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Radio 4 now - Surrogacy/Gay couples

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:33

On now. Supposedly focussing on the surrogates rather than the gay couples.

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:47

I need to listen back on iPlayer. If it's true that she is contractually unable to talk about the physical toll, I think that's what I heard, that's very telling about the whole surrogacy "industry".

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OrchidInTheSun · 16/07/2019 09:46

I think there's something very disturbing about a birth mother saying she felt so dissociated from the baby she carried.

I wonder how these kids feel knowing that their mother couldn't wait to give them away?

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:46

She's carrying again for another couple. Then is willing to do one more and agreeing to do this with the reporter and his husband. She will keep going to the age of 41, she thinks. She gets a lot of joy from the experience.

And that's it. No balance to hear any other experience that's not as rosy, but the programme is a short one called One To One, so I guess it is about an inherently biased personal experience.

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HappyPunky · 16/07/2019 09:45

She may well have disassociated from the baby but the baby hasn't from her.

It takes a lot of work by social services to remove a baby at birth from a potentially dangerous situation because babies are better off with their mothers.

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:42

The gay couple had skin to skin, not the surrogate. She didn't care about this, was just happy it was over. She didn't feel it was her baby. She says, "It was all your guys experience". She's adamant it wasn't her baby. She had no motherly instincts or bond (unlike with her own kids).

This is a BBC propaganda piece, isn't it.

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WeirdOne · 16/07/2019 09:39

Apparently the embryo was just "popped in"

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:38

Surrogate lady said that with a previous couple, they just dropped her because she had a medical problem and she didn't hear from them again. Left heartbroken.

Says that as it wasn't her egg she carried, she just felt like.a babysitter for 9 months!

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twelvecolourfulbirds · 16/07/2019 09:35

The reporter and his husband paid a surrogate via an agency. I think she said her contract doesn't allow her to talk about the toll on her body! Need to listen back to that bit.

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