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Feel like I'm shouting into a void.

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HerRoyalFattyness · 27/01/2020 19:14

Or ended up in a parallel universe.

Trying to explain why self ID is an issue and I'm getting called a terf and told that my rape is my problem to deal with.

So basically, don't be scared of men, shut up and deal with it little woman.

Patriarchy at its finest. Yet I'm the one being told I'm not a feminist. Hmm

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GoosesGeeses · 27/01/2020 20:04

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this from ‘friends’ rather than just strangers on an Internet forum as is the usual way. I saw a tweet very recently - posted by a feminist site which I used to like - which said ‘your problem isn’t with trans women, it’s with predatory men, try and remember that’. And I felt totally belittled, patronised, and angry. My problem as a rape and multiple sexual assault survivor is with predatory men AND any women/trans women who are fighting to allow any men into my safe spaces, thank you very much. That includes - obviously - self ID. Guess my experiences and subsequent PTSD don’t matter.....

HerRoyalFattyness · 27/01/2020 19:56

I've unfriended and blocked. I'm guessing they now think they've won Hmm

Apparently me being raped is not important because it wasn't a transwoman that raped me.

When I explained it was a man... With a penis... So I would rather not have them in my safe spaces I was told I was disgusting and using my rape to justify transphobia.

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janeskettle · 27/01/2020 19:56

Unfortunately, you're seeing what's behind the mask of 'progress'.

Naked hatred of women.

I'm so sorry.

Your experience as a rape survivor matters.

ScrimshawTheSecond · 27/01/2020 19:54

I am so, so sorry. This is horrific.

Have you got some support, some people to talk to? There's us here, of course (though Relationshps or Chat might be a gentler board).

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OhHolyJesus · 27/01/2020 19:48

This sucks OP, I'm sorry, you shouldn't be silenced. Stand firm if you can. It's tough.

HumphreyCobblers · 27/01/2020 19:47

Jesus how dare they!

So sorry. They are no loss. Unfriend and mute them now. No point trying to win an argument with opinions like that, you have already found out they will say ANYTHING to try and win, no matter how hurtful and wrong

HerRoyalFattyness · 27/01/2020 19:43

Facebook of course.

But a real life friend (ex friend now!) And her sister and her friends piling on to call me all sorts of names and tell me my rape isn't important. Hmm

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StillWeRise · 27/01/2020 19:38

yes, that is the problem
on other issues I've been concerned with in the past, persuading public opinion has been a challenge, not so with this, turning the tide will mean people in power/with influence will have to publicly admit they were wrong, and I'm not sure how we achieve that

Binterested · 27/01/2020 19:32

In the real world people don’t know about this agenda and when they find out they are horrified. I mentioned it to a work contact last week - she knew nothing about it - and this week she’s emailing me news stories about Selina Todd. 100pc on the GC bus.

No one in the real world buys this crap. The real issue we have is regulatory capture.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 27/01/2020 19:20

I know. The world has gone batshit.

Was this real world or Twitter? My experience of real world is nobody knows about it and can't believe how dumb it all is. Mind you, I've not mentioned it in college or places like that that may be woke.

My brother is a woke bloke and shared that bloody stupid tweet from the fish studying academic saying sex isn't binary because fish or something. Have you seen that one? It isn't worth seeing.

HorseWithNoLangCleg · 27/01/2020 19:20

Usually it's Facebook or Twitters. Yeah?

Do what I do - just come here and not bother with those other places. You won't missem as much as you'd think.

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