Remember that grey hair is rarely attractive

20 years ago I considered a blue rinse for when I was older and grey. I decided an apricot rinse would suit my natural colouring better which is thankfully the correct shades. Wtf?
The yoof are welcome to the blue rinse. An older lady of distinction has apricot or violet

I'm discovering more and more white hairs in my bizarrely coloured hair that is neither red nor blonde nor brown but some kind of golden colour. I've never dyed it. It's just odd. And now it's going white. I pluck them out but it will be a losing battle soon. I can't afford to dye it so an apricot rinse will have to suffice.

What I like about the grombre account is that it shows you how young many women go grey, which you often wouldn't know due to hair dye. It made me feel less crappy about going grey fairly young although I'm still not liking how my hair looks with grey showing mainly because of the placement and texture. Maybe once it's all grey I'll be one of those swooshy silver haired laydeez.

I've suddenly remembered an account I saw on instagram called Grombre which is a community of women ditching hair dye and going grey with style if anyone is interested (Your can see the account without having your own instagram account):

www.instagram.com/grombre/?hl=en

They use grombre and silversisters as hashtags, not sure if they are on twitter and facebook too.

Men tend to forget that misogynism is extremely unattractive.

Good one merrymouse

It's unclear how fashion trends like DMs, Ugg boots, long Laura Ashley Skirts, pie crust collars or track suits ever took off if women only dress for men

I think men hate Laura Ashley. I was a big fan in my younger years.

The thing I find interesting is the assumption that women should care if they're attractive. Why? I don't. There is exactly, in the entire world, only one person (DH) that I want to be attracted to me. I don't care about the rest

I'm not particularly interested in whether my husband finds what I wear attractive. He certainly didn't in my Laura Ashley days. I dress and style my hair to please me- no one else.

I like grey hair.

But it is a website selling hair dyes.

The thing I find interesting is the assumption that women should care if they're attractive. Why? I don't. There is exactly, in the entire world, only one person (DH) that I want to be attracted to me. I don't care about the rest

This. Somehow, after more than 51 years of marriage, DH still finds me attractive and that's all that matters.

I have lifelong eczema, so never dared dye my hair. It was ash-blonde when I was young, faded to mouse in middle-age and now in my early 70s it's grey and gradually turning more silvery. It's also becoming curly. I haven't had curls since I was 10!

I think it is utterly bizarre that someone thinks the only point of caring about their appearance is to catch a man.

It's unclear how fashion trends like DMs, Ugg boots, long Laura Ashley Skirts, pie crust collars or track suits ever took off if women only dress for men. Also why are there are so many youtube videos about plaits?

If you assume that women care more about appearance, you need to think why

If you are speaking to me, no I don't. I really don't care. I hate being scruffy and badly dressed. I think it is utterly bizarre that someone thinks the only point of caring about their appearance is to catch a man.

It really is wearisome.

Or that women are conditioned into it by society.

Or that men are conditioned out of it.

Many men find it very difficult to take part in any activity branded as feminine.

That's interesting. Why do you dye it then?

I started to play around with my hair colour because once I started going grey at a very young age I didn’t know who the hell I was looking at on the mirror. It took a decade to get used to. Then one day everything just seemed to come together, I was in the hairdressers every 4 weeks and we were fighting Mother Nature so I just decided there and then - never again.

I’m completely grey now but it’s lovely and people ask who my hairdresser is and what highlights etc I have. 😂.

The irony.

IF you accept that more women dye their hair then men, you MIGHT want to then decide why.

If you assume that women care more about appearance, you need to think why.

The options are that women are on average born that way, implying also a female brain.

Or that women are conditioned into it by society. In that case, who made the rules and why? Why do women in particular want to look nice more so then men and why does looking nice mean we want to avoid grey hair, again more so than men?

but I can understand why some people want to for purely aesthetic reasons - similar to those of us who like a nice dress (with pockets). For some people, grey may be an aesthetic choice too

Indeed. I'm a bit at the idea one would only care about one's appearance to catch a man.

That's interesting. Why do you dye it then? I'm not being facetious, I genuinely can't think of any inducement other than sex that would be powerful enough to outweigh the faff and expense?

The only reason I make any effort with my appearance is in order to be attractive to men

Nope- doesn't enter into it one iota.

I like being well dressed, groomed and elegant. I like tailored, expensive, classic clothes and/or tailored , expensive, unusual clothes. I have a number of made to order dresses from a designer the Dutchess of Cornwall uses. Dyeing my hair is just part of that look. I do this for myself.

I don't dye my hair (the sort of fair hair which will presumably just fade rather than grey) but I can understand why some people want to for purely aesthetic reasons - similar to those of us who like a nice dress (with pockets). For some people, grey may be an aesthetic choice too.

I dye my hair. I don't dye it to be attractive to men.

That's interesting. Why do you dye it then? I'm not being facetious, I genuinely can't think of any inducement other than sex that would be powerful enough to outweigh the faff and expense?

The only reason I make any effort with my appearance is in order to be attractive to men. My grooming is deteriorating with my waning libido. When it finally fizzles out, I shall do nothing other than observe the most basic personal hygiene.

Most of the blokes I know may be bald on top but they have grey elsewhere and I don't believe the idea of dyeing it enters their heads

I've known a few men who do and they tend to be laughed at behind their backs. Who knows? If it were socially acceptable may be they might. I've seen men in the (enormously expensive and very good) salon I go to. I don't think you would know my hair is dyed unless you stopped to think that at my age it might be unlikely to have no grey. I assume the effects on their male clients are equally good.

MO, Daniel is right to think grey hair is rarely attractive, but wrong to think we should necessarily give a shit. There's a lot more to life than being attractive to men

I dye my hair. I don't dye it to be attractive to men. Oh I know that will cue the usual patronising responses about I might think that, but feminists with their higher enlightenment know better

Yes not only are we unattractive but we are dozy old bitches who might forget that we are unattractive and venture out in public. Thanks for the grey heads up Daniel.

The person who wrote the article has their opinion on grey hair, I happen to not find balding men attractive, it’s just opinions 🤷‍♀️

I bet the percentages are quite different. Any evidence to support 'loads'?

What stick do you have up your arse? When I said “we” I was clearly talking about women, and women do dye their hair more often, which you’ve admitted to!

Maybe women are just more vain than men & care more about their looks? Not everything is a conspiracy.

Most of the blokes I know may be bald on top but they have grey elsewhere and I don't believe the idea of dyeing it enters their heads.

I bet the percentages are quite different. Any evidence to support 'loads'?

Do we? Men don't. So if that's true, why?

2/3rds of men are bald by the time they’re 35. Loads of men use “just for men” hair dye they aren’t going to announce it to the world.

If he'd said, lots of people like to cover greys, here's some great dye, I doubt anyone would have noticed. It's the arrogant, opinionated, objectifying 'remember, grey hair is rarely attractive!' which is flame-worthy.