Breastfeeding dad

The main point I take is that the mother is going to be gaslighting the child by saying that they are the child's father

It's interesting, isn't it? I knew nothing about queer theory and its pivotal role until the ever erudite Lang mentioned it. Then I read The Madness of Crowds and Murray's scathing assessment of Judith Butler, the 'academic' midwife of this bizarre doctrine. One recurrent theme is to demolish the relationship between words and external reality. This ideology has at its epicenter a determined attempt to fracture and dismember the way language functions. Instead of shared collective, coherent, rational links between biology at its most fundamental and language, there is deliberate deconstruction. It is not coincidental that so many of the battles are linguistic. It is intentional. A breastfeeding 'father,' pregnant 'people,' 'lesbians' with intact male genitalia. This is an Orwellian attack on language and the immutable external reality it describes.

So... any medication being taken and transferred to the baby? Do what you want to your own body, call you self space alien but don’t pump god knows what into a baby.

Does the breastfeeding individual have a GRC, I wonder??

Cos having a baby and breastfeeding that baby ain't anything like 'living as a man'.
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We actually haven’t been banned from saying double mastectomy or castration on these boards afaik. Let’s use honest words where we can.

The poor baby, thats no doubt a boy or a girl already

You mean, the baby that's been assigned a gender. I'm sure the, uh, father would want you to say that.

As 'top surgery' is a euphemism for double mastectomy

The use of these coy euphamisms is telling, why don't they have the confidence to say it like it is?

Saying something doesn't make it so. If this parent is the "dad", whose sperm was contributed and what is their role? Does the baby have two dads like the child of a male gay couple? Even those babies have birth mothers.

What a muddle! But of course the women are welcoming and supportive of another breastfeeding parent. Why on earth would this person be surprised at that? Do they think so little and so badly of women as that?

A child of that age will have no idea what's going on anyway. It's a good thing that those with XX chromosomes are supported when breastfeeding.

Cringe.

Least it’s better than that transwoman who pumped themselves with hormones so they could breastfeed

Female breasts doing what female breasts were designed to do. Hardly groundbreaking.

In other news water is wet.

Can one still breastfeed after top surgery?

As 'top surgery' is a euphemism for double mastectomy, then surely not.

They may have had breast reduction surgery, in which case they could still breastfeed.

Most likely they've had no surgery at all. And hopefully no hormones, for the baby's sake as well as their own.

very disappointing from la leche league

Very trusting of them.

Very trusting of them to trust doctors who are encouraging this medical experiment.

The child will be gaslighted into believing this fairy tale.
The family will pretend everything is perfectly ok.
Friends will ask awkward questions.

I could never do this to a child.

Never.

Because it's a cruel deception.

don’t know why the “breastfeeding dad” gets me so badly

because its pure and utter bullshit?

attention seeking twaddle?

"I don't think women normally see it as validating for them so much as feeding the child"

this says it all

Can one still breastfeed after top surgery?

Is this person on testosterone? I'd be worried be the answer was yes (wording carefully as ever). I hope this doesn't affect the newborn who will be receiving that in the breast milk.

I'm surprised to see breastfeeding and not "chestfeeding".
Why would you need or want your identity affirmed at a breastfeeding group?
That's expecting a lot of new mothers who could be there and struggling with bf or who use that time to get out of the house for a bit with a newborn.

It’s not surprising that the group has been welcoming. They’re women who have given birth, supporting another woman who has given birth.

I do wonder why this particular person feels the need to advertise and highlight how special and different they are from every other breastfeeding woman.

All of the other members of this La Leche group have breasts and are doing their very best to feed their baby.

All of them equally need support and affirmation at this time.

Wow there's no way I'd have had the mental capacity early days post birth to tread on egg shells around somebody in a BF group. I'd have probably had to quietly leave rather than face being told off for using the wrong words.

The main point I take is that the mother is going to be gaslighting the child by saying that they are the child's father.

Its a woman, breast feeding exactly like any other woman, but chooses to name themselves in a way that mentally suits them better. Whatever. You can say what you like and call yourself whatever you like that makes you happy, so long as you don't try and force it down everyone else's throat that reality really has shifted and now male people breast feed, and expect everyone else to agree and bend reality around you.

At that point, forced to the discourtesy, people are going to start pointing out facts and reality to you in one syllable.