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In support of Amy Dyess

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AllNaturalWoman · 27/08/2019 21:07

Title says it all really. Amy has publicly disagreed with the detransitioners representing lesbians at Manchester pride and has been called out for being 'unsupportive' rather than a recognition she has a right to hold the views she does twitter.com/amydyess/status/1166114175367532545?s=21

Whilst I've been glad to see a public retraction from the 2 desisters and I am sure doing that Pride being booed this time will not have been easy I see Amy's point that if they are bi they don't speak for lesbians and in particular they shouldn't go from speaking for the trans movement to speaking for lesbians. I'm bi, my life experience is very different and considerably easier than being lesbian. As a bi woman I don't have the right to speak for lesbians and just as most of us here don't feel LibDems women can give away our rights and identity as women to transwomen neither bi nor lesbian women have the right to give away rights and identify as lesbian to anyone who is not.

Amy is principled and consistent so I do tend to stop and take notice when she's calling behaviours out.

There should be room for Amy's principled stance at the same time as feeling Charlie desisting publicly is encouraging. Why the need to convince Amy she's wrong?

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BringbackLang · 17/05/2020 17:51

I'm still pondering how our view are cultish when , up until a few years ago when the gender identity nonsense started, they were and still are the norm.

Alloutofwool · 17/05/2020 17:41

Weren’t two of the authors of those three articles the ones bullying Louise Moody just before her wife died? So not exactly going to believe a word they say about anything.

NotTerfNorCis · 17/05/2020 17:40

some might say running an operation of that nature is in the territory of human trafficking &/or terrorism. shipping humans into the UK, illegally seeking residence for them, & to then commodify them as political pawns, in order to grow your campaign of extremism & radicalisation

TRAs sure like hyperbole.

twitter.com/AdrianHarrop/status/1261989048433946629?s=19

SunsetBeetch · 17/05/2020 17:38

Bloody hell.

twitter.com/CChinneide/status/1261984510570303488?s=19

SunsetBeetch · 17/05/2020 17:34

Absolutely. It's never enough

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/05/2020 17:32

Like night follows day...

BringbackLang · 17/05/2020 17:32

Nothing but complete capitulation and even then it won't be good enough.

SunsetBeetch · 17/05/2020 17:31

Oh look who's chimed in!

""Looking back on her time in the “gender critical” feminist movement, she is unequivocal: it’s a cult."

Must read article by @vicparsons_ about a courageous woman who left the anti-trans cult t.co/cBCZtDjEpv "

twitter.com/OwenJones84/status/1262055135523422214?s=19

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/05/2020 17:31

Quite a few demanding a grovelling apology

I'm sure. Best jump to it, Amy!

OvaHere · 17/05/2020 17:30

They're really hung up on the idea that we have leaders. It's just not true - we have prominent voices, people who are more well known and influential than others but that's really not the same thing.

The fact that some of us disagree with others from time to time is entirely normal.

NotTerfNorCis · 17/05/2020 17:29

twitter.com/CChinneide/status/1262039958946295808?s=19

I don’t think she’s a reformed character. She’s speaking out about the harm the terf cult caused her, which is bad, but she hasn’t yet taken responsibility for all the harm she caused trans people or apologised for it. I’m suspicious her decision to speak out is self serving.

Quite a few demanding a grovelling apology.

SunsetBeetch · 17/05/2020 17:23

Oh, Amy...

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NotTerfNorCis · 17/05/2020 15:51

A couple of other recent articles on the 'cult' allegation.

Deviant Lesbian

medium.com/@deviantlesbian/play-nicely-cbbab85408c7

I have never regretted slamming the door on gender critical feminism. It is a gateway to radicalisation; around the time I was leaving I called it a cult (they didn’t like that very much). It is a cult, and much like anyone who leaves a cult — you realise that the only way to escape it is to cut all ties entirely.

Rhys MacKavanagh

rhysmckavblog.wordpress.com/2020/05/14/and-he-stoppeth-one-of-three/

I think you [Katy Montgomerie] instead chose to put that aside to see me as a person escaping a very toxic cult-like environment. Your suggestion that this online GC movement was a lot like a cult was confirmation of a question I had been asking myself privately for a very long time.

A tweet from Katy Montgomerie :
twitter.com/KatyMontgomerie/status/1243206795822276609

Well done. It's hard to get out of cults and important to offer people a lifeline. I have done a lot of research into the BITE model and cults. Being LGBT is not one, being GC is

As ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings posted upthread, the BITE model is here: freedomofmind.com/bite-model/

Behavioural control includes deprivation of food and sleep, financial control, requiring you to seek permission for big decisions etc. Information control means withholding information, extensive use of propaganda, gaslighting, reporting on others for misconduct etc. Thought control involves changing your identity, possibly even your name; teaching thought-stopping techniques; rejecting critical thinking; using loaded language to stop critical thought; instilling good versus evil thinking. Emotional control is defined as instilling irrational fears, love-bombing, teaching guilt for wrongthink, threatening friends and family, shunning unbelievers, teaching that some emotions/reactions are evil etc.

'Behavioural control' is less relevant here because it implies the person is physically under the control of the cult. But the other categories? I know which of GC feminism and transactivism would emerge as more cult-like.

WhereYouLeftIt · 17/05/2020 15:22

"I've noticed a lot of intense propaganda calling GC feminism a cult, just over the last few days."
That's very interesting. Every time the TRAs move to a new tactic, it's because the last tactic is no longer working. They must be about out of tactics by now.

Clymene · 17/05/2020 15:11

Amy is clearly in the grip of a paranoid delusion as is perfectly clear in that article. Prick News should be ashamed of themselves. Then again, it does really highlight how laughable it is that they can call themselves journalists.

ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 17/05/2020 15:09

freedomofmind.com/bite-model/

The BITE model of cult behaviours, in case anyone wants to compare and contrast GC vs TRA...

Datun · 17/05/2020 14:54

I think it's just projection

Indeed.

How is a 'cult' people trying to get our government, service providers, retailers, schools, police and charities to uphold laws which already exist? How is a 'cult', teenage girls pointing out the illegality of advice being given to schools? How is a 'cult' a group of lawyers and ex-cops successfully taking the police to court for over reach?

They can call it what they like. It doesn't stop the reality from happening.

NotTerfNorCis · 17/05/2020 14:52

Well I've never heard GC feminists invite vulnerable young people to join their 'glitter family', or hide what they're doing from their parents by using a special button on a web page.

ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 17/05/2020 14:51

That was... Quite a read. So, this is Amy who wrote that entire research project into lesbians being sexually harrassed and assaulted by trans women? What, she thinks TWAW now? She thinks her own research project was right wing properganda? She made it up to be popular with GC Feminists? Or do I have the wrong person? All seems to be very confusing.

Anyway, at the end of the day even if everything she says is true, that the GC movement is just top to bottom packed with lying, abusive, controlling, love bombing, homophobic, alt right psychopaths... Humans still can't change sex. If all she says is true then that's terrible and she's right to have nothing more to do with it all... But humans still can't change sex. Even if every single atheist is a scum bag, that still doesn't prove that a god exists. So I'm not really sure what the point of the article was apart from broadcasting one person's unsubstantiated subjective opinion. But then that's about as good as Penis News journalism ever gets really, isn't it.

OvaHere · 17/05/2020 14:48

I think it's just projection. They do this a lot. Regardless though there's only one cult encouraging minors and young people to remove healthy body parts and take dangerous medication and it's not British rad fems.

NotTerfNorCis · 17/05/2020 14:22

Wondering if the 'cult' thing came from her or whether it was suggested to her. This is the third or fourth article I've seen in just the last few days claiming GC feminism is a cult. On the surface it looks like a reaction to feminists who've long referred to the 'trans cult'. But feminists did that because transactivism is irrational (you are what you believe you are, there are 100 genders) and because it's very dogmatic, persecuting non-believers and apostates (detransitioners). The same can't be said about GC feminism, which is based on biological reality and which never tries to get people thrown out of their jobs for wrongthink. So the TRAs making up a narrative about grooming, love-bombing, and hiding more obscure parts of GC belief until people are initiated - which makes it sound like scientology. (I'd like to know what these obscure beliefs are. Obviously I'm not in deep enough.)

OvaHere · 17/05/2020 14:18

You get that with any type of movement or cause. Some people seek to be a part of something for reasons other than just what the cause is about.

Usually because they are looking for personal affirmation, somewhere to belong and any number of other reasons that have little to do with the activism itself.

Inevitably the community falls short of what they hoped to derive from it and a fallout ensues. Many will just move on to the next cause and repeat the same patterns.

None of the above has anything to do with the actual value of the activism at all.

Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 17/05/2020 14:15

From what I've seen on twitter over the last few years I would categorise Amy as someone with a number of vulnerabilities who is susceptible to love bombing. Her current love affair with TRA's won't necessarily last either. this is my impression too plus she consistently posts in a remarkably angry/manipulative fashion (even for twitter Shock)

Alloutofwool · 17/05/2020 14:12

I’ve seen a lot of ‘former gc’ members calling the movement a cult, and many other fun names. Apparently the gc movement is brainwashing innocent people and using them to progress their ‘Vile hate campaign’. 🙄🙄🙄. Even people I thought were fairly sensible have bought into this.

OvaHere · 17/05/2020 14:10

'Struggling movement'

HaHaHa

British women rock and we've made huge strides in the last couple of years. Hence all the legal challenges and withdrawal of dodgy guidance that's been going on.

Amy was planning a move to the UK last year because she was having some sort of long distance romance with a woman here. A number of women on Twitter gave her advice about good places to live etc...

It went wrong (for whatever reason) and she was quite bitter about it. I'm sure that hasn't fed the animosity towards British women at all.