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Nikkietutorials comes out as trans

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Cocolapew · 13/01/2020 20:28

I only know who they are due to DD watching their make up videos. They were on BBC 3s Glow Up program as a guest judge.
Apparently they were being blackmailed and so came out in a video, which is a bit shit for them.

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Elementalillusions · 14/01/2020 07:47

I’ve watched her videos on/ for well over 6 years and I was surprised by it.

I’ve not watched as much of her content recently because her style has gone very over the top and almost drag-esk.
She has always been quite camp and dramatic but in the last year or two it has increased to the point where I don’t enjoy her content as much as I find it less relatable.
It’s funny because I had thought a couple of months ago, after watching one of her videos, that her current style made her look more trans/drag/masculine and it was a strange style to go for, but I do know she has a huge gay following so I just assumed she was aiming her content more at them.
When watching the ‘coming out’ video I did wonder if this has all been intentional, to give people a clue to somehow soften the impact when she eventually had to reveal it.

I think it’s awful that she was forced into revealing her transgender status by being blackmailed and I do feel sorry for her about that.
However, I think what shocked me more is that she confessed she hid her transgenderism from her boyfriend for quite a while into their relationship, they’ve only been together around 18 months, engaged for 6 of those I believe, and she said they moved very quickly and she was swept up in it and didn’t tell him for quite a while although when she did he supported her.
I imagine he must have had an idea, because how could he not, but I really don’t feel ok with her hiding it from him.

Doyoumind · 14/01/2020 07:41

I'm aware women can be over 6ft but 6'2" is unusual for a woman. I actually said in another post I only put it down to her being Dutch as I've come across a lot of tall Dutch people.

I'm pretty sure her height was part of what made you think she was trans. I didn't and 12.5m subscribers who have watched her for 11 years didn't.

Shmithecat2 · 14/01/2020 06:12

@Doyoumind

I don't think the thread belongs in this board either. I actually like Nikkie but it does explain the 6ft something height.

Eh? I'm 6ft something. Biological woman etc etc. Not all women are 5ft something Hmm

I don't know who she is really, I saw her on the MUA competition that Stacey Dooley was presenting a while ago and assumed she was trans anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cwenthryth · 14/01/2020 06:06

I’ve never heard of her before but just watched the ‘coming out’ video as it was shared and yeah, it’s not a massive surprise surely? It’s a sad story laden with stereotypes (she knew she was a girl because she liked playing with dolls and makeup) and pigeon holing a child because of that, sad that she went through so much medical & surgical treatment so young (she describes social transition around 7, blockers to stop her growth not sure at what age, cross-sex hormones at 14 and full surgery by 19). She talks a lot about “I am me”, I just wish that she could be herself in her own body, without the need for all the intervention to conform physically to a stereotype. She’s a lifelong medical patient now, because society thinks men shouldn’t like makeup. Well done society.

The blackmail is despicable clearly.

TerribleCustomerCervix · 14/01/2020 01:21

That’s a bit shortsighted Boule.

Nikki has 12.5 million followers on YouTube, plus those that watch and don’t subscribe. The majority of those people will be young girls/ women, who will be tomorrow’s mother’s, aunts, teachers etc.

She has a huge amount of influence on an important demographic and so it’s not unfeminist to talk about her.

Bouledeneige · 14/01/2020 01:15

Feminism has changed init? I don't really understand why this is on this board and who really cares about makeup artists and 'beauty icons.' Still I have spent too much time talking about the Royal family recently so who am I to talk? What has happened to us all? Why aren't we talking about women's stuff?

UpfieldHatesWomen · 14/01/2020 01:12

... I mean, it's to transwomen's advantage if plastered on make-up to mask natural features is the fashion, as it makes it easier for them to then blend in, rather than if the trend was for a more natural look. With the male make-up artists mentioned all go in for this excessive style. Of course, it also means the sale of more and more products, all the more working to their advantage.

Creepster · 14/01/2020 01:07

I expect the blight slipped right past the mention that their status was obvious when they were on the TV show but not when on the Youtube channel.

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TerribleCustomerCervix · 14/01/2020 00:49

I thought GC women always claimed they could spot every trans person a mile off?

It can’t come as a shock to you that a very talented make up artist, who started their transition as a young teenager, and now has a vast amount of wealth to maintain their appearance, passes very well?

She’s the exception, not the rule.

rocketmen · 14/01/2020 00:34

I've always liked her as a person, but not necessarily as a youtuber. 100% support from me, though!

I don't think one has to be 'woke' to know about one of the biggest beauty youtubers on the platform, though.

snowblight · 14/01/2020 00:31

Interesting the number of 'I never realised' type comments on this thread. I thought GC women always claimed they could spot every trans person a mile off?

Doyoumind · 14/01/2020 00:29

Oh here is Snowblight focusing on the one negative comment on the thread. Find another hobby.

DeRigueurMortis · 14/01/2020 00:28

Agree Snow.

Being GC doesn't mean I leave my compassion at the door, especially for someone who has forged a career based on hard work and talent and found themselves blackmailed into disclosing their trans status (even though I thought it was common knowledge, but seemingly not).

snowblight · 14/01/2020 00:13

Lots of simpering and fake half crying in the coming out video.

Such compassion.

WomanBornNotWorn · 13/01/2020 23:56

Poor love, she handled this blackmail with such grace and on her own terms, but jeez ... The mother. I always wonder about the motivations and mindsets of the parents who promote transitioning from a very young age.

Doyoumind · 13/01/2020 23:55

I watched the video. It wasn't fake crying. That's not fair to say.

I've watched Nikkie on and off for quite some time and it's not that unusual for her to genuinely cry and despite keeping this secret I think Nikkie is a genuine person.

If you look back at the really old videos Nikkie looked very different but not boyish. I think if people just discover her and say it's obvious they are looking at the style of makeup that's become her trademark.

I didn't know. She's incredibly tall but I just thought it was because she's Dutch!

She's also fully transitioned so while she isn't female she's a million miles away from the TRAs and their lady dicks and just wants to get on with life.

Bluewater1 · 13/01/2020 23:54

Blackmailing someone is appalling, what a thing to do......

FrivolousPancake · 13/01/2020 23:50

Ive always liked Nikkie but from what I father from the video she omitted the truth th her fiancé which I think is messed up.

It also worries me how many “young nikkies” as she put it, it will make think are born in the wrong body too.

GlitterToast · 13/01/2020 23:48

Nikki says in her "coming out" video that she held off from telling her partner initially. She says this was because everything was so magical and she didn't want to ruin the atmosphere. Her partner knows now and supports her.

Xyzzzzz · 13/01/2020 23:45

My woke DD told me about her, apparently Nikkie has been in a long term relationship without telling the partner about the trans status. Surely a partner has the right to know who they are in a relationship with?.

Isn’t nikkie engaged? That’s bad if they’ve not told the partner?

I think it’s appalling nikkie was being blackmailed.

DeRigueurMortis · 13/01/2020 23:38

Terrible to be fair it was seeing Nikki on TV that I knew they were trans. I only saw the YouTube channel after that (and thought it was good).

If I'd not seen Nikki on TV it's possible I might not have suspected - I'll never know.

I just assumed it was a "known" thing tbh and quite admired the lack of reference to it in the videos (now I now why, but regardless it's clear they haven't been trading on it, rather their success is down to be being imho very talented).

TerribleCustomerCervix · 13/01/2020 23:33

Quite surprised by how many people commenting on the video didn't have a clue tbh.

In fairness, I didn’t either.

She’s been doing YouTube since she was 16 or 17 and always presented as a girl. We’d only see her from shoulders up 95% of time, plus she dresses fairly conservatively and carried extra weight, so it was harder to clock the usual tell tale signs.

Extremely shitty that someone tried to blackmail her before she was ready to talk about it.

Gingerkittykat · 13/01/2020 23:28

Lots of simpering and fake half crying in the coming out video.

My woke DD told me about her, apparently Nikkie has been in a long term relationship without telling the partner about the trans status. Surely a partner has the right to know who they are in a relationship with?

DeRigueurMortis · 13/01/2020 23:26

I think it's a shame that anyone has been put in a position to reveal private information if they didn't want to - as allegedly has happened here.

Nikki's tutorials are good overall - very knowledgeable.

But to echo a poster above - no shit Sherlock (again not said with any bad feeling just it was obvious). I'd clocked that after I'd seen Nikki on the "Glow Up" TV show and tbh thought it was common knowledge.

Quite surprised by how many people commenting on the video didn't have a clue tbh.

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