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Is this what walking the dog means now?

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SophoclesTheFox · 14/07/2019 07:47

I was out yesterday with some friends and we were standing outside the venue we’d been to, on the Mall, so central London at about 3pm.

A group of about 30 or so men, accompanied by a couple of police officers walked by, and I was extremely taken aback to realise that it was some sort of pup fetish walk. In masks, with tails, on leads. Some of them were being walked “roughly” for want of a better word - let’s just say I would never yank my dog’s lead like that.

I was really uncomfortable, knowing what I know about this particular fetish. Is this now OK, to literally parade your fetish down the high street in broad daylight? Does the fact that no one was naked make it ok? What is the point of the march ? Because I can only see it as an attempt to normalise sexual behaviour in public places, and I’m not ok with that.

My friends thought it was kind of harmless fun, and that I’m a joyless old prude. I’m actually starting to get really concerned about the pressure for people to be welcoming of any old sexual behaviour in any context. Cui bono- who benefits when we break down the barriers of public and private behaviour? (Or in this case, cui bonio I suppose).

Thoughts?

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sakura184 · 15/07/2019 00:04

The police . Ugh. They're really not on women's side are they

LassOfFyvie · 14/07/2019 23:25

Kitten Play- is a thing although no where near as grim and it features women. There is a clip on BBC 3 of a young woman explaining what she gets out of it.

I'm not going to post a link as it's very sad and she is being exploited.

LassOfFyvie · 14/07/2019 23:22

"While we're keeping an open mind about the motive for these incidents, it's clear the individual responsible is deliberately attempting to cause alarm to the men and women he's approaching"

Could someone explain why the totally redundant words I've highlighted were included in the police statement? At this point we can safely assume bad intent.

SunsetBeetch · 14/07/2019 22:32

Claverham 'gimp suit' man terrifies woman in village

www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-bristol-48982140?__twitter_impression=true

FannyCann · 14/07/2019 21:58

* J*ust looked at their website- tables are available to book this afternoon.

Even if they were corralled into a private room - imagine going to the loo and bumping into one of these on the way out. Shock

Though it's interesting they chose Côte as it's a very middle class middle aged middle of the road chain. Is that the demographic of the pups?

BobTheDuvet · 14/07/2019 21:41

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Deliriumoftheendless · 14/07/2019 17:38

Hmmm. If I decide I’m into Kitten Play, can I go to sleep at work then vomit on my bosses desk without being made to feel bad about it?

MoleSmokes · 14/07/2019 17:23

@madcatladyforever Flowers Flowers Flowers

animaginativeusername · 14/07/2019 16:02

I didn't think there were many participants, only became aware of this fetish from preacher. But I assume this is what you saw. Definitely agree, some boundaries should be maintained,

Is this what walking the dog means now?
BuzzShitbagBobbly · 14/07/2019 14:45

I saw a video just this week of our dear old Jrubbercub of the NSPCC. It's him and some mates and their trip to a fetish shop.

The mates never unmask themselves from the full-head puppy masks from the start to end, including when they are in public. Rubbercub has what looks to be some kind of hooded/masked rubber clothing on but the hood is back.

It seems like s a key part of the fetish is the kicks they get from doing it in public. How that makes them any different to (say) a man masturbating in the park I don't know.

RosaWaiting · 14/07/2019 13:28

kendodd I missed your post

I’m beginning to think my dream of moving out of London to a nice green area is not going to be that great. Yours is not the first of this type of comment I’ve heard.

Why must people spoil everything? Can’t we have a women’s prude communal mansion and grounds somewhere?!

LassOfFyvie · 14/07/2019 13:27

FannyCann

My mother (90) loves a trip to Cote. She, and I, would be appalled if we found a group like this at the next table. I hope they've closed to the general public, they can expect much outrage if not

Just looked at their website- tables are available to book this afternoon.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 14/07/2019 13:12

And you have to wonder about the menu choice for “The Spit Roast sit down and dine event at 14.00 today
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

FannyCann · 14/07/2019 13:12

Isn't there a law against "offending public decency"? Has that law been suspended now we are no longer allowed to kink shame?

RosaWaiting · 14/07/2019 13:08

Carole, looking at that website, yes it is.

kendoddsdogsdead · 14/07/2019 12:59

A bunch of furries have "meets" in the marshes near where I live. It's a nature reserve, such a beautiful and educational area.

It's also a much used dogging site. I don't walk my children or dogs in that area now due to the weird things we have seen and the amount of used condoms on the floor Angry

LonginesPrime · 14/07/2019 12:52

I've seen people in fetish gear being walked around on leads on Brighton pier before - makes for an awkward conversation with the DC...

OvaHere · 14/07/2019 12:42

OMG this is fucking nuts (as opposed to the dog's bollocks, which it most definitely isn't Grin)

I despair that we've ended up in a place where this is acceptable public conduct.

AlwaysComingHome · 14/07/2019 12:40

always I think that is a bit of a stretch.

It was a joke. It’s hard to take the combination of puppies and rainbows innocently these days.

Is it wrong be nostalgic for those more innocent days when ‘dogging’ just meant having sex in your car while other people watched while having a wank?

Pissing up each other’s bum holes makes the whole thing sound kind of sordid.

CarolDanvers · 14/07/2019 12:37

Is this happening all over the world? Serious question. We must be an absolute laughing stock in some places.

FannyCann · 14/07/2019 12:36

My mother (90) loves a trip to Cote. She, and I, would be appalled if we found a group like this at the next table. I hope they've closed to the general public, they can expect much outrage if not.

Cocolapew · 14/07/2019 12:31

A couple of years ago DH was away working and was being put up in a Premier Inn.
It was next to a place where there was a fetish convention.
He said what people were wearing in the middle of the day in front of children was unbelievable.

RosaWaiting · 14/07/2019 12:31

The only time I’ve seen this in public was about midnight with a group en route to a fetish club. I used to been route to another club so we saw them a few times, but it was like a small group of friends, maybe six guys, two on leads. And it was midnight. This seems different.

The only thing I kind of hope is that there’ll be some sort of backlash and people will start demanding more privacy and better public behaviour?

picklemepopcorn · 14/07/2019 12:27

When my little darling asks why the funny people are dressed like that, I'd have to reply loudly "Those funny men think they look sexy dressed up like that. Poor things. Look, they've got some nice policemen to keep an eye on them."

TheRedBarrows · 14/07/2019 12:26

And you have to wonder about the menu choice for “The Spit Roast sit down and dine event at 14.00 today.”

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