School changing child's gender

Or the school might be one with a strict dress code and there might be a girl who doesn’t want to wear a skirt & tights and not play football at break. The girl at my dd’s school who has had the most heartbreak is the very tall well muscled girl who played rugby with her brothers at a club until she was too old to play mixed rugby. Her parents didn’t have any problem with her being non GC but being in the wrong body was her solution, we need more visible butch lesbians and more women who don’t look as if they are going to cocktail parties on TV.

Except that the post says the child is in reception, moving into year one.

Honestly Bespin - you don't half make yourself look dim sometimes

given that we don't know the age of the child I would suspect they are older and have requested that there marker be changed on the register if they have capacity to do this then the school is obliged to change it. children under 18 do have capacity to make these decisions if parents agree or not. People may not like that fact but they do have there own rights prior to the age of 18. the school in this case is probably only upholding those rights.

It is not clear but has the child even asked to be known as a boy or have the school decided she is dysphoric?

Terrifying for such a young child to be caught up like that.

The letter has an address that seems to be in Manchester?

The Manchester local education authority uses the same trans inclusion toolkit as Brighton and Hove: www.theproudtrust.org/resources/research-and-guidance-by-other-organisations/trans-inclusion-schools-toolkit/

If you dig through it, it states that pupil records should be updated to their chosen gender, as well as mentioning earlier in the document that parents shouldn't even be informed in some cases about children transitioning at school.

The trans inclusion toolkit also has advice about how children should use the toilets / accommodation that aligns with their gender rather than their sex, and that gender critical transphobic parents just need re-educating and may be a safeguarding concern if they don't support transition.

I live in an area using the toolkit and frankly it's terrifying.

We all need to ask schools how they would handle such a situation.

I did a FOI request to my LEA and they've never had mermaids in. They never will.

"Some people want girls to wear dresses.
Now people want dress wearers to be girls.
Both are wrong"

I mean whether the letter is authentic or not, the advice is appalling.

The advice from the mods is awful and chilling. No one to PM her, she must go back to mermaids, isolating her and sending her back to The people she claims are targeting her.

It's difficult to believe

Funny isn't it - looking at that letter I think it must be fake news. Nobody would be so stupid and dangerous and unethical would they?And then I take a look at the Allsorts pack, the Cornwall and Scottish guidelines, GIRES training packs, all recommending that teachers can keep confidences about 'transition' for even very young primary children and some of them advising that schools can transition a child in confidence without telling parents (as a concerned parent is a transphobic parent) and I realise.... it may well be true

If you could get in touch with the parent via Reddit then I'd direct her to Transgender Trend for advice.

This and also direct her here to FWR.

The child is 5 so hopefully the parents can get help asap and put a stop to this.

Personally i'd withdraw my child from the school.

That's so horrendous. What qualifies teachers to diagnose gender dysphoria?! A subject that trained medical professionals struggle with? As for the mods calling Mermaids and directing her back to them after she specifically mentioned that she had issue with them - well, I'm just horrified. How dare they? That poor woman. I hope you can contact her OP. If not I really really hope she finds Mumsnet ASAP. 💐

That is terrifying. Poor mum. Hope she finds her way here, where I am sure she will get more practical support than Reddit. I think you did the right thing in posting, but hear you on "unintended consequences" esp with the shit show that tends to surround transtuff in the media. If it is true, it is utterly gobsmacking that a teacher, has breached their position of trust in such a grotesque way, as to change the sex of a child on school records on absolutely no authority whatsoever. Not moral, not scientific, not ethical. Hope it is a fake.

At face value that is awful and the letter looks legitimate.
If you could get in touch with the parent via Reddit then I'd direct her to Transgender Trend for advice.

Schools are being advised that they can change a child's sex without parental consent by almost all of the untrained in child safeguarding or consent adult trans lobby groups. To do this for a reception age child is unbelievably sinister and awful .