I've changed my name for this post. I'm a GC lesbian and I've been going to one particular social group for the last couple of years. We organise meet-ups through a closed FB group. There are probably about 50 of us but we don't all know each other or all meet up at any one time so I'm constantly meeting members I don't know. Anyone wishing to be involved needs to be introduced by someone already in the group. There is no specific NoTW rule but I would say that most women involved are GC and when we say 'lesbian' we don't mean someone with a dick. There are a couple of woke and blissfully-unthinking women but we're a closed FB group with a requirement that new recruits are vouched for by existing members precisely because we want to avoid being infiltrated by men.
I've missed the last couple of months' activities but went for a walk and then to a pub with the dykes last Sunday. We were joined by a number of other group members and an individual some of the women greeted by name and seemed to know.
I know women come in all shapes and sizes and styles and I respect that. The group includes some very masculine-looking women but I've never mistaken them for men. All I can say is that this person is very unusual looking; very pronounced jaw and heavy brow, no hips or bottom and what I think might be described as a beer belly with what looked to me more like moobs than boobs resting on top. They also had a very, very deep voice. My instinctive response to the entire package was 'Man alert, unidentified man in the lesbian group!'
I talked to this individual and their girlfriend for some time. Just the usual getting-to-know-you chat. The girlfriend seemed very subdued and nervous. The other one, the one who was already known to some of the group, stuck rigidly to vague factual information about the area of work they're in and their recent holiday and chose their words very carefully.
It turns out that neither lives in the area and that they'd driven more than 100 miles to get to the pub that night. The one I think may be a man was born locally and is a friend of a woman in the group (not one of the women who was there that night) and has, through her, gained access and attended occasional events.
I was given a lift home afterwards and as soon as the car started I asked the other three if anyone else had any concerns. Turns out that though the others in the car are GC and though they'd thought there was something weird, no one had wanted to go there. Once I voiced my thoughts they were 'Oh fuck, now you say it...'
Is any of this familiar to anyone out there? What did you do?