Sappho, making blanket decisions without discussion leaves the door open for all sorts of problems.
The decision in Rotherham not to pursue know sex offenders because of "community relations" was disastrous, not just for the girl victims, but I suspect many in those communities themselves.
A few years back I used to run into a nice middle aged lady who was in the process of being approved for adoption, and who would give me updates and we would discuss parenting. She was single and lesbian, and had enough resources to cut down on her work hours. Important as she was likely to adopt an older child, probably one who, because of previous trauma, needed to be in an all female home.
My overriding thought were how brave and how noble (an odd word, but right in this context). I no longer bump into her but really hope it is working out. In this context her being lesbian was a positive, and the fact that she was happy to talk openly to relatively strangers, suggested she rightly assumed societal acceptance.
More recently I have wondered what would happen if a similarly aged single person, a recent M-F transitioner tried to go down the same route, perhaps insisting that they had the same "rights" as other lesbians. However much adults can believe that TWAW are women, it is a concept that can be hard to explain to small children, people with dementia (I have some direct experience, as my mother lived with dementia for a decade, which makes for a funny anecdote probably not suitable for this board) and dogs. It would be a difficult dilemma for a social worker, who might be concerned that policy makers would respond in the same way as those in Rotherham, ie take the safer political path.
Trans parenting also raises issues around surrogacy (a whole issue in itself), around minors transitioning, and thus giving up their capacity to have children naturally, and NHS resources and priorities.
Society views evolve. Lesbian parents, at least where I live, are nothing unusual or remarkable. They would have been, perhaps 30 years ago. 30 years ago there was raging discussion and I suspect that was important. Airing concerns, and prejudices, enabled them to be addressed and for people to accept. Expecting people to simply believe something and then accusing them of hate if they try to raise concerns simply drives opinions underground. And quite possibly into the hands of politicians willing to voice these views. (A wonderful woman I know was a supporter of Tommy Robinson. She had been seriously abused in childhood and was very triggered by Rotherham. A good example of someone who is a natural labour supporter but probably put her faith in Priti Patel.)
#nodebate was arrogant and wrong. Self-ID is a big issue. Women not only have a right to debate their right to privacy, safety and dignity, but will want to prioritise the protection of children. For Stonewall to go behind our backs, and into our schools is scandalous. No wonder we are angry. Oddly I suspect that on an individual level women are more accepting of trans people than men. However we have a right to discuss issues and assert boundaries. Almost certainly there are circumstances where the safety of women and children should be prioritised over a desire to validate the identity of a TW.