I attended a conference on restorative justice last week and there was a particular academic speaker who was advocating for restorative justice for domestic violence offenders and victim. She was speaking on the fact that institutions and safeguarding policies shouldn't steal conflict from victims and offenders and if its what women wanted then we shouldn't try and block it. Somebody in the audience raised the point that it had been tried before and the man ended up killing her. Her response was that the media always portray the most severe events and domestic violence incidents like that are rare and most incidents are just one offs and people always assume the most extreme scenarios. I was 
as it's not rare - the statistic is something like 3 women a week are killed by a partner or former partner. A police officer in the audience also said that we should focus on these cases as there is a relationship that can be repaired and fixed. Another audience member questioned the fact that there are often injunctions to stop contact and social services often also tell women that their children are at risk if they have contact with the abuser. The response was that they would go to court to get the injunction removed to facilitate the meeting. I left the conference a bit shocked tbh and now I don't really know what to think but my instinct is to vehemently disagree with this.