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I got a she-wee!

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ahumanfemale · 25/12/2019 10:16

Different brand but same idea. Smile I am unbelievably happy. The gifted bought it because her friend makes this brand. Anyway. For all those places with "gender neutral" and men's loos, where we know the men using "gender neutral" when they have another choice will likely be the ones we want to avoid, I think I now have the way ahead! Grin

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ahumanfemale · 28/12/2019 22:34

Horse now those are two images I didn't think I'd have in mind this evening!

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HorseWithNoHumbuggery · 28/12/2019 18:54

I really wouldn't want one willy-coloured..

Brad Pitt willy colour or Samuel L Jackson willy colour?

bd67th · 28/12/2019 18:42

Katietrans What ahumanfemale said. Male anatomy after reassignment surgery is still male anatomy and we have no experience of it and we have no experience of it in order to advise you.

If you are determined to undergo surgery, I would recommend consulting your urologist and seeking out MTFs who hike or do other outdoor activities. However, in line with my stance that irreversible medical procedures should always (for any condition, not just gender dysphoria) be the treatment option of last resort, I would suggest that you try to accept your male body as-is and recognise that the modes of self-expression traditionally coded as "feminine" are in fact open to people of both sexes.

I wish you the best outcome for you, whatever you decide.

flashbac · 28/12/2019 17:26

And this is why we need to protect women's spaces. Troll has perfectly illustrated this by trying to derail the discussion.

ahumanfemale · 28/12/2019 16:41

I am not a troll. I am asking for serious advice.
So you won't find any here. You can't because this thread is about something we don't have experience of.

And I find it odd that it's such an issue that you need to ask on this thread (and pm women) but a) haven't started your own or b) your surgeon didn't discuss potential problems with you beforehand. Assuming you've actually had surgery - if not (and I don't need to know) then the situation is even more removed than what this thread is about.

We can't help you because what you're talking about is something we have zero experience of. Other people who share your experience will probably be much more helpful. And as it's help you're after, I'm sure you'll be off to ask them. I hope they give you the information you need.

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JungeTraktoristin · 28/12/2019 16:12

I am not a troll. I am asking for serious advice

This is a thread full of women discussing issues specific to female anatomy and urination. If you want to discuss issues specific to surgically-altered male anatomy, you need to find a board with people who have experience of that.

Shoehorning your issues into a discussion which is definitely not for people with your anatomy just makes you look like a pervy troll.

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WeeDangerousSpike · 28/12/2019 10:28

I used a cardboard disposable one at glasto years ago, in a female urinal block. It was fab. And so quick!

I made sure to tilt it downwards so there was no danger of it flowing backwards, but tbh I was so desperate at that point that peeing was inevitable. There was zero chance of nerves interfering! DF wasn't quite as desperate, and couldn't bring herself to 'let go'.

I did find that I had to pull my trousers down past my bum though, as did all the other ladies (it was quite a comical sight, but we had had several ciders, hence the need to pee....)

Probably a jumper round the waist would solve that at the roadside or whatever. And possibly a more rigid plastic device could hold its shape against pressure from clothes in a way a cardboard one couldn't.

ahumanfemale · 28/12/2019 10:21

Bumbling I'm looking forward to that feeling! :)

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Lulabellamozzarella · 28/12/2019 10:12

Oh great. A pee troll.

bumblingbovine49 · 28/12/2019 10:09

The secret to using them is to hold them very very firmly with the back sort of angled upwards so it fits very tight,almost on the point of starting to hurt a bit (but not quite). I have had one for many years and it has never leaked when I use it, though I admit I don't use it regularly

I did use it on the side of an A road once. My car had broken down and had to wait almost 3 hours for a tow and I was absolutely desperate, (had been planning to stop at the next services just before breaking down)

Across the other side of the A road I was on were several lorries stopped in layby as well so I had no desire to squat behind some very sparse bushes across the road from a bunch of lorry drivers. Instead I stood with my back to them, partially hidden by some bushes and used the shee wee. Luckily I was wearing trousers and could just undo the zip/button and use it like that. I was unreasonably please with myself, it felt sort of freeing.

DanaPhoenix · 28/12/2019 10:07

Good god ignore the troll.

TinselAngel · 28/12/2019 10:02

Im transgender male to female and getting gender reassignment surgery to become a woman. Learning to pee your method. Any advice on the shewee? looking for advice

My advice would be that if you don't have the operation you won't need one.

ahumanfemale · 28/12/2019 09:58

*your issue.

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ahumanfemale · 28/12/2019 09:56

Please go and start your own thread @Katietrans this thread has nothing to do with you.

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Natsku · 28/12/2019 09:43

Yeah sent me one too, that is weird behaviour.

finnmcool · 28/12/2019 08:19

@Katietrans Don't send me a private message asking for tips.
Makes you come across as every kind of wrong.

gamerchick · 28/12/2019 05:49

Maybe try sitting down katie or reading the thread.

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georgialondon · 26/12/2019 21:02

They sell them in Poundland in the summer.

TildaKauskumholm · 26/12/2019 17:11

I found that one a disaster, I think it needs to be a firmer material.

jcurve · 26/12/2019 16:59

The secret is to hold it quite firmly against yourself.

Yes that definitely helps me. Also, angle the funnel down by tilting your hips forward. If the funnel is approaching anywhere near horizontal then it pools and spills.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 26/12/2019 16:24

You don't have to control the volume ime and I have never had trouble with wicking either.
The secret is to hold it quite firmly against yourself. (Of course, it might be that other people are doing that already and the shape just fits some people better than others.)

I found the easiest way to learn was to start off using it sitting on the loo quite far back. Once you trust it not to leak it's easy to learn to do it standing up. Practising in the shower didn't really help me.

ArranUpsideDown · 26/12/2019 16:19

I found that I had to cut my pubic hair short to use a She-wee, otherwise the urine would wick up the hair and go over the side onto my clothes.

Hmm. tbh, between that and the need to adjust clothing, and wondering about controlling the volume so there's no overflow, I'm not sure that I'm up to this level of coordination and dexterity.

Lamahaha · 26/12/2019 15:15

@ahumanfemale I agree with you about French public toilets -- I used to drive through France regularly and they are disgusting! Once the ladies' queue was very long and an employee came along and grabbed 20 women from the back of the queue and led them into the men's. I was among them and their loo was even worse!

Contrast Germany, whose Autobahn service stations have the cleanest loos I've ever seen! They all do this:

You pay 70c to use the loos, but you get 50c back if you spend money in the shop of restaurant. You just have to remember to go to the loo first before spending any money.

Oh, and single sex loos.

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