If I'm a feminist but not radical or liberal, what am I?

Listen, please. Needing a very specific label for the particular permutation of your beliefs and opinions is precisely the mechanism that got us in this mess in the first place.

Yes. Just centre women and girls and you'll be fine, OP.

Purity politics is factional politics is wasted politics.

I'm probably closest to socialist feminism but don't label myself because I take what's useful from everywhere and discard what isn't.

I'm a feminist because I centre women.

Over time, the more I have thought about it possibly thanks to Mumsnet this has made me more of a radical feminist.

But like masses of other women I'm straight. I don't have children but I think that motherhood is a central part of being a woman and we are oppressed by our biology - whether you have children or not most women will have experienced this, and v much so if you have.

Over and over you see women becoming more feminist when they have children and realising that their husband actually doesn't believe in 50:50, or his life hasn't changed in the way their's has, childcare options are shit, the support isn't there, what's happening to their pension and a million other things.

So I'd just say you are a woman!

A few radfems who are happy childfree lesbians who have political arguments against motherhood and heterosexual relationships, doesn't mean that you're not a radfem. They don't own the term. Its not a movement where everyone has exactly the same beliefs on everything

I'm married to a man and have three DC. I'm not a SAHM now but I was when my DC were little. I love being a mum. I'm GC.

I'd just call myself a feminist.

What on Earth? About 95% of women are hetero. About 80% of women (in the UK) have one or more child.

Many married mums are rad. Or feminist, without being radical.

Neither sexuality or having babies is inherently harmful. The way the patriarchy can weaponise them against women is.

You’re fine OP.

I am simply a feminist.

You don't have to subscribe to any specific label to justify your stance. IMO it's much better to be a critical thinker rather than follow any particular ideology wholesale.
There will be many things that RadFem gets right, and others it gets wrong. Feminists should feel brave and confident enough to criticize and question and be skeptical of the ideas and arguments put forward.
Unquestioning support for X simply because that's the official RadFem stance doesn't make one much different from an unquestioning supporter of LibFem ideas.

Always be open to learning and change. Develop a strong inner ethical compass / conscience / whatever you want to call it. Examine and research and look for evidence and facts on any subject matter. Take your time to develop a nuanced viewpoint and opinion. This may mean that it's possible you might find yourself in conflict with some RadFem ideas or more ideologically pure stances. That's ok. It's good to think for yourself and be willing to reconsider your position if the facts support it.

If heterosexual relationships, motherhood etc bring you joy and fulfillment, go for it!
All human beings want to be loved, accepted and have a sense of purpose. There are so many ways to achieve this.
Women should make informed decisions with their eyes wide open. As long as they realise motherhood currently brings a lot of challenges and disadvantages in a patriarchal society, in addition to happiness, then they can be better prepared for it to minimise the risks.
Feminist movements should strive to improve the life of mothers and push for legislation that gives them better rights and protections. It's a slow process and probably requires cooperation with other types of political movements. In the meantime, women should weigh up the risks and benefits of various life altering decisions and choose what they feel more comfortable with as individuals.

Exactly, floral. Do your feminism, centre women, act on the particular strands of it that fit your preferences and values, and worry less about labels.

Incidentally, OP, had you seen the recent rash of threads of “can I be a feminist if....?”. There is a definite theme on the board of wedge driving between feminists right now, and it’s likely that your thread will be read in the context of that.

I have my theories of why it’s happening. Maybe you had to live through the 80s/90s feminist scene and the whole “can you be a feminist without being a socialist” schisms...

Listen, please. Needing a very specific label for the particular permutation of your beliefs and opinions is precisely the mechanism that got us in this mess in the first place.

You don't have to agree with every single thing another feminist says to also be a feminist. You just need to put women as the point and centre of your feminism. How that manifests in your opinions is entirely up to you as a human female individual.

That's the point. It's not a club or a religion. You are allowed to have your own views, disagree, challenge others, change your mind about some things, whatever.

I think it’s being someone who genuinely wants to support all women, who lives in the real world and does not run away from the hard questions.

I agree with the OP. For years I avoided calling myself a feminist because, shock horror, not only was I married to a man and loved motherhood, I was actually a happy SAHM. Watching this thread.
The trans discussion is what brought me to this board.

References? Links?

Otherwise you run the risk of people here thinking that you've just made that up

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3652131-Is-there-a-place-in-radical-feminism-for-women-who-are-married-to-men

But I don't agree with the rad fems who say all heterosexual relationships and motherhood are both, by nature harmful to women..

References? Links?

Otherwise you run the risk of people here thinking that you've just made that up.

Can't have that, can we?

I think it's called being a proper feminist.

I don’t need to label my feminism as any particular strand personally. I’m not either liberal or radical, much closer to the latter but I don’t think a lot of it makes sense. You don’t need to be anything more than feminist.

Yes it should be. Many/most women become mothers and even if they don't, the expectation that they might can have a big impact on their lives.

Motherhood is a hugely central part of feminism, surely?

It should be. But do you think it is? I mean, in any style of feminism.

Motherhood is a hugely central part of feminism, surely?

I think it's just called being normal.