DH’s father has died. He was a horrible person, emotionally abusive, cruel, coercively controlling, and a sexual predator who preyed on young women and got sexual kicks from frightening them. That is the least of it, really, but a short summing up.
So now there will have to be a funeral. Made even harder by the fact that Dh’s mother and sister have minimised and excused Fils behaviour, in Mils’s case for many decades, and in sil’s case since Fil became more frail and incapacitated.
Has anyone been in this position ? Dh feels that there can’t be a eulogy, what on earth could be said that would be either lies or uncomfortable for the people present ? I think DH will talk to the minister, but is there anything else to think of ? Mil wants, as always, to sweep it all under the carpet, but there will be only a couple of very loyal friends of Fil there, anyone else there will come because of Mil, as he had alienated everyone else with his cruelty.