Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

Sorry, forgot the implicit good and caring part of that sentence.

Anyway, back to bollocks

but I just canno ever imagine a woman letting her child down so badly

Unfortunately, many mothers have done far, far worse.

Bluebluezoo- your post reminded me of the woman last year who had entrusted her husband to apply for the entrance exam for the school their son had worked desperately hard for. The husband missed the deadline. It all came good in the end - they let him take the exam and he passed but I just canno ever imagine a woman letting her child down so badly.

All The small things which fly under the radar add up to a huge and overwhelming message, we absolutely should call these small things out

maybe we can reach more men about this by raising awareness in women, since women are used to doing this sort of thing already

Why are women used to doing this sort if thing already?

Why aren’t men used to looking after their own health?

Same as pp who said they can’t see their football boots in front of them. It isn’t that they genuinely can’t, it’s that male privilege has taught them they don’t need to, they can just ask the nearest woman who will do it for them. And that it is completely normal to do so, and if said woman refuses to do so, then they are being awkward and not being helpful. It’s not going to hurt just to help, is it, they can just look and tell me where the football boots are.

So posters like this do matter. They reinforce that male privilege that they don’t need to bother themselves, their mother/wife/girlfriend will do it. Same as they’ll make the dentist appointments, and fill in the school forms, and remember to buy bin bags, and and and...

It’s not that men can’t, or even that they won’t, it is they are socialised into almost thinking this stuff does itself, it’s so small and trivial.

Getting posters like this changed to make men realise their health and their bodies are not someone elses responsibility may seem like a small thing not worth anyone’s time, but if we don’t, nothing will change and men will continue happily in their own little worlds where surfaces wipe themselves and children register themselves for nursery.

Getting annoyed about this sort of thing is bad for you, its just not at that level to deserve it.

It’s these tiny bits of everyday sexism that are part of the problem.
All these little things build up together to make it seem fine that women are subservient.
Yes this one poster won’t do that but years of similar things all add up together.

If you can't see the inherent sexism in there then you can't. But I can, and it annoys the hell out of me.

YMMV.

Come on, we're being told its annoying because it makes women the caretakers of mens balls so we have more wife-work.

Getting annoyed about this sort of thing is bad for you, its just not at that level to deserve it.

Its a bunch of people who though they should try and raise awareness of the need to check for testicular cancer probably thought, gee, maybe we can reach more men about this by raising awareness in women, since women are used to doing this sort of thing already.

Thank you for gatekeeping what other women are allowed to be annoyed by, Goose

Either there's an incel forum discussing this thread somewhere or there are socks.

Either way it's bloody tedious.

Oh good grief. It's just a poster that is meant to play off of a pop culture theme. It's dumb but it isn't telling you that you need to do something or else.
If you don't want to remind your partner to do something or don't think it's necessary then that's fine. If that's nagging, don't. Honestly I avoid the dr like the plague and only go when dh gets annoying enough to make me do it to shut him up, and I'd probably be happy if he stopped. Though perhaps I'd be less healthy.
A lot of health related posters are stupid and have limited real research attached to them. That is annoying and worth criticising.

And he's probably not done it because he's putting it out of his mind as it means an injection bless.

He also always runs out of meds before getting new ones I REFUSE to check for him in the bathroom, ask him how much left constantly. I do say have you run out from time to time, you'd better get a repeat, have you collected from pharmacy ffs did he do this for me? No. Men are not raised to look after all and sundry.

Fucks sake.

He was excellent when I had pnd for years, he's a good one on the whole, but. But.

I'm not going to give him a formal monthly testicle check no.

Just reminded me I need to remind DH to book a appt at gp about some test results.

See I do this shit. We all do. He's a 40 year old man ffs. I have asked him 3 times if he's booked it.

Now I need to give him a formal monthly cancer check up as well?

Oh oops forgot I'm a feminist so shouldn't remind him about gp after all

Some people apparently believe that being a feminist and a woman and heterosexual somehow means you are Teflon to female socialisation, wife work, etc etc etc. It's really not as easy as that ffs

Totally agree with you OP. Being made aware of an issue is one thing. Sod being told on a poster to do it every month for him.

Agree with a PP, if men are so shite at taking responsibility for their own health, posters in their own toilets telling them to get a grip (no pun intended) and check monthly would surely be more effective.

Also, I am cross at the idea that I could take my kids into a public toilet and see 'balls' written on an ad like that. It was a swear word when I was growing up and I wouldn't use it in front of little ones. I'm sure others will say it's perfectly neutral but not to me.

It's also teaching teenage girls that they apparently have a responsiblity to gaze at some chap's tackle monthly. When they don't.

Also, where does it end?

Am I duty bound to inspect DP for any moles that may have changed? Dental checkup? Blood pressure? ECG? Why not a Full blood test?

If I “care about my partner living or dying”, surely I am duty bound to do all of the above?

OR:

Men can take responsibility for their own health and wellbeing. If their partners notice something concerning then they should of course raise it but by no means should they be told that it is their DUTY as a woman to monitor men’s health.

(Side note: I absolutely HATE the implication that checking each other for signs of cancer is a ‘fun’ thing to do, nudge nudge wink wink. Cancer is not sexy. It is not fun. It’s shit.)

I don’t have words.

how can they possibly enjoy sexy funtimes ever again
Ain't that the truth powershower we must shield men from the reality of the cost that women bear to bring forth the next generation.
The most important thing is that men feel free to use women's bodies for their sexual gratification and we mustn't let all that ugly painful damage get in the way of men's right to a fulfilment must we

He can check his own fucking nads, thank you very much.

'As people have said it’s often easier for a second party to distinguish a problem rather than the affected bloke'

Men need to regularly check themselves for lumps just as women have to check their breasts for lumps, and that is not something you can do while having sex. Its not sexy.

What women can do is notice any changes, mention them to their partner, ask them to see their GP, and give them moral support.
What they cant do is force men to examine themselves, go to the doctor or keep appointments.

It would have been better if the poster had given some plain facts instead of wasting 3/4 of the page with a silly meme.

@MenuPlant something being “aimed at” is not the same as exclusion, and I don’t know what was or wasn’t said at the focus meeting.

Yes, I think you're right, @LangCleg

Tbh I abhor the KEEP CALM AND... trope anyway and think most people's eyes glaze over at it.

I imagine jocular adverts along the lines of "When you're playing doctors and nurses wink wink..." might get people's attention better, anyway.

I think such campaigns aimed at all romantic partners of both sexes might have some merit.

They might, yes.

Campaigns such as this one, however, framing women as caretakers of men, decorated in sexist colours, and using the tropes of natural duty, do not.

I had an abnormality in my breast about five years ago and it was my DH who noticed it (not cancer but required treatment). I think such campaigns aimed at all romantic partners of both sexes might have some merit.

Good point. Although it's a charity, not the NHS.