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I no longer tell my child to be inclusive and kind

58 replies

Birdsfoottrefoil · 17/09/2019 00:56

Interesting blog. We should teach our children it is ok discriminatory in order to keep themselves safe.

www.scarymommy.com/dont-tell-child-to-be-inclusive-kind/

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Coyoacan · 17/09/2019 05:55

God that article is over the top

I must admit this is the first time I've ever heard of a child stalker and for the entire world to cease to value kindness because a girl was once creeped out is a bit extreme.

And I know feminism has some extremely interesting critiques of kindness in women, but it is still a valuable commodity.

OooErMissus · 17/09/2019 05:51

I was made to feel uncomfortable by a man on the bus when I was with my daughter, aged about 7 at the time.

I told him to leave us alone, and then said (quietly) to DD that it's OK not to be polite to people who make you feel uncomfortable.

In fact, it's not just OK, it's essential.

I am the first to shoot the breeze and exchange pleasantries with randoms, and my DC see me do this all the time.

But I won't be 'polite' or accommodating to people who make me feel uncomfortable.

Alicewond · 17/09/2019 05:32

You teach your children what you believe and what matches your values. You don’t need to rely on other people’s studies to say what is right or wron

TinyMystery · 17/09/2019 05:31

God that article is over the top 🙄

Teapot13 · 17/09/2019 05:23

I think you can teach children to be kind and inclusive generally but to still pay attention to one's gut feelings when something doesn't seem right.

Coyoacan · 17/09/2019 03:25

My mother told me not to teach my dd to blindly obey adults. She said it was ok for my dd to not want to be hugged. I really admire my mother for going against the teachings she had given me when when I was growing up. But I still think it is important to teach our children to be kind.

skql · 17/09/2019 01:27

it maybe derailing the topic but in my country parents used to teach kids
"be good, be kind, respect elders".(strong Confucian Culture)
but after some kidnapping crimes, parents don't teach that and now
"adult can take care of themselves, so if stranger asked help just call the cops"

we realized that good kids can be more easy target.

BogglesGoggles · 17/09/2019 01:17

That’s not discrimination though ...

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