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Line Manager just "come out" as Non-binary

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SpinningTooFastWantToGetOff · 07/02/2020 18:39

My line-manager emailed everyone in the office last week to say she was non-binary and we should use they/them pro-nouns.
Today I inadvertently called her she in an email to a colleague in another office, but line-manager was copied in, plus her line-manager. Are you keeping up? Confused
My line-manager responded to the email and added at the bottom a reminder about her pro-nouns.
I do not believe in the gender identity ideology and so object to being told to speak in an unnatural and incorrect way, but what I am incandescent about is being called out in front of 2 other colleagues.
Am I over reacting?

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NotTerfNorCis · 07/02/2020 18:59

It's a cult.

Trans... I can kind of understand. Person believes they're in the wrong body. Non-binary makes no sense at all. It's self-indulgent tripe.

DeeZastris · 07/02/2020 18:58

Just find out as gender fluid 🤷‍♀️ Confuse the shit out of everyone.

wellbehavedwomen · 07/02/2020 18:53

Meh, if it's what matters to them, then that's fair enough. It's not something I believe in either, but I look on it in a similar light to covering hair in certain religious buildings.

What winds me up is people being told to put their own pronouns as a footer. I mean, I'm not going to add, "Praise the Lord!" at the bottom of all my emails, either. Enforced belief is very different to respecting the beliefs of others.

This is why we so need Maya Forstater to win her appeal.

TheMemoryLingers · 07/02/2020 18:47

Am I right in thinking the two other colleagues were in the email chain to start with, and her reminder was appended to her response? If so, I don't think it was unreasonable for the other colleagues to be included.

I think people's preferred pronouns should be respected - but I think people who change their pronouns should allow for genuine mistakes at first, while others become used to their new identity.

NonnyMouse1337 · 07/02/2020 18:46

Sorry you have to be dealing with such self obsessed crap.

I'd be so tempted to be passive aggressive and use her name instead of pronouns wherever possible.

ReallyLilyReally · 07/02/2020 18:46

I mean, it doesnt cost you anything to respect their request. You can "not believe" whatever you wish, but the mature, respectful thing to do is to make the effort to treat your coworked (manager!!) with decency and sensitivity. That means respecting their pronouns.

Of course if you'd rather be a dick about it, that's your prerogative, but you'll probably end up wrangling with HR. Up to you.

BovaryX · 07/02/2020 18:42

This is compelled speech.

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