Feminism and mothers of sons

I love my adult sons. They've been taught to treat people women well, to do their share at home, to respect the ability and right of women to do any job they chose, as demonstrated by their mother and father.

I also share their occasion frustrations at being painted with the same brush as less decent men.

If that makes me a poor feminist I'm sorry (not sorry).

What you're saying makes no sense. I am gender critical, I don't believe in self-ID and I have sons, what does the sex of our children have to do with what we can believe in the trans debate?

so sorry you're feeling so down DangerCat Im not a mother so cant comment on that but it's horrible losing friends and colleagues over the TRA issue. I do honestly think that the virus will change a lot of attitudes - people are going to be a lot less tolerant of the "meee me me meeee" and huffing about "literal violence" when someone doesnt use their preferred pronouns in a world where tends of thousands have died and millions more have less jobs/savings/their homes

I have a son and daughters. I love them all but I don't worship any of them. And I am simply trying to bring my son up to be a good and capable man. I think trying to raise our sons to be good and capable men is pretty feminist, isn't it?

I have two sons and they grew up with my feminist values. Boys brought up in a family with a SAHF and a career mum, as mine did, are unlikely to be sexist, plus my relationship with their DF was loving, respectful and equal.

Surely feminists will raise sons who see the world through a feminist lens? My own experience is that they may get peer pressure from boys with a very different perspective but that it has limited influence.

I’m just musing that because I’ve never had the experience of having a son and feeling that maternal love towards a male, I’m wasting my time being an activate feminist. It’s causing me a lot of greif and anger from other women.

Why would a feminist need to have a son to not be wasting her time?

I love my child. The fact he is a boy is irrelevant. And I don't worship him, he can be an obstinate little sod on occasion.

I am careful to teach him exactly the same as I would a girl. He knows very well that he has to pull his weight and that is gradually increasing as he gets older. I am determined to raise a kind, responsible and decent man.

Surely my actions work towards equality for all. Not against.

Perhaps you'd like to clarify what you mean. There's a lot going on in your OP and I don't know what to respond to.

Hi DangerCat01 and welcome to Mumsnet.

You are a lot braver than me as your posting history shows that you have literally been here for ten minutes and yet here you are starting off threads like an old hand.

I've been here over a year now and haven't dared start a thread!

Good for you!

In my experience it’s the mothers of daughters who are least feminist and more likely to propagate outdated stereotypes or get angry when the girls don’t live up to some kind of feminine ideal. The mothers of sons just get on with things and most of them have raised lovely boys / men.

Being a feminist doesn't mean loving men any less.

I have a son and daughters and am ensuring that they all understand what it is to be a feminist and why it is important.

And I definitely don't worship my children

I’m not sure what you’re asking.

Sorry, I'm not sure of your logic - why do boys being born to women mean feminism is impossible?
I find the concept of "worshipping" your children bizarre tbh!

I'm a mother to two boys and do not want anymore children. Are you suggesting that I shouldn't love my sons? By the way I love my boys a trillion times over 😀