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Why are bras so ridiculously uncomfortable? And phones and...

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WomenUnited · 13/07/2019 19:37

It is all just made for men isn't it?

I can't find a decent smartphone that fits in my hand any more never mind my pocket (I get those sewn in by the tailor now since they are mostly absent from women's clothes these days). I got tennis elbow and the physio partly blames the phone and banned me from typing on it rendering it fairly useless.

I hate bra shopping, it is always the same and I am always driven to it by summer heat making the usually uncomfortable completely unbearable.

Why all the sharp pointy scratchy spikes and lacy ribbony stupid bits and pinchy elastic everywhere?

I am allergic to latex which makes it all nigh impossible and not as svelte as I used to be so braless is no longer an option.

I am feeling very frustrated with it all and have been reading Invisible Women which is an incredible book and is making me brave enough to complain about what needs changed in my world!

We need women run companies making women centred design and development entirely accessible and the norm, like actual women not what men think women should settle for.

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changeitis · 15/07/2019 23:45

I am way behind and haven't read the whole thread. SORRY.

Fucking Cars. Bug bear of mine forever and I'm officially of now. Why shouldn't my foot reach the damn fucking pedal ?

Why is there an arm rest? My arm doesn't reach it.

So just patronise me by putting cameras and beepers in?

I'd love to be a car designer. And an architect for ladies toilets. And typist chairs. And desks. Work top heights.

Gah.

WomenUnited · 15/07/2019 23:19

Handbrakes on bikes and buggies - man sized.

In fact reading Invisible Women has me humming PJ Harvey on a daily basis.

In Asda today I carefully inspected an entire wall of cheapish lingerie and found not one pair of pants or bra sans lace or itchy elastic. I did in despair by one "soft bra" lined by lace which lookes as if it can be unpicked and removed. The men's department however had a very comfy section of cotton boxers and y fronts (no lace whatsoever) which I was tempted by but not sure the extra material would fit under my very fitted round the arse lady jeans. I did buy myself some very cheap man pjs on account of their soft warm comfyness and actual body covering usefulness in comparison to the chilly/woman/scratchy department.

I know Asda is hardly a template for world representation but it's as far as the budget can stretch sometimes!

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MoverOfPaper · 15/07/2019 13:00

The Anita never had moulded foam cups when I had them.

Molke are expensive £35 ish? Although that’s cheaper than bras I used to get from Rigby and Peller. But they’re a small company and Scottish made.

I agree about the cost and the pain of handwashing though.

Howslow · 15/07/2019 10:31

I dont feel oppressed without pockets.
I have found two extremely comfortable bra brands.
My phone feels fine.

Not saying you arent uncomfortable, but it isnt the case across the board!

TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain · 15/07/2019 10:29

That Anita bra would be perfect without the moulded foam cups.

What's the price like on Molke? Another thing I hate about bras is how much money we're meant to spend on them, and all that hand-washing nonsense. DH has some higher-end underwear and it requires no more maintenance than any other , and there's no faffy measuring or being told you need to get used to tightness either.

paap1975 · 15/07/2019 08:04

I don't own a single bra that is uncomfortable, but that's only been the case since I started going to a proper lingerie shop. The ladies there are amazing and deal with all sorts of body shapes and issues. There is no going back for me.
As for the phone, I have an iPhone SE, which I find is fine size-wise

HorsewithnoRegretsNonJeNeRegre · 15/07/2019 08:02

Press pads for debit cards don’t allow for nails.

?

hormonesorDHbeingadick · 15/07/2019 08:00

Try being pregnant. I’m struggling to get my average size legs close enough to the peddles because of my to be able to drive.

On the plus size I have found some really comfy stretchy nursing bras and dresses with pockets

growlingbear · 15/07/2019 07:50

Sports bras are good. They give reasonable support and are so comfortable you can sleep in them.

fedup21 · 15/07/2019 07:43

Sorry but I think the Molke bras are hideous. There's far too much fabric - you're practically wearing a t- shirt - and they don't look as if they give any support.

They give lots of support actually.

MIdgebabe · 15/07/2019 07:34

I don’t find them hot , which I did think I might as I have menopausal temperature control issues. Even in the hot weather I don’t get painful sweat rash undEr the boob which i do in conventional bras.

support for me (30 gg ) is grand at level 2, not tried a level 1, but you do get a more “natural” shape than the lift and separate artificial shape that is the norm, so it might seem strange. Since I have always been rather self conscious about my boobs, I really like this ( and several people have asked if I lost weight so it can’t look all bad)

LassOfFyvie · 15/07/2019 00:20

www.anita.com/shop/en/underwired-bra-serie-twin-080f65.html

Do they do any which aren't "Double-layered, pre-shaped cups" ? So many bras are that style and are horrible. The layer and pre- shaped cups feel so strapped on and unnatural.

LassOfFyvie · 15/07/2019 00:15

I’ve had a look at Molke bras and my main concern is that they look pretty hot for the summer

Sorry but I think the Molke bras are hideous. There's far too much fabric - you're practically wearing a t- shirt - and they don't look as if they give any support.

aliasundercover · 15/07/2019 00:11

men's pair also have a cargo pocket on each leg, but the women's ones only have one
It's the pocketriarchy

GoodyMog · 14/07/2019 23:45

I hate bras, but am uncomfortable without them, and because I'm over a D cup is a fucking nightmare to buy them, and they aren't cheap. Currently I'm having to resign myself to spending far too much money on bras that cause me pain

Whosorrynow · 14/07/2019 22:21

The never-ending search for the perfect bra..... count me in

fedup21 · 14/07/2019 22:18

I don’t find the Molke any hotter than my other bras.

I think they are brilliant-a bit of a revelation, tbh.

MoverOfPaper · 14/07/2019 22:04

The Twin bra is by Anita Rosa Faia

I no longer wear bras after mastectomy but when I did these were the business. They do non wired ones too.

www.anita.com/shop/en/underwired-bra-serie-twin-080f65.html

I asked on another thread about Mole bras. It’s over in style and Beauty. My teenage daughter doesn’t want itch or lace or ribbons. She doesn’t want frills or pink, and she certainly doesn’t want pain! I’m going to try the Molke bras for her. She’s only got a small chest at moment though.

CassianAndor · 14/07/2019 21:32

I’ve had a look at Molke bras and my main concern is that they look pretty hot for the summer, my underboob temperature reaches volcanic heights if the temp is much above 21 degrees.

Are they oK for the summer?

ScrimshawTheSecond · 14/07/2019 21:18

Pockets of resistance. Smile

fedup21 · 14/07/2019 21:01

I’d forgotten pockets!

Why are bras so ridiculously uncomfortable?  And phones and...
ScrimshawTheSecond · 14/07/2019 20:09

Deep pockets, good bras, comfortable shoes. It doesn't take much to make me happy.

StrangeLookingParasite · 14/07/2019 20:08

How do most women even walk in the crappy, uncomfortable, designed-by-robot contraptions in most shops?

German brand Trippen, and street shoes by athletic brands (Adidas, Puma, Nike, etc). I don't do heels at all.

fedup21 · 14/07/2019 19:38

I pretty much wear only Birkenstocks now, but they are a fortune

Me too. Molke bras and Birkenstocks!

TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain · 14/07/2019 19:23

Bras have become more restrictive and confining since I started wearing them. I would also like more choice of non-padded bras as I'm quite happy with my breast size and don't want wads of sweaty polyurethane foam down my top when I already sweat a lot.

Shoes are a nightmare as well. I want and need shoes that fasten properly over the instep, and come high up enough over the front of my foot to keep my toes secure. Otherwise they fall off. Men do not have this problem.

Bags with proper straps, as well, that you can fit stuff in without it breaking.

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