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iamright17 · 16/11/2019 00:34

This is a new thread for parents who are experiencing the phenomenon of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria in their tweens/ teens/ young adults.

Sadly we are being watched and our words taken out of context so please be careful what you say.

I want the UK and beyond to listen to parents. Even if it is deemed as anecdotal for now, it is important for someone to acknowledge our perspective. The trans narrative is trying to undermine our credibility.

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Smallblanket · 16/11/2019 09:21

She's just been referred to an endocrinologist but there's a long waiting list for that (thankfully). That's after a 2 year wait already.

Gingerkittykat · 16/11/2019 08:23

Smallblanket, has your daughter started on hormone treatment yet?

I think the fact that the waiting lists are so long for many to be seen at gender clinics can give a chance to pause, but probably too late to stop it if she is already in the system.

socialworker222 · 16/11/2019 07:48

Hi. Just wanted to wish you luck with this thread. Transwidows EC saved me and I hope yours does the same. With you in solidarity Flowers

Smallblanket · 16/11/2019 07:37

Mum of a young adult born female who has been identifying as male for 3 years now. Is autistic and generally not thriving but hormones and surgery are the only options on the menu at the gender clinic.
Nothing I can do now but keep her close and give support no matter what happens.

It is impossible for me to voice my concerns publicly, just hoping that through sheer numbers, clinicians and the world at large begin to question why so many of these vulnerable kids are being cheerleaded to chemical and surgical alteration.

Gingerkittykat · 16/11/2019 05:44

My daughter identified as non binary for a while, there were a group of around 5 of them in the college class who were either trans or non binary.

I don't think the college system of letting them self identify helped, since giving them ID cards as the opposite sex just fuelled it. Social contagion was definitely a huge part of what was going on.

Thankfully she grew out of it once she left that class, I know one other girl who identified as a boy also did but not about the rest. She still wears male clothes, still has short hair but happily identifies as a girl and lesbian.

It must be really worrying for the parents of kids who want to physically transition and not know what to do. I'm happy to listen and support you in any way I can.

JanesKettle · 16/11/2019 01:31

Thanks Tinsel, would be good to draw from your experience. It feels good to have the support of the widows x

TinselAngel · 16/11/2019 01:17

I am happy to advise about maintaining a support thread if anybody wants to get in touch Thanks

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iamright17 · 16/11/2019 00:56

Maya‘s court case today highlighted what we see and know. She wanted to make sure we were not lying to kids who trust us to help them with safeguarding. As a parent, I have a duty to ensure my child knows the difference and does not compromise others even if this creates conflict.

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iamright17 · 16/11/2019 00:50

Mine is classed as an adult as in 18. There is little I can do too. However if we expose the phenomenon we just might get others who have younger kids to see this. We might also be able to have this discussed on mainstream and other parents might have a more informed perspective. Maybe when these discussions are mainstream our own kids will listen. They won’t listen to parents. Hopefully mainstream will give them the opportunity to reflect and be more critical. However, trans activist are shutting down debate because they know it doesn’t stand upto rigor. That’s why they say it’s not up for debate.

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JanesKettle · 16/11/2019 00:50

Thank you iamright17

We are seeing what we see, and there is nothing wrong with describing and naming what we see.

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