Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

Yeah.... nah.
I mean, I won't not tell him if I happen upon it, but I won't add 'ball check' to my monthly wife work schedule

Bollocks to this wifework. Literally and figuratively.

I think the message is fine- looking out for a loved one's health is a good thing. On a different level I object to the pinkness of the poster because it's aimed at the wimmin. And the stupid keep calm bit.

For me, the end justifies the means here. Yes, we should encourage men to be self-aware and check their own testicles regularly, but if, in the meantime, this campaign helps catch some cases of cancer early, it can only be a good thing.

A pp raised a good point that there's no NHS screening for testicular cancer, as there is for breast and cervical cancer.

I don't see the problem. There are plenty of leaflets on breast cancer encouraging men to pay attention to changes in their partners breasts.

Really sorry to hear that, Gretchen.

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I don’t know, my memory isn’t good enough to remember that much detail, it would be handy if it was!

Is the wording the same, simonjt?

I'm sorry Gretchen. I was on your thread at the time. You have nothing to feel guilty about, I know it's so easy to say though and I understand the "what if I had" feelings. I remember your thread so well, it was so clear how much you loved each other.

I do agree we should care for and be aware of changes in our partners, male or female.

I think the issue in this particular case is the peremptory tone and the lack of equality, as you say. Women are ordered, men are advised (except I don't think I've ever seen a corresponding poster either ordering or advising men about changes in their partners' breasts). It's just another example of how women are ordered to take responsibility for men.

Actually my husband checks my boobs and he's the one who found a lump when I'd missed it and saved my life. So if you love someone I actually don't see what the problem is.

I have seen similar posters in toilets before about men checking their partners breasts for lumps etc.

Their testicles their problem
Ditto football boots and anything else that they conveniently pretend they can't do for themselves 🙄

I know DH hates adverts that assume that as a man he won’t seek medical advice when he needs to – he thinks it’s infantizing men.

I'm sure there was some research that hit media ages ago that showed once you accounted for pg and menstruation things directly relating to female biological sex that men and women were just as likely to go to GP – I can’t find it with a quick search. Though I know women pain is often dismissed and I could see it could take few trips to GP to get anywhere.

I would have thought posters in mens would be better idea.

Derelict, aimed specifically and exclusively at men, the way this is at women?

I noticed that too, Pop...the double standard is breath taking.

TBF I've seen plenty of breast cancer advice suggesting you get your partner help you feel for changes. Anything to increase awareness and get people doing the monthly checks I guess.

The bar is really set very low for men, isn't it? Enabling this 'silly billy' nonsense really grinds my gears.
Do men's toilets have a corresponding poster about encouraging mammograms?

As an aside, I recently had surgery, so I couldn't do the school run for a few weeks and man alive, you'd think my husband had split the atom. 🤦‍♀️

Men's health campaigns always stress the word men. Their Twitter is full of references to men.

Not a hint of "people with testicles".

At the bottom it says "Supporting men with testicular cancer..."

HOW EXCLUSIONARY! Don't they know it's not just men who get testicular cancer? It should say "sperm dispensers" surely?

I can see where you are coming from about it being his tackle and his responsibility. But to be honest you also have a vested interest when you have a partner. If they do die, you feel the guilt about maybe you could have done more. In my case my DH had asymptomatic lung cancer which spread to his brain - again no symptoms of the brain tumours until it was too late. I beat myself up all the time about were there signs I missed. I know rationally that's not the case, but it would have brought me so much peace of mind if there had been a way of checking him for cancer. The principle of it being his health and his problem doesn't really work when the worst happens. I would support a campaign that looks at encouraging men to check their wives' breasts for lumps rather than getting rid of campaigns encouraging women to check their DHs.

So we can check 'his' balls but can't often refer to 'her' period/smear because its, you know, phobic. Hmmm...

"They can't see their football boots when they're right in front of their faces so why would they notice a lump in their testicles?"

Sorry that you married a toddler. My husband is a grown up, capable of finding both boots and lumps.

The "send him to his GP immediately" thing rankles.

The passivity and whole lack of agency attributed to the man himself is quite telling.

Contrast that with the direct language ordering women to act.

There are posters from a prostrate health charity at my local supermarket. Guess whose responsibility that is? Yep, women's.

'Is your husband going to the loo more often?'

Adults should be responsible for their own health. And finding their football boots

wtf? No, I won’t be checking my husbands balls, he’s had them a lot longer than he’s had me he’s an adult who is accountable for his own health. i wouldn’t hand him a speculum and ask him to check my cervix! this is infantilising for men. If men aren’t accessing the healthcare they need, them that needs to be taken up with men, not women.