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Feel like I'm shouting into a void.

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HerRoyalFattyness · 27/01/2020 19:14

Or ended up in a parallel universe.

Trying to explain why self ID is an issue and I'm getting called a terf and told that my rape is my problem to deal with.

So basically, don't be scared of men, shut up and deal with it little woman.

Patriarchy at its finest. Yet I'm the one being told I'm not a feminist. Hmm

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HerRoyalFattyness · 30/01/2020 14:34

made up statistics used to make people feel sorry for trans people.
Translate that to
Men come up with a load of bollocks to keep women oppressed

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wellbehavedwomen · 30/01/2020 14:01

@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz

That stat ... did I read correctly that it was based on 27 people? So a very thorough and far reaching study?

Not only that; it was based upon a self-selecting survey, with a prize draw as a carrot, with a warning that if you completed it more than once you wouldn't get two entries. No other protection against people doing just that, using different emails. And the vast bulk of the responses weren't from young trans people at all. Yet it's now used as a solid statistic in all manner of serious reports. A bit like the rape statistic, which conflates lesbians and transwomen and then says the statistical risk of lesbians is that of trans.

And we have around 600 suicides a year in the UK. It's a terrible loss in every case, but in a population of 62,000,000, I don't think that's an epidemic.

When people say 47% of trans people kill themselves, they have to believe that even if nobody who isn't trans ever does, there are still only 1200 trans people in the country. It's just stupidity writ large.

It's also a recognised fact that telling teenagers they are at additional risk of suicide increases their risk, whether originally true or not. How awfully responsible. GIDS stress that it's wholly untrue and they see the levels they'd expect given the other factors. They said it is harmful to the reslience of the children they see to make that claim, which they do not recognise as correct.

The bullshit spouted in support of these sweeping legal changes - changes that have huge impact on women's rights, freedoms and provision - is just extraordinary. If the case is so compelling, then why the need to lie?

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 29/01/2020 15:43

If anyone were to invite you to a gathering in a loo you'd probably steer clear TBF Grin Or actually still be age 9!

Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 14:50

yes, 9! And The Sun pitches it at 8!! Grin

HerRoyalFattyness · 29/01/2020 14:45

No the what the fuck was the average reading age of 9! That's shocking. We need to do more to address that.

I can't say I've ever had a gathering in a loo either.

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Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 14:15

I've never been to a public gathering in a loo yet. I've been at gatherings at venues that have a loo but never had a meeting in one.

NotTheLangCleg · 29/01/2020 14:08

"bathrooms are public gathering spaces" - gosh that former friend of your is the Brain of Britain, eh?

Parks are public gathering places. Bathrooms, surely, are places with private facilities in which to deal with human biological functions.

Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 13:54

Was that me being garbled? sorry - I was rather irritated!

So they check the language used on the NHS website so that it is easy to understand (so now uses words like pee and poo) as they are aiming at the reading age of a 9-year-old and trying to make it accessible to non-natiove English speakers.

Now, have the NHS been circulating items with euphemistic works for 'women' that even native speakers with an adult reading age find bloody confusing?

Average reading age of 9?? I can't believe that. I mentioned it to DH but he (smarty pants) knew that.

HerRoyalFattyness · 29/01/2020 13:40

What the fuck? ConfusedHmm

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Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 13:31

And another thing... I was listening to the radio yesterday (R4 Rosenthals show) and they were discussing the language used on the NHS website and how/why it is changed so that people understand what is being said.

Now please bear in mind that some NHS literature has been neglecting to use the word 'women' (as in 'uterus havers') and the woman yesterday had the cheek to say that since the average reading age in the UK is 9 (yes, 9 years old, not even Year 9) and some readers have English as a foreign language, they need to make language very simple.

Whaaaaat?

Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 13:26

My son is absolutely singing off the same hymn sheet, despite the best efforts of the school in allowing some of the more irritating people spouting nonsense being invited in to talk to the pupils. Protocol says that they aren't allowed to interrupt or heckle - I would have a stroke! The teacher in charge of booking the 'turns' must wonder why I give him daggars every time I see him.

Unless it's a strategy to allow speakers to give themselves enough rope...

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 29/01/2020 13:26

NotTerf
That stat ... did I read correctly that it was based on 27 people? So a very thorough and far reaching study? Confused

But yes OP, I'm sorry for that message. Well done for putting your head above the parapet though that takes lady balls Grin.---- At least you know who's a misogynist in your circle.

HerRoyalFattyness · 29/01/2020 13:21

It's amazing isn't it?
I'm so glad my family aren't "woke"
Even my brother, at 17 fully understands the issues around self ID and says drag is just another way for men to belittle women and reduce us to femininity when we are much more than that.

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Lordfrontpaw · 29/01/2020 13:13

People who are breaking their necks to be cool and 'inclusive' (shudder) arent thinking about real-life instances - only the highly emotive (dubious) stats on suicide, and 'isn't is terrible that these poor people...'

I have only come across 2 like this in real life. One is single and has no kids or nieces and tries very hard to be cool and Mr Laidback.

The other is an absolute 'Momentum' Corbyn lover - I usually avoid politics as I was brought up in a very old school labour (fairness for all) and don't recognise this lot - but I mentioned in passing when the gymnastics association stated that they would allow male children to change with females - and compete against the girls.

I wasn't making a point (as I haven't the strength) but it obviously clicked as he has a little girl and he is religious these days. He now gets that single-sex spaces are important and that some people - golly-gee-gosh - have bad intentions.

HerRoyalFattyness · 29/01/2020 12:38

Whoops... I think I may have caused a family rift!

Their mum just messaged me to apologise on behalf of her daughters and tell me she agrees with me

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lordchipmonk · 28/01/2020 22:56

That's disgusting. My heart goes out to you HerRoyalFattyness.

Jeez

LeDetroit · 28/01/2020 20:52

Solidarity, Royal!

It is indeed fucking shit.

HerRoyalFattyness · 28/01/2020 18:53

Of course I was meant to bold ashen not indeed then.

It's strange to think of my brother sharing with a young girl, but putting myself in that young girls shoes I can see how they'd be terrified of a six foot tall lumbering idiot waltzed into the bathroom. And he's a good lad! Never mind these who are actually up to no good.

Those poor children Sad
It makes me so sad and angry that these girls are suffering. These children are being put at risk. And for what? To make some men happy?
Fucking shit.

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HerRoyalFattyness · 28/01/2020 18:50

indeed
It is a worry.
My brother is 17 and in sixth form. I can't imagine him sharing a school bathroom with 11 year old girls.

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AshenQueen · 28/01/2020 18:48

Your son sounds lovely royal.

I had a similar experience in school and it's terrifying me that my DD will be in a bathroom with boys as old as 18.

I would hate for it to impact her in the way that she will start to not want to go to school when she has her period, but at the same time completely understand why she might feel that way.

HerRoyalFattyness · 28/01/2020 18:40

Ashen as I said, my 11 year old (year 6)
DS is very critical of this.

He completely understands why he needs privacy away from girls and why girls need privacy from boys.
He knows about periods and how they affect girls (I have horrendous ones) and his friend started her period when she was at our house. She panicked and i provided supplies.
She came out of the bathroom bright red, DS told her not to worry and walked her home. He understood that she was embarrassed and Just wanted a bit of privacy and space.

He is angry (after discussing with his teacher) that children are being told they're in the wrong body for not adhering to stereotypes.

I'm hopeful that if enough of us raise our children to question this, it will mean self ID is scrapped.

It's awful that schools are implementing mixed bathrooms and changing rooms.
Children need privacy from the opposite sex.
And I know all too well what teenage boys can be like.
I was literally pinned down by two boys while another put his hand up my skirt. (And I got suspended because I kicked him in the head)
Mixed facilities makes it easier for incidents like that to occur.

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AshenQueen · 28/01/2020 17:49

According to my ex friends, children wanting single sex spaces in school only feel that way because their parents are bigots.

It's really worrying and upsetting to think that young girls themselves could feel they are wrong for wanting single sex spaces because of adults imposing this type of accusation on them.

Before I ever discussed anything GC with my 12 year old, she told me the new layout for her school includes mixed bathrooms and changing rooms. She has many concerns about it, the main one being period related.

HerRoyalFattyness · 28/01/2020 17:45

🤷 apparently so.
I call bullshit of course.

As a teenage girl I'd have been mortified to have been getting changed in front of boys. It was bad enough doing it in front of other girls

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Lordfrontpaw · 28/01/2020 17:37

So as a child they would be absolutely cool changing/showering after PE with a teenage boy? Sleeping in the same girl guide tent? And they’d be happy for their little girls to change and compete with boys in gymnastics? Lose their place on sports teams? Miss out on sports scholarships?

Yeah, right they would.

HerRoyalFattyness · 28/01/2020 12:11

Oh no. According to my ex friends, children wanting single sex spaces in school only feel that way because their parents are bigots.

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