Older man exploits and abuses Hope Barden

I'm so sorry for your loss lilyb93 and that of your family. I can't imagine what you have all had to go through.

Another organisation that might be of help at some point is The Compassionate Friends, who support bereaved parents and sibling at any point in their journey of grief.

One of my best friends was murdered 20 years ago. His death has had a profound effect on his family, and continues to do so. We miss him enormously.

My friend was also subject to victim-blaming, although the high profile trial ended that somewhat.
I am so sorry that you and your family, and Hope’s friends, will never have the small comfort that properly served justice brings.

My friend’s parents were supported by an organisation called SAMM (Support After Murder and Manslaughter) and highly recommend them - there is no time limit, they are happy to make contact even years later: samm.org.uk/

So very sorry for your loss, lilyb93.

Your sister was clearly much loved, which is good to know, and how she died does not define her. No. It's the bastard who killed her who's defined by his cowardly, cruel crime.

I'm glad our support here is a help, however small. I imagine most people were horrified by the crime. It's only sick minds who blame the victim.

I know this probably doesn’t mean much, but it’s nice to know she was loved, had a life and a family that cares. You read these stories and they are so so sad. It’s important to realise there is a person of significance and consequence behind each and every tragedy.

I would just like to personally thank each and every one of you beautiful humans for your kind words and empathetic views on this hideous situation. I appreciate each and every comment on this site and it has made my day all of these amazingly kind comments thank you everybody xxx

I know, but I'd be a superhero if I could control the thoughts and actions of others and I guess that wouldn't be fair on them 🙄😂 her family and friends knew the real her so fuck what anyone else says x

This article shows there are more sick, depraved men out there too.

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/webcam-girls-share-dark-side-17266604.amp?__twitter_impression=true

I'm so very sorry lilyb

Lily I’m sorry I can’t offer any words that haven’t already been said but my condolences to you and your family.

I too want to say how sorry I am this happened to your sister Lilyb and it was NOT her fault, this man was a horrendous creature and perhaps if we valued women and their work more as a society she wouldn't have had to deal with the likes of him. Should you wish to carry out any action or awareness be assured I would personally be happy to help and I am certain the vast majority of women on this forum would be behind you.

So very, very sorry for your loss.

Lilyb and condolences on the loss of your sister to such a horrible crime. Adding my voice to those saying please keep in touch if you need further practical support with campaigning (petitions etc.)

lilyb93 I am so very sorry for what you and your family are going through. Please accept my sincere condolences

I for one will shed no tears over the fate of the depraved piece of human scum who was responsible for your sister's death.

@lilyb93 so terribly sorry that this vile man took your sister from you,I cannot imagine the pain your family is going through. It's hard, but please try to ignore the ignorant bigots who attempt to blame her, there are many of of us who know damn well who is to blame. Wishing you healing and peace

lilyb93 - there are plenty of people who are appalled by what happened to your sister. Lots of condolences to you and your family. If you do get around - once the pain has dulled, perhaps - to set up a campaign/petition etc, count me in too.

lilyb93 - condolences from me too. I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister and also that you should have to read such vile remarks from those who did not know her.

All of your kind words are very refreshing and uplifting so thank you all very much, not only for being non judgmental, but for also being empathic towards our family's situation. X

Thank you, I'm not sure what kind of petition would be relevant if anyone has any ideas please let me know x

Thank you so much x

Thank you ever so much x

Thank you for your kind words x

@lilyb93 Sorry for your loss.

Is there anything else you would like us to know about your sister and what happened to her?

I hope I don't sound intrusive, feel free to say nothing at all.

Thank you for your kind words, what a shame not everybody has the same understanding and empathy as the rest of you! X

I agree, Lass

If the independent cannot afford to moderate their online comment spaces, they shouldn’t have them.

The horrible comments are on The Independent link above, horrible newspaper that should moderate comments

Just an aside but has there been a huge change in the demographics of who reads that paper since it went wholly on-line?

The Daily Mail used to be the most hated paper on MN, both for its content and its comments yet for a while now I've seen such a change in both whilst the truly idiotic and nasty seem to have gone to the Independent.

Lily , I'm so sorry for your loss.