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Christmas is just a load of wifework: discuss

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drspouse · 28/10/2019 20:00

DH and I have a collaborative approach to Christmas though he tends to want to do less than I do in terms of activities, as our DS needs a bit of structure I usually overrule him.
He writes more Christmas cards than I do as we only do them for elderly relatives who don't have email and he has more of them.
However all family just want me to give them suggestions for presents for the DCs.
And could you just send me a link.
And what does DH want.
Oh can't you just buy it and I'll pay you back. Can't you wrap it too?
And the mums on FB... My goodness. And here too. I bet all the dads are not wrapping up the living room door and moving the elf and buying reindeer food. And working out which relative won't eat smoked salmon canapes and when to get their Ocado slot. And if they'll fit into their slinky dress for the work party.
It's just the whole year of sexism multiplied by 65 million isn't it?

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NoSquirrels · 28/10/2019 20:13

Well, I agree drs.

‘Just’ is such a fucking weasel word, isn’t it?

My DH is not the worst and not the best. But although he does some stuff every year he’ll leave discussing actual proper plans for seeing his family til the absolute last minute and then it will end up being extremely inconvenient to us in some way, which planning would have avoided.

Properly irritates me greatly.

And when you have DC there’s also childcare for Christmas nights out, and all the school shit to sort - jumpers, donations, events - and on and on.

He does do the wrapping. Badly, and won’t actually purchase the supplies like Sellotape, rather expect it to be magically available, but I don’t wrap anything so I refuse to care.

But I agree, it’s a shit time of year for wifework in general.

Jaynetheplane · 28/10/2019 20:04

I honestly can’t relate to this, as it’s not like that in this house but I can totally believe it’s like that for most people.

I do think that if you don’t like doing something then you should just stop, tell your dh that your not doing (insert Xmas task here) this year and that from now on it’s his responsibility, and point relatives his way when they ask something. It’s really not that hard.