Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

Rufus - at a population level

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-13295300
www.nhs.uk/news/medical-practice/health-services-failing-gay-and-bisexual-men/

It is known that men who are married (not sure if just to women and presume married type relationships count as well) are happier and healthier than single men. And that women who are partnered up in het relationships are less happy. Not sure if less healthy...

Certainly it's true that lots of men are "looked after" by their wives / female partners (eg getting them to go to doc) which is what this advert is trying to appeal to - I'm not sure if this dynamic is the same in gay marriages. Society expects women to look after men and women do it. It would be interesting to know if the protective thing (for men) is the relationship or having a woman running around after them. Certainly a lot of het relationships have a certain dynamic - it's on MN relationships board all day every day. I would hope that gay / lesbian relationships are more equal.

In short gay men are more at risk of this disease and I'm going to have a look and see if they have anything targeting that group or if they are sticking to telling women off.

Oh lord.

I have no problem with encouraging people to look after each other and to generally keep an eye out for changes but this makes to sound like it’s a job for women to do.

And yes, I notice this is ‘men’, not testicle havers.

I check mine once a week. Don't need anyone else to do it for me and the posters are not needed. Surprised they didn't put on there for women to prostate check too

Many men never check their bits, the rates of testicular cancer would fall massively, the amount of men checking their prostate is significantly less than even that. Men are idiotic and need to take more responsibility.

If DP noticed something she'd say, just as me in reverse, obviously.

pink for emPowerment because we feel so empowered at being granted the honor of serving our country by examining testicles

How unromantic - am I supposed to surreptitiously check for cancer while DTD or actually perform regular medical exams on him while he stands like lord of the manor (and then undoubtedly wants to continue the fondling)?

Gross

you really don't like women expressing their opinions do you?

Ah yes, I dissagree with a poster so it must be because she is a women and not because she is posting nonsense.

As long as my tits aren't in his hands its all good

Fully functioning member of society and all that

I can’t ask dh to check for lumps He is easily distracted and would forget what he was looking for
then how does he manage to function or get anything done with his goldfish style attention span?

Right ive texted ds1 and his partner

I find the poster extremely annoying, the 'keep calm and carry on' thing is about doing your duty and serving your country (the highest authority-the state) in a time of crisis.
So here women are framed as loyal servants expected to dutifully put aside self interest and do the right thing for our overlords

but they've made it pink so we dont notice the underlying meaning because when we see pink we think there must be some kind of empowering feminist message

The irony is that feminists are less likely to infantilise men like this, as we believe they are fully capable of checking their own bollocks without requiring assistance (or passing the responsibility!) someone with XX chromosomes, surely?

It's even more ironic that a man has turned up to take offence, and patronise women who believe this to be true

I find the language crass but see no issue in taking care of one another and raising it if something doesn't feel right.

Well known men who are in married type relationships with women are healthier than single or gay men

What...why?

Is that a thing? I need to tell ds1

I just went looking for breast cancer ads aimed at men and found PornHub’s vomit inducing “Save the boobs” campaign where they graciously offer to donate money for every view of their “big tits” or “small tits” category during the month of October. There’s also a charming soft pornography scene in a shower which I think is meant to demonstrate how to check breasts for lumps but only gets as far as sensually rubbing herself while a breathy voiceover ‘explains’ what to do.

Presumably if a woman needs a mastectomy as part of the process of treatment she can go fuck herself. It’s save the boobs, remember, not save her life?

So yes, there is apparently content out there aimed at men, but I’d really rather there wasn’t tbh.

send him to his GP immediately

Then slap his legs and put him on the naughty step for not thinking to check them himself.

Patronising nonsense that infantalises men and places yet another thing on women to be responsible for.
DH hates this shit, along with other things that position men as silly little man babies who can't function as an adult.

Google tells me gay men twice as likely to die of testicular cancer.

Why not focus there?

Well known men who are in married type relationships with women are healthier than single or gay men. This ad then feels quite thoughtless from additional angles.

LangCleg + if noticed anything at any time on own or partners body then say / do something!

'I’m not sure feminists are the demographic that ad is aimed at.'

Why? Feminists are a sub set of women. Lots of women are feminists. Don't get this comment. It's it because feminists are supposed to be lesbians? Too ugly to shag? Happy for men including their partners to die from preventable diseases? Some combination of the above? OR as its pink its only aimed at feminine women? That seems odd. Testicular cancer isn't more prevalent in the partners of feminine women is it? Leaving aside the fact that feminine =/= pink a lot of the time...

I can’t ask dh to check for lumps

He is easily distracted and would forget what he was looking for

Plus he would think was a trap

oh this is horrendous

it reminds me of a colleague from another country saying their "don't drink & drive" ads focused on women checking male drivers weren't drunk. I just don't have arrrgggggggggggggghs.

In my house, it would go like this: husband checks his own balls, I check my own breasts. Should either of us find a lump, which so far and thank heavens we haven't, we'd likely shout for the other one, get them to cop a feel and if they also thought there was a lump, we'd ring the GP and make an appointment. Then shit our partnered-up pants.

This is not that. This is a sexist poster making the assumption that women are the caretakers responsible for the health of their partners.

I’ll put money on those posters not being in the gents simon

I’d never get dh off me if he was under doctors orders

After a quick google I think the attached image is the one i have seen, or if not it is very similar

That's a private artist. Show me where she's been commissioned to display this art work in men's spaces by any public health org in the UK.

There are no such public health campaigns funded by health authorities or cancer charities in the UK.

Posters encouraging male partners to check the breasts of their female partners and making sure that they make a GP appointment are not seen in UK hospitals, doctors surgeries, libraries or any other public space. I very much doubt you have seen any in the men's toilets. I fear, Simon, you may have imagined it.

As for women being under “constant pressure” for mammograms and smears, that seems a deliberately obstructive point of view.
I’ve never felt pressurised to have these free , life saving investigations.

After a quick google I think the attached image is the one i have seen, or if not it is very similar