I have a fair idea why my post was deleted. It didn't break guidelines but might have been too honest and blunt. Plus it stated the blindly obvious about the publicity surrounding the case.
I can't be arsed to pursue MN over it. It'll get no where, and I know it.
The moderators haven't been 'inside' the dynamics of how it affects a family though. Nor have the politicians.
I'm so used to wives and families being silenced and told to suck it up, I haven't the energy to fight all the time. This particular story has upset me more than most though.
I have withdrawn from my own family because of the toxicity around this ideology. For my own mental well being. I just can not see how it's good for those who are vulnerable and I would be wary about relations with such a family because of my own experiences. Transphobic? Or because I just know what it's like being told that black is white in the context of the foundations of your security and that the fundamentals of your own identity come second to trans ideology.
As I say, it's a grenade in a family set up. Every time I've read about similar or know of similar families they are monumentally fucked up, often with at least one other family member badly affected by the fall out. It's NEVER just about the mental well being of the trans person - be they adult or child. And our failure to recognise this - on a political level, a social services level or a purely social support level (friendships, organisations or just the ability to talk about experiences) is harming people who have direct experience and contact with it.
It destroys the sense of self, it destroys the sense of true identity. Trying to live a constant lie is exhausting and it only spirals and sucks in others.
No one speaks of the reality. No one is allowed to. No one cares. Not about me, not about trans widows, not about ROGD girls and certainly not about kids like this, who no doubt should just be grateful that a loving family is willing to take them in.
Cos that's how it works. The 'Liberal Identity' of proving how tolerant and inclusive you are is more important.
It forgot that liberalism is founded on the principle of the 'on balance' argument for society in which we all have a stake and the truly vulnerable always have someone to stick up for them. Instead they have just become invisible and with no one thinking from multiple points of view in order to make an 'on balance' assessment to minimise harm to as many as possible.
The collateral damage in this case is overwhelmingly groups who have long been those who have been marginalised - the abused wife, the lesbian, the cared for child...
... As I say, those in power do not care. It does not win them votes and in an age of populism that's all that counts. It's every man for himself.