Can we stop being obedient soon, or will this coercion continue for evermore?

I am desperate for MNHQ to decide to allow posters to use correct pronouns and known names or aliases for all people.

The speed with which society will reverse the madness when we're brave enough to hear 'he' 'man' 'John' in relation to discussions of who exactly is demanding access to little girls and women. It will knock socks off.

The reason pronouns matter isn't because it spares hurty feelings. There's no worth in that compelled 'she' when you know the speaker doesn't mean it. No, the reason pronouns are such a massive deal is because female pronouns act like rohypnol. They lower inhibitions, make you feel safer, lessen defences.

"She's sad she can't join the girls in the changing rooms"
Emotional response = aw, why are the girls being mean?
"He's sad he can't join the girls in the changing rooms"
Emotional response =bolt the door NOW girls, and call for help.

"The girls don't want to undress in front of Jane"
"The girls don't want to undress in front of David"

Words change perceptions.
Pronouns can be rohypnol.
I owe it to women and girls to use language that primes their alertness, keeps them aware.

The argument can be that transgenderism is the new gay in that the past generation couldn't bring themselves around to be liberal enough to accept gay people have a right.

In essence, you could argue that by being against trans people in these situations you are repeating that sentiment.

I don't agree, because gay people do not potentially put us in danger by invading single sex spaces.

I'm conflicted in many ways as I feel if someone does want to be referred to she that's their right on the choice of words used but when it comes to toilets, changing rooms and sport their biological gender should be what is the deciding factor.

I also do sympathise for the (albeit fairly small) gender dysphoric / trans person who is not pushing it in others faces. Just wants to get on with regular life with their friends and family and would in fact rather go into the disabled toilet, so as not to bother anyone (I know someone like this).

I have no problem using the word transwoman because it indicates a beyond or differentness than just a woman. I do not call trans women women as a single word though.

I think the biggest problem is people feeling they have to fit into a stereotype of man or woman; masculine or feminine; submissive or dominant; artistic or concrete. Instead of being happy to be a female who is quite strong willed who equally loves martial arts, baking, surfing and the colour pink- we are made to feel we have to be what we are assigned to. I feel that many trans persons are looking for that fix of fitting in with their interests.

The biggest problem i have with some trans people is the near fetishism their new appearance takes. They often act an extreme of their non biological gender. As if a trans woman wants to be dominated and patronised and as if a trans man wants to be dictorial and an adrenaline junkie. It's almost like a caricature.

If you really desire to be the opposite sex (well let's say opposite gender) surely you'd just want to be a normal person. So trans women with jeans, basic t shirt and minimal makeup. But often it's the extreme and it is that which doesn't sit right with me.

I am progressive and tolerant. I have not nor would not be hateful to someone who genuinely felt their body was wrong for them. I just don't like how changing the body helps especially when these feelings are only just recent. Instead, psychological outlooks and self esteem and assertiveness is so important.

Sorry if that was a bit of an essay.