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Women being dismissed at the doctors

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UpfieldHatesWomen · 16/10/2019 16:15

I've had this problem a number of times, and a recent incident has got me absolutely fuming. I'm hardly a hypochondriac, I prefer to not go to the doctors and only go on average every two or so years when I have a problem that won't resolve on its own. This time I made an appointment because I had made a connection that I was getting chronic acne appearing overnight, at the exact same time and only when I had this other symptom, and wanting to know if the doctor could shed some light on why this was, as it didn't seem to fit the condition I'd been told I had. Instead I was told the acne wasn't connected, that I was imagining it, and was given the same prescription as before, which obviously hadn't worked. I've had other painful conditions dismissed in the past, on one occasion having to return several times for the same issue only to be asked by one doctor with a 'concerned' face why I was so worried about it as though I had Munchhausens (it was more the constant debilitating pain than 'worry' that was the issue, but of course that was all in my mind, silly woman!) until I finally got a diagnosis. In fact at this surgery I saw a number of different doctors, and the female doctor who finally diagnosed me asked 'has anyone actually examined you?' - indeed, the four previous times I'd been in they hadn't. Yes, it could be down to lack of time or resources on the NHS, but can't help think I would have been taken more seriously if I were a man, especially as these kinds of dismissive attitudes towards female patients are well-documented. Anyway, I'm venting a little bit, but I was wondering if there is any sort of campaign I can join that addresses these kinds of attitudes towards female patients? I'm lucky enough that this hasn't threatened my life so far, but it no doubt has for other women.

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UpfieldHatesWomen · 16/10/2019 17:18

MadamBatty I'm so so sorry. This is the inevitable outcome of this kind of dismissive attitude, there are no words. Flowers

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UpfieldHatesWomen · 16/10/2019 17:16

So sorry to hear of these other experiences, especially where there are children involved as well. It's happened to me on numerous other occasions in addition to those given above, to the point where I'd really rather do anything than see a doctor. I'll have a look for the thread by Graphista, thanks AnneLovesGilbert. I wish there was some way doctors could be held to account for this kind of behaviour, such as a database of woman- friendly doctors (and those that aren't). I made sure I left a negative review on Google explaining what happened, which is something I suppose. If there was a campaign raising awareness of this I'd join it.

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PlasticPatty · 16/10/2019 17:12

My gp treated me as if I had was a liar, and actually accused me of lying.
The new one is slightly better but after years of disrespect from the gp mentioned above, I daren't go!

MadamBatty · 16/10/2019 17:11

Hi my friend died recently from uterine cancer at the age of 49. 6 weeks from diagnosis to death.

She’d been to the doctor 4 times over the previous year with flooding & been told it was ‘just menopause’

Horses4 · 16/10/2019 17:06

My daughter has been in a wheelchair for three months because of precisely this sort of attitude, when in fact she had drug-induced b12 deficiency. Three weeks off said drug, she is walking as well as a kid with arthritis can. To say we are livid is an understatement.

Grasspigeons · 16/10/2019 17:05

I hear you. The difference between my husbands level of treatment and mine is stark, to the point he handles all the chikdrens medical stuff now (after witnessing how dismissive someone was in A&E to me and our son, until he made himself known)

AnneLovesGilbert · 16/10/2019 17:01

I’m sure @Graphista had a thread on exactly this. Sorry you’ve been treated so badly OP.

Antibles · 16/10/2019 16:58

I hear you UpfieldHatesWomen. I have bitter personal experience of this too. I could write an essay. And yes, it can cost lives.