ROGD Parent Support

Hi Catdog,

Try Bayswater Support - a group of now over 400 parents from across the UK and the Republic of Ireland. It has a lively online forum, holds in-person and virtual meetings, and many find it a great source of support & advice. You can apply here:

www.bayswatersupport.org.uk/join-us

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Catdog17

Parents of rogd kids have a support form ( I haven't actually filled it out myself... )

www.parentsofrogdkids.com/support-groups

You could try finding a parents of rogd children Facebook group?

Hi there , I realise this is an old thread but I was wondering if there is a private group I can access for advice. Thanks 💔

“Erial1

My kid is now 16 - adopted from care awful history of abuse and neglect- came to the realisation that she is a boy over a 2 week period in January. We will support whatever happens, but the affirmation only approach shuts down any possibility of exploration as to what is really going on.“

I wish I could remember a thread where someone came on who had a lot of experience and statistics to show that children who have been in care are far more likely to believe they are trans gender.

“Smallblanket

Mum of a young adult born female who has been identifying as male for 3 years now. Is autistic and generally not thriving but hormones and surgery are the only options on the menu at the gender clinic.
Nothing I can do now but keep her close and give support no matter what happens. “

In the article below the writer’s daughter is autistic.

pitt.substack.com/p/to-my-daughters-therapist-you-were

Bumping thread

Do we as parents have the choice to ask psychiatrists if they believe in affirmation of trans?

Can anyone recommend a private therapist in SW London who doesn't automatically "help them transition", who challenges them, digs into what makes ROGD kids feel the way they feel, finds out what other problems they may have. My daughter is 16 identifying a boy since less than a year ago. I don't know if you can private-message on this group. Thank you

You may be better off joining the Bayswater support group which is very live. Can I help at all in the meantime?

I think it would be ok to post on this support thread, Tibu. Your post and mine will bump it.

I am happy to have found this forum but not sure if it's still "alive" as I can only see messages from 2019. If not alive, are there any alternative forums? I am parent. Thank you!!

Many of my daughters friends have and now all they do is obsess about it. They have WhatsApp calls and my daughter has had to remove herself from the main group because they keep asking her about her sexuality and pronouns and it makes her really uncomfortable,

Thank you for starting this. We also have a beautiful child in our family who first was NB and now says they are trans and was able to recently start HRT now that he's 18. It's heartbreaking as he has diagnosed dysphoria and his parents held off any medications. Now he's just barely an adult, we fear the lack of good information is sending him down medicalized paths of no return.

Just wondering if anyone had seen a translation of this Swedish report from February 2020 Before. This Canadian article is being shared on twitter at the moment and refers to the Swedish Government now doing further research like the UK is supposedly doing.

However, in the meantime, the government seems to be ensuring better mental health care (apparently rejecting that it is dehumanising to look further into underlying health conditions).

genderreport.ca/the-swedish-u-turn-on-gender-transitioning/

@ponpoy I’ve sent you a DM which might be useful.

Thanks @BessyK. Haven't had a reply from Bayswater yet, but have tried. Will check out the others.

Hi Ponpoy, you can find further support and advice from Transgender Trend, Bayswater Support group, Our Duty group and Parents of ROGD kids.

Oh and yes, to answer your question - there are many like her at the school.

Thank you @OhHolyJesus. Interesting questions. Will explore. Whatsapp is a big problem in itself though. I think we're beyond the kind of trust that would take anyway.
We plan to talk to school next week.
Good question re internet at school. I just don't know - will probably buy us a little time to get some therapy in place perhaps.

@ponpoy

I cannot advise from experience but wondered if you can raise a complaint to the school? Via an escalated complaints process you could get to the governors and a review. Have you met the teacher/HT in person?

If they have transitioned her without your knowledge or consent they have failed to safeguard her and that is a big deal.

It might be worth pursuing, if you have the time and energy, particularly if the teachers have been 'trained' as the new govt guidelines are very specific. Are there other kids like your DD at the school?

Is there anything to suggest Stonewall or similar have been into the school?

Of course it might be best to focus on moving her if there are alternatives that will keep her safe.

The digital stuff is beyond me, I think it could cause a massive issue but if she had failed to follow rules then it's her consequences. Based on the suicide on TikTok and all the other dangers I think it's reason enough to withdraw internet completely (aside for homework and study) but it will be a big loss for her if she has come to rely on it more, esp with lockdown and now the new boyfriend.

Do you limit social media or internet? Can she access the internet at school? Can you limit her phone access and allow WhatsApp only, remove all other apps and block?

I cannot advise but wondered if you can raise a complaint to the school? Via an escalated complaints process you could get to the governors and a review. Have you met the teacher/HT in person?

If they have transitioned her without your knowledge or consent they have failed to safeguard her and that is a big deal.

It might be worth pursuing, if you have the time and energy, particularly if the teachers have been 'trained' as the new govt guidelines are very specific.

Is there anything to suggest Stonewall or similar have been into the school?

Of course it might be best to focus on moving her if there are alternatives that will keep her safe.

The digital stuff is beyond me, I think it could cause a massive issue but if she had failed to follow rules then it's her consequences. Based on the suicide on TikTok and all the other dangers I think it's reason enough to withdraw internet but it will be a big deal for her if she has come to rely on it more.

Do you limit social media or internet? Can she access the internet at school?