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"I'm not my feelings"

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ahumanfemale · 20/02/2020 11:28

Came across this page in the book "Me and My Feelings" by Vanessa Green Allen.

It occurred to me that a clear way to undermine the trans and gender ideology heaped in kids is this. The example of reframing "I'm angry" to "I'm feeling angry" applied to gender is fabulous.

"I'm non-binary" to "I feel non-binary" is quite a marked change. Same with gender descriptors for sex, whether "matching" or different.

If kids are taught that their is a difference between feelings and who they actually are, then naturally there will be some critical thought re gender identities...

"I'm not my feelings"
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BoxOfBabyCheeses · 20/02/2020 12:56

This should definitely be taught in schools! Isn't it similar to a child acting naughty instead of being naughty?

Catting · 20/02/2020 12:28

This is an excellent way to frame it. And, once feeling have been removed, maybe a person is in a coma, what do we have left? Biology 🧬

womaninblue · 20/02/2020 12:26

It's a fairly basic tenet of some psychotherapies, learning that feelings are not you and that you can change the way you feel. You don't have to identify with feelings.

I haven't had much contact with schools for 15 years. Are children being taught they are their feelings? We didn't get to have feelings at school in my day, we only had behaviour!

CharlieParley · 20/02/2020 11:55

Excellent point. I shall remember this.

Aesopfable · 20/02/2020 11:33

You're not trying to apply logic and reason again are you? You know that is a transphobic hate incident. Actually it is probably 10000 hate incidents which makes it almost a hate crime.