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Looking for kids letter to Santa and found this

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ExchangedCat · 23/11/2019 11:51

I'm not going mad, am I? This isn't ok, is it?

Amidst the list of Santa letter kits on Amazon this appeared. Either I need to give my head a wobble or things are just continuing to get worse for women. The suggested recipient list included wife, girlfriend, sister, aunt, cousin.

Help me make sense of why I feel so angry about this

Looking for kids letter to Santa and found this
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ExchangedCat · 24/11/2019 10:52

I guess I just don't see why it's a joke - it's still based in the idea that women have to conform to a someone else's idea of what they should look like. Isn't it just another way of shaming? Why is it ok to dress that up as humour? It just doesn't make logical sense to me.

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Hopingtobeamum · 23/11/2019 22:11

@PeterRouseTheFleshofMankind stuff like this doesn't phase or bother me. Appreciate some have different levels of humour. I guess it's because us ladies are meant to be 'perfect' and keep ourselves trimmed and neat and tidy. I say bollocks to that, every woman should do as they dammed well please. There is a plethora of similar cards aimed at men (before anyone pipes up).

I simply take jokes such as this for in the way they're intended. Light hearted humour, it's really no drama.

It shouldn't be in a child domain though

Majorcollywobble · 23/11/2019 21:49

@headshoulderskneesandtoe
Thanks so much !

wafflyversatile · 23/11/2019 19:50

That's what I'm saying it isn't a saucy postcard naughty so I can't even see where the joke bit is but someone said it was funny. Its sexist and probably would be even if hairy fanny was considered saucy postcard material.

To be clear I'm not saying saucy postcard humour is not sexist.

FlamingoAndJohn · 23/11/2019 19:30

@wafflyversatile yes. Not removing all the hair that nature saw fit to put in your public area is very naughty if you are a women.
Your job is to make sure your vulva is all neat and clean and up to standard.

wafflyversatile · 23/11/2019 19:19

Apart whatever other opinions I have on it I dont understand the joke. Can the pp who said it was funny explain.

If having pubic hair was considered 'naughty' then I guess it would at least work as a joke but it isn't and if you were being flirty you would use a flirty innuendo not 'hairy fanny' which is not sexy.

TooLateThePhalarope · 23/11/2019 19:09

& yes, there will be an almost identical card for men

I took one for the team and viewed their site- there's nothing of comparable offensiveness. Athough I suppose the plethora of "you're a wanker" cards are probably aimed at men.

Artesia · 23/11/2019 18:08

The suggested recipient list included wife, girlfriend, sister, aunt, cousin.

Think this is the worst bit of all. Who the fuck would send that to their aunt. Or sister? The mind truly boggles

FlamingoAndJohn · 23/11/2019 17:43

& yes, there will be an almost identical card for men.

Saying what? Men’s personal grooming is not policed like it is for women.

headshoulderskneesandtoe · 23/11/2019 17:37

@Majorcollywobble I've just reported your post as it shows your name and post code in the amazon screenshot

CranberriesChoccy · 23/11/2019 17:36

Does Frankie Boyle write for them?

BestOption · 23/11/2019 17:20

There are several companies that make these kind of cards. It’s not your thing, it’s not my thing, but someone’s buying them and actually that’s fine. Other people are allowed to find things funny that I dont.

It’s unfortunate they’re showing up on a ‘letters to santa’ search, but that’s the way the internet works ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

& yes, there will be an almost identical card for men. They’re an equally offensive, maximum profit type deal, not a sexist one.

Majorcollywobble · 23/11/2019 17:13

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Majorcollywobble · 23/11/2019 17:08

Good grief !
Even if it’s intended for an American market where fanny is another word for “butt” (also yuck ) it’s still awful . Now going to look it up as want to read the reviews ........

LadyBrienne · 23/11/2019 17:04

@TooLateThePhalarope

[screaming into the black night slowly disappearing from view]

.... And there goes my last hope for positive evolution and progress of humankind .... yep, all gone now

TheRattleBag · 23/11/2019 16:58

This is absolutely vile.

I clicked on "contact seller" and told them so......... not sure what sort of response (if any) I'll get!

NotTonightJosepheen · 23/11/2019 16:12

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RJnomore1 · 23/11/2019 16:08

They do have one which says wax your crack it’s xmas...

TooLateThePhalarope · 23/11/2019 15:51

LadyBrienne
Is it American and there clumsily referring to a hairy butt ? (Fanny in the USA is bottom eg fell on my fanny)

No. The company's registered office is in Cambridge and the prices are all in £. They have cards on a similar theme but with an offensive word for vulva which would be meaningless in the US.

TooLateThePhalarope · 23/11/2019 15:48

The card is made by Yellow Blossom Designs Limited. That card isn't even the worst available on that theme.

LadyBrienne · 23/11/2019 15:36

Is it American and there clumsily referring to a hairy butt ? (Fanny in the USA is bottom eg fell on my fanny)

CranberriesChoccy · 23/11/2019 15:17

Yes, send one to your sister, aunt, or cousin because you definitely want them to know you were thinking about their genitals. Confused

SapphosRock · 23/11/2019 14:23

Oh that is horrible. No it's not okay.

For a man to give this to his partner means he's criticising her under the guise of humour, subtly trying to control her and making her feel like she's done something wrong by being perfectly normal.

Fraggling · 23/11/2019 13:57

70s muff is where it's at.

They are out dated and off trend.

Pity the fuckers.

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ExchangedCat · 23/11/2019 13:56

@TooLateThePhalarope I don't, I was trying to explain to DS what a letter to Santa was and thought this would be a quick way to show the different types

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