Do women have the right to say they feel uncomfortable over a name?

The OP made three posts as far as I can see, one of them was this:

The point is he carried on after I asked him to stop. Good manners?

He did carry on after he'd been asked not to. Was that nice or kind?

I think you've just revealed a little more of yourself and your motivations than you probably wanted to BTW.

Oh do enlighten me.

It's aggressive because he responded to a simple, polite and reasonable request with an accusation of abuse.

Again, how do you know that it was a simple, polite and reasonable request? You have no idea of the context, nor the tone nor the words used so how can you make such a judgement?

Plus getting her husband to join in too I dare say that a lone worker might very well feel vulnerable if the situation was becoming heated.

It's aggressive because he responded to a simple, polite and reasonable request with an accusation of abuse.

So anyone saying that a behaviour is abusive is automatically being aggressive are they?

Your logic sucks. Think about it again.

For all you know the delivery driver weighed 7 stone and was being faced by op and her husband, both built like brick shit houses and their dogs Lucifer and Satan, and called them abusive as he ran back to his van crying.

Scrabbling around again. Give it up.

But no. He was a man and so therefore anything that left his mouth was by default both sexist and aggressive.

A man who calls a woman love when he doesn't do the same to men is sexist. A man who calls a woman who asks him not do this to her, abusive, is aggressive and misogynistic. Owning a pair of magic testicles isn't enough, particular types of behaviour are required.

I think you've just revealed a little more of yourself and your motivations than you probably wanted to BTW.

For someone to be offended by it, argue about it, ignore it, protest against it, or become accusatory is the height of disrespect.

But he didn't ignore it, or at least the op didn't report that he continued after she had asked him to stop.

He accused the op and then her husband of being abusive, which they may or may not have been and it may or may not have been connected to her asking him to stop calling her love.

It just seems quite unbelievable that she was being arsey about the substitution and insisting that she had something provided for Sunday lunch and that teh thing that he took offence at was a polite "please don't call me love". Seems like there's pertinent parts of the tale being left out for some reason.

According to her op she was complaining about the duck substitution, insisting that she must have something to roast on Sunday and this somehow became the delivery driver's job to solve - maybe his accusation of them being abusive related to the whole interaction rather than just the "don't call me love" comment?

I do think that we each have the right to ask not to called something we don't want to be called. All of us, male or female, by male or female, wherever, whenever for any reason.

For someone to be offended by it, argue about it, ignore it, protest against it, or become accusatory is the height of disrespect.

😭 the poor understood marginalized oppressed men, won't someone think of them?!?!? 😭

Can anyone else hear the world's smallest violin playing?

Why is it aggressive?

So anyone saying that a behaviour is abusive is automatically being aggressive are they?

For all you know the delivery driver weighed 7 stone and was being faced by op and her husband, both built like brick shit houses and their dogs Lucifer and Satan, and called them abusive as he ran back to his van crying.

But no. He was a man and so therefore anything that left his mouth was by default both sexist and aggressive.

Thanks for getting me to interrogate my assumptions.

Hmmm, you're right. It's not angry, it's aggressive. Much worse.

But how is that him getting angry? He said she was being abusive - why is that him getting angry?

It might be a case of him over reacting or being dramatic possibly, depending on what the op said or how she said it but why angry particularly?

Abusive men see women who set boundaries as being abusive. It's their sense of entitlement that gets in the way of reality

Very concise and accurate! 👏

But if you want me to be more specific, I'd like the "be kind" brigade to comment on the delivery man calling his customer "abusive".

Was he being kind?

Abusive men see women who set boundaries as being abusive. It's their sense of entitlement that gets in the way of reality,

Right here, hearhooves. She made a simple request on how she'd like to be addressed and he massively escalated the situation:

When I said “please don’t call me love” he accused me of abusing him on the doorstep

When I said “please don’t call me love” he accused me of abusing him on the doorstep.

CarolCutrere

The only patronizing thing I've said was Your attack focus is weak grasshopper. Try again. It was tongue-in-cheek.

Anything else you incorrectly surmise by 'reading between the lines' as patronizing says everything about you and nothing about me.

Your projection is big but my bandwidth/screen for it is microscopic.

I'd still like the "Be kind" brigade to comment on this man's anger.

Give me an example of his anger and I will comment on it.

A customer who asks a delivery driver not to call her "love" is not abusive.

Depends how she asked him not to call her love though doesn't it? Plenty of ways that she could have said it that would have been abusive.

A man who gets angry when asked not to call a female customer "love" is abusive.

He was way out of line.

Who said he was angry? He accused her of being abusive. Why is that him getting angry?

I'd still like the "Be kind" brigade to comment on this man's anger.

"A customer who is abusive deserves to be called abusive"

A customer who asks a delivery driver not to call her "love" is not abusive.

A man who gets angry when asked not to call a female customer "love" is abusive.

He was way out of line.

CarolCutrere

Reading comp fail on your part. Those abusive phrases were to give context to why I refuse being called baby, honey, sweetie, etc. (equal to your "love" or "cunt" or "cock" from what I gather) and ties into my earlier post as well as leads into refusal to 'be nice' and kind outside of my own subjective perspective.

Your attack focus is weak grasshopper.

Try again.

Feel free to pontificate and debate about delivery dude

This comment from you Stop and your follow up are hilarious in the context of whether men make patronising comments.

Oh yeah sorry it was someone else that protested to that. I'll blame it on being tired and similar posting styles between you and that poster.

I kind of think there's a world of difference between calling someone love and cunt though.

If I call someone love in church I'm unlikely to give the vicar a heart attack, cunt on the other hand ...