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They them pronouns

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Yeahnahyeah · 28/09/2019 09:04

So I just watched a you tube video by a non binary blue haired person who was reporting on her pride parade experience. This person uses they/them pronouns.

They spent well over ten minutes complaning that wherever they went that day (watching the parade, coffee, meeting friends) sooo many people did not use the correct they/them pronouns; it was constant, and offensive, etc etc.

The thing is, I only very rarely hear my pronouns used. (She/her Wink). I find it hard to believe this person heard them so many times over a few hours, so I'm calling it out.

How often do you hear your pronouns on an average day?

And I feel really stupid and a bit resentful that I have had to use 'they' throughout this post, or do the rules on here not extend to they/them?

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smemorata · 28/09/2019 09:16

As a linguist the pronoun thing really annoys me! I think it is especially worrying that "wrong pronouning " is considered to be a hate crime. A lot of people find it difficult - and it is difficult cognitively- to use pronouns which are not what they would usually use! And don't get me started on when you speak two or more languages! I think this is just another way of shutting women up!

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 28/09/2019 09:16

I'm not that special, and neither is anyone else

How very dare you...I’m well special

My mummy told me so

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 28/09/2019 09:15

Oh gosh crossed with fusion Grin

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 28/09/2019 09:14

The only thing i can think of is when either my friends and i are teasing each other or the children are complaining about something ive said

Maybe a shop I suppose...but that would usually be ‘the customer’

Its possibly because i was taught that she was rude...as in ‘she’s the cats mother ‘ I generally use names

But a very few times I would have thought...i could probably go a whole day without hearing she or her or they or him or he (just to cover everything

ArnoldWhatshisknickers · 28/09/2019 09:12

How often do you hear your pronouns on an average day?

I don't have pronouns, the third person pronouns others use about me belong to them not me.

Having got the nitpicking out of the way the answer to your question is zero that I'm aware of.

It probably isn't zero in reality but I just don't notice. People generally use you/youse to my face, and if I am mentioned in the third person it pretty much passes me by. But I don't go through life thinking me, me, me, ME, ME. I imagine most people don't really give me a second thought. I'm not that special, and neither is anyone else.

FusionChefGeoff · 28/09/2019 09:08

I agree - and generally if you hear someone saying 'she / her' about you whilst you are in earshot isn't that considered rude anyway??

Ie 'who's she? The cat's mother?'

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Yeahnahyeah · 28/09/2019 09:05

Naww crap, I used a 'she'. Was trying so hard too. Grin

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