/2020 14:35

I love her.

Also I think we need more kink shaming.

If you can only get off by dressing up in baby outfits or rubber puppy suits, your bedroom behavior is risible and I reserve the right to point and laugh when you proudly strut it in public.

Not wanting you to be arrested or sacked for your sexual proclivities does not mean they're not ridiculous, unhealthy or inadvisable. Now fuck off and find a bloody therapist or at least confine your pitiful behavior to your bedroom and your long suffering partner and stop demanding that the rest of us celebrate your absurdity with you.

rosiepony · 09/05/2020 14:01

Yes thanks. Julie Burchill is brilliant and we need more of her in mainstream media.

TinselAngel · 09/05/2020 13:53

I love this. Thanks for posting it.

JustTurtlesAllTheWayDown · 09/05/2020 09:04

Interesting article. This line stood out for me and summarises so much of the issue:
Don’t wear a crown that’s been paid for with the blood of others.
Burchill is talking about heterosexual people claiming to be 'genderqueer' there, but I've also been thinking a lot about the way the actual events of the Stonewall riots have been completely rewritten by trans activists.
There's so much about the trans movement that is toxic but claiming that they started the modern gay rights movement while shouting abuse and lying about the actions of the people who actually did is one of the lowest things I've ever seen.

OhHolyJesus · 09/05/2020 08:16

God I do love Julie.

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