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Remember that grey hair is rarely attractive

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TheGreysAreComing · 07/08/2019 16:46

5. Remember that grey hair is rarely attractive unless you have the correct combination of skin tone and eye colouring! (You suit clothes in blues, lilacs, greys and pinks and have neutral skin tone and grey/blue eyes).

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Thoughts? Posting this in FWR as I know AIBU will be full of posters who wish to post that actually they do believe grey hair on women is unattractive.. like pubes, and women leaving the house without a chaperone face full of makeup.

Regardless of a person's personal beliefs on grey hair (or any colour) there is something exceptionally sexist and patronising in advising women to remember they are unattractive. Now, now ladies, lest you forget or start to feel confident in your hair colour, you are probably unattractive.

Also, I've known lots of beautiful black women with grey hair btw but not a single one with blue eyes though.. so not sure if this brand counts them or not. Hmm

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BogglesGoggles · 07/08/2019 17:00

I’m inclined to agree. Grey hair suits very few people as well as their original colour. Lots of things are unattractive, nothing wrong with aknowledging that and sharing an opinion on what is/isn’t aesthetically pleasing. The analysis of who would suit grey is rather over simplified imo. What’s more problematic is the assumption that people will try to cover up grey hair. Not everyone is vain enough to give a shit.

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TheGreysAreComing · 07/08/2019 17:00

TBF Blue rinses seem to be all the rage with the yoof these days snuggy.

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TheGreysAreComing · 07/08/2019 16:59

I think I can safely say that I give not a shiny shit if Daniel Field finds me attractive.

I also have a baren field of shiny shits. Which is too bad for Dan as I won't be purchasing his dye because I don't support businesses that tell women they are a bit crap.

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SnuggyBuggy · 07/08/2019 16:58

I must admit I think I would like to get a blue rinse when I'm older

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TheGreysAreComing · 07/08/2019 16:56

The 'correct' combination of skin and eye colour - ffs. Oy, you - your combination of skin, eye and hair colour is incorrect - change it at once.
I mean, it's your actual natural hair colour. How can it be wrong? Confused

I actually think grey hair looks beautiful on most women and I'm more than keen on men but strangely when mine grew in it was a total different curl to my other hair causing a sort of two layer multi hair system, hence looking into grey coverage which goes someway into disguising the insanity. The other possibility was dying it all grey but I'm worried I will get the tone wrong. Natural grey has lots of different lovely shades, and I'm not sure I can recreate that with home DIY kits.

What I find strange is that silver fox men who as far as I know are in no way differently coloured to women don't seem to have these issues.

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GCAcademic · 07/08/2019 16:56

I think I can safely say that I give not a shiny shit if Daniel Field finds me attractive. He’s someone who I haven’t ever given a moment’s thought to. I haven’t dyed my hair and never will, though I do have quite a few greys. One of the best things about being middle-aged is being invisible to men. The last thing I’d want is to go back to the relentless fucking hassle and actual fear I experienced in my 20s when men, apparently, did find me attractive.

woodhill · 07/08/2019 16:55

Well stating the obvious isn't it in his interest to make this statement as there is money to be made from products and Hair colouring

It is just rubbish though

JellySlice · 07/08/2019 16:54

Would they also say

Remember that unhighlighted hair is rarely attractive
Remember that mousy hair is rarely attractive
Remember that non-relaxed Afro hair is rarely attractive

Yes, I agree with you.

What they're actually saying is
Remember that whatever natural, unmodified feature you have is rarely attractive

ScreamingValenta · 07/08/2019 16:50

Ugh. I hate the expectation that women's primary goal in life is to be attractive to men, and the kind of 'how dare you!' attitude towards women who don't actually give a fig.

The 'correct' combination of skin and eye colour - ffs. Oy, you - your combination of skin, eye and hair colour is incorrect - change it at once.