Detroit

There isn't a way i can see. I wish we could have a mumsnet visit too. That would be fun. I've called round shelters again. All full. I've 3 more nights here then...I dunno. If I leave the metro area my availabile possible resources plummet. Disappear. I lose my place on lists, etc. I need to stay in the city limits, but can't find a safe cheap place.

Sending love to you , Detroit , across the ocean .

And yes, I know you said no there was no help you could think of - it isn't that I'm not listening, it's wanting you to just check again in case.

What are your real options right now? What do you most feel is the right way forward right now? Is there anything we can do that would help?

Wishing very much it was possible to bring you tea, cake (carefully fitted to dietary needs) and a hug

I'ld have been dead years ago if I had not left. This bought me precious time away from Mr Charming. But it's not sustainable. Esp not in civil unrest and a pandemic. I've been speaking to the right people. But there's so much need, and so few resources. It's not quick enough. And to find a very cheap place quickly in the city ...oy veh! I swear ...... People want money for a room but don't want you in the room

And no wonder you are upset, it sounds a very difficult situation.

Clear moments are so short.
There is much more darkness. More
ocean than terra firma. More
shadow than form.

Adam Zagajewski

Interesting is neither here nor there. You are in need of help and support and somebody out there must be able to provide it. There are many good people in the world, it's just a question of finding them.

Well done on avoiding the dodgy man. Glad your instincts are still protecting you.

If only we were in the US we might be better able to help or help you find support.

I don't think there's any way anyone can help. Full shelters, waiting lists. Very very expensive houseshares, any short term ones seem to be inhabited by predators. Just v shaken up by a guy offering me a place very cheaply....I won't bore you, but don't need to end up scattered across an urban park in black plastic bags. Shudder. I've got a call back from a community line, but ...yeah...can't lovelies. Just really impossibile to get back inside. I thought I had found a poss housemate situation, but no. Seriously this is not interesting stuff. I'm sorry I'm busy drowning, I keep wishing I could help with activism, but see you are all doing fabulously without me. It's so important what you are doing. I'm very upset right now.

We are all here rooting for you, Detroit.

I'm so sorry this hasn't worked out Detroit, I really am. It is awful what has happened to you. What are you planning as the next step? Is there anything we can do to help?

Ok lovelies! It's just not possible. I can't find any solution to get in a place. It's full of your usual predators, lunatics, general hateful people emboldened by Trump. I've done my best, but this isn't possible. I did try. I left, I made the best of the campfires and racoons, I did my best to get through winter, survive pandemic and fires, but I can't find a foothold in the city. I'll deteriorate further. So, time to just accept it's not possible. Do you all know how much I've enjoyed your company! Thank you. I've been very tired recently. Exhausted. I'm running on nothing at all. I can't do this. Did i mention you are lovely? I keep an eye, watching you fight the good fight, stay strong, WIN! You are all so brave. All my love! Detroit xxxx hugs xxxx

Wishing you luck and strength today, Detroit. x

Mild reaction to the food, but could have been worse. I had to eat something!

I'm so glad you've eaten. Hang in there love, hoping very much there's no reaction

Yes, had to take a chance. I can't starve. Thank you for caring

Fingers crossed. Glad you've eaten at least.

Had to take a risk....no immediate reaction... nervous

Have you got cooking facilities? Can the people providing your accommodation help?

So looks like today is a bust. I desperately need a hot meal that won't kill me with food allergies. I can't stop crying. This was why I stayed doing what I was doing. Just basic living is impossible in highly urban areas like this. I've nowhere suitable to go Tuesday. I should not have tried this.

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So we've had fires, a pandemic, lockdowns, no showers...the Donald being a dangerous tyrant, political unrest. I'm kinda nervous about what next! On top of that I have to be able to get a meal. I m past hungry and feeling very spaced out. Trying to get a suitable place to stay so I stay near the support. I can't do this by myself any more. The trans rights people win. I'll call a boy a girl, not panic if I have to deal with a male, or not let them see my panic. Anything. I'm utterly broken at this point.

Wishing you luck Detroit xxxx

For anyone else to cook safely for me is a real pain. I can't get sick or a bad reaction. I'll be ok. Promise.

Please feel that you can vent on here, freely, Detroit. Nothing crass about it. That sounds really hard.

I'm so sorry there isn't more help out there for you. This might sound a bit off the wall, but don't the Hare Krishnas cook without seasonings/spices? They are cultish, but I've been fed by them before, just had to sit through some tedious chanting. I wonder if other churches/temples or religious groups might be worth asking, too?

I've been there, fwiw, though I don't have allergies. Eaten out of bins and sometimes got some very good quality food, too. Supermarkets?

Sending you warm wishes and all the best. Hope that something turns up for you soon. x

I knew this would be hard. That ikd have no way to cook for myself. The reality is a bit harsher. I've not had a meal since Tuesday. Tuesday I only had boiled veg. Monday had full meal. Not got a meal since. Just apples, oranges, and a little cheese . I can't eat much dairy. So it's a long time . Not going to fix that today as i only can stay here till the morning of the third, shelters are full. If I go out of the center my options for assistance plummet. So, I'm trying to get something fixed. I'm trying not to cry. Today and tomorrow must be spent concentrating on housing. I wish somewhere would just boil me veg and some meat, no seasoning, no spices. Just veg cooked in a non cc pan! A woman can't live on apples alone!