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Where is the hang wringing over Father’s Day?

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NightmareDaemon · 16/06/2019 08:12

Every Mother’s day I see so many posts on social media pleading for people to not celebrate Mother’s Day too much lest it offend/trigger some who had a crap mum/can’t be a mum/doesn’t want to be a mum/etc. There were even posts from companies on twitter letting customers know they could opt out of marketing for Mother’s Day if they found it triggering.

Where is the equivalent for Fatber’s Day? Why so much less angst? All I see today are post saying Happy Father’s Day.

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LimeKiwi · 16/06/2019 11:41

The Daily Mash? That's a satire page and news, it's not real!
As the Trump would say, fake news lol.

ByGrabtharsHammarWhatASaving · 16/06/2019 11:38

I think it's an expectation vs reality thing. Being the perfect mother/ having a perfect mother is very heavily reinforced in society. When parents separate, the mother almost always provides the main residence. When parents stay together, the mother almost always provides the main care. The job of supporting children emotionally almost always falls to her. A mother who abandons her children is vilified way beyond men who do the same thing. And in my experience most of the people I know have had better mothers than fathers. The fathers of my friends range from disinterested and lazy but essentially fine, to outright abusive or absent. Only a few have fathers that do or care as much as their mothers (myself included). My father might as well not exist, and it bothers me but not too much because I have low expectations, and part of that is to do with everyone else's fathers being quite shit as well. If everyone else had an amazing father then I think I'd feel that loss much more keenly. So if you have a shit/ absent mum, but you're surrounded by people with great mums and the media pushing the perfect mum trope, I think it must hurt a lot more.

Manclife1 · 16/06/2019 11:29

Could it be as simple as fathers think the day is a load of bullshit so it doesn’t get as hyped up (other than by women for some reason). None of my mates really care for it and would rather it be cancelled.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 16/06/2019 11:24

I think different people might see different amounts of the hand wringing posts depending on their friendship groups.
If you have a lot of virtue signaling friends you will see more.

LassOfFyvie · 16/06/2019 10:45

My point is that there is a very stark difference between how each day is treated on social media. In one case it is a celebration and in the other it is a warning not to celebrate too much. It is sexism

Is there? As I said both strike me as excuses to persuade people to buy tat.

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NightmareDaemon · 16/06/2019 10:37

Yes, Lass, thank you for your insightful, as ever, contribution, it was a typo.

My point is that there is a very stark difference between how each day is treated on social media. In one case it is a celebration and in the other it is a warning not to celebrate too much. It is sexism.

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LassOfFyvie · 16/06/2019 10:20

What exactly is your complaint OP? Both days are over-hyped marketing nonsense.

Btw the expression is "hand wringing" not hang.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 16/06/2019 10:14

I'm not sure that the institution of fatherhood is as emotionally loaded.
Not as clickbaity maybe?

DpWm · 16/06/2019 10:13

Men feeling a bit inferiority complexed...

twitter.com/thedailymash/status/1140167289532276736

TeamUnicorn · 16/06/2019 08:20

I had an email from Superdrug offering me the opportunity to opt out of FD emails, but that has been it.