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Uniex toilets , who likes them ?

95 replies

daisy64 · 14/04/2019 18:08

As much as I feel that women deserve equal rights I really cant stand going into a public loo after a strange man comes out , how do you feel ?

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itsagranddayfordrying · 15/04/2019 14:00

I'm a primary school teacher and years ago we were a female only staff now we've 5 male teachers so we share the toilets (we only have 2) and they're much smellier then they used to be 😭 hate it .

Snowy111 · 15/04/2019 13:54

Up their standards even

Snowy111 · 15/04/2019 13:53

My DP tends to sit down at home to have a wee which seems much more civilised. Think it would be better if it became the norm for blokes to sit if there’s a seat, and only stand at a urinal

Having said that, in women only toilets there’s nothing worse than sitting down on a wet seat - I usually check and wipe them first but sometimes you’re in a hurry!

Some women can be just as inconsiderate as men, but most do make sure they leave a toilet clean

men are going to have to go their standards if moving to unisex loos, blokes loos can be vile

bingoitsadingo · 15/04/2019 13:04

@ErrolTheDragon Both cleaned once a day, at the end of the day.

I don't think that sounds that strange Dobby, I've used toilets in similar setups and that would be normal, means the queue moves at twice the speed

DobbyTheHouseElk · 15/04/2019 12:44

I used on at a National Trust place. I actually hadn’t realised they were unisex. There was a big door, then a small area with the mirror and sink etc, bin. Then the cubicle. DD,was potty training and I came out to wash my hands and dispose of the potty liner in the bin. There was a man standing there, he shot past me and into the cubicle. I was going to use the cubicle as well. But then I felt awkward in the room thinking he’d been listening. It was most strange and I felt he had invaded my personal space. I hadn’t noticed if the other door had a lock. But I’ve been back and the other door does lock and people wait outside, so I think the man was a bit strange to have entered.

RomanyQueen1 · 15/04/2019 12:38

No, they are disgusting my dd 15 went in one, I was with her and a man had the door open pants to the floor having a shit.
She said she's scarred for life. Grin
They smelt and were disgusting, just no.

ErrolTheDragon · 15/04/2019 12:34

Is the cleaning provision identical on the new site to the old, bingo?

Self-cleanup is easier, I suppose, in a cubicle with a sink and paper towels.

bingoitsadingo · 15/04/2019 09:52

My last two offices have had unisex toilets (separate rooms entirely self enclosed with a sink in them). As someone who uses a mooncup, I far prefer this set up to single-sex toilets with shared sinks.

My previous office (same workplace, we moved sites) had single sex toilets. The womens toilets there were always WAY grosser than the unisex ones were once we moved sites. So in my experience, sharing with men made things cleaner, not messier. Or maybe people are just more willing to clean up after themselves in a larger room than a tiny cubicle.

So yeah, voice of dissent but I have no issue with it if they're self contained.

sue51 · 15/04/2019 09:46

Would not use them. I'd rather not drink all day and risk dehydration than pee in one.

BettyDuMonde · 15/04/2019 09:43

I once heard a male colleague do a very noisy wet shit in one of those ‘men to the cubicles on the left, women to the cubicles on the right, shared handbasins in the middle’ type toilets.

Not sure which of us was most mortified but neither of us would choose to hire that venue again.

jay55 · 15/04/2019 09:40

The skygarden has unisex loos that are complete units with sinks, floor to ceiling doors, one queue for all, easy for mixed ages families.

I liked them.

In other less open spaces I'd not be too keen. Especially with a shared sink area.

Justhadathought · 15/04/2019 09:18

Women also wee on toilet seats, because many tend to hover over the seat rather than sit in it. i often do that myself. And i often have to wipe seats before permitting my granddaughter to sit on them.

Completely discrete units - walls right down to the floor and maybe a small hand wash basin - in a toilet corridor is not so much a problem. But other than that I don't feel comfortable about it at all.

Erythronium · 14/04/2019 21:59

Are you sure you haven't been going into the men's loos by mistake almondykess? Men's loos stink because of all the piss on the floor.

weasle · 14/04/2019 21:54

I hate them.
We have them at work and I walk a long way to go to a ladies instead each time. In fact I often avoid my office and work elsewhere when possible due to this.
I feel unisex aren't private enough and it makes me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. I work in a very traditionally male job and don't want to share lavatories with my male colleagues.
And unisex loos stink.

Duster12 · 14/04/2019 21:54

Vile, and if you're happy to use them then I suggest you raise your standards.

BadPennyNoBiscuit · 14/04/2019 21:52

As much as I feel that women deserve equal rights I really can't stand going into a public loo after a strange man comes out
I don't understand that statement. Equal rights does not mean women are trying to be men, (as much as men like to make that claim.)

I don't like mixed sex toilets or personal spaces. I don't think they are necessary.
I used to work as a cleaner. The mens would take me twice as long as the womens. And the last time I was in hospital the cleaners all used to say the women kept their kitchen and toilets cleaner than the mens ward.

HumberElla · 14/04/2019 21:46

I will tolerate one that has washing facilities inside the cubicle, opens out into a relatively busy space (ie not a narrow dark corridor) and has floor to ceiling walls and doors. So often though there are gaps near the floor or overhead, anything wider that the thickness of a phone and I’m uncomfortable. Also I always check for unconvincing ‘coat hooks’ or other bits of plastic stuck where it shouldn’t be. Hidden cameras are becoming more common in places where men can access freely and then can expect women to use. A town near my had a spate of camera incidents in unisex toilets.

Barracker · 14/04/2019 21:34

Single occupancy toilet rooms are stinky and unhygienic if men use them, far more so than if they are women only.

And my two recent experiences with mixed sex banks of cubicles were utterly grim and nasty.
The first I had cystitis and had to pee, bleeding, sweating and silently crying with a bloke 12 inches to my right behind a 10 mm partition. Repeated that experience every 30 minutes. Tiny wash area involved awkward maneouvres to pass people without brushing against one another.
The other experience was a bank of perhaps 20 cubicles. Apparently a protocol had evolved naturally; women to the left, men to the right.
What this meant was that the first 10 loos smelled acceptable but had NO toilet paper, whereas the last 10 loos were disgusting but equipped with loo roll.
It was also down a stairwell, noone else around, felt quite isolated and could have been a vulnerable situation. I was there with my husband. Wouldn't have felt completely safe if it had been me and another man.

AnyOldPrion · 14/04/2019 21:13

There are some in a shopping centre near me. They’re kept very clean and I do use them as they’re very convenient for a cafe where I often go for a coffee.

They’re cubicles with a shared area for hand-washing. They’re new, bright, have sanitary bins in spacious cubicles and are generally very well maintained.

I find it strange and rather uncomfortable when I’m washing my hands beside a man. That may be because I’m middle aged and unused to it. Mostly they’re empty though.

I would never use such a space if it was in an area that alcohol was being consumed. I wouldn’t go in if I could see a man hanging around in there. And in general, if there was a choice between this and an equally convenient single sex toilet (or even a self-contained cubicle) I’d use single sex every time, even if it was less comfortable.

Babdoc · 14/04/2019 21:01

I’ve stopped going to our local theatre because they’ve allowed men into the women’s toilets. The notice on the door says anyone can use whichever loo they “feel” best fits their “ gender identity”.
So basically any male predator, voyeur or pervert with a phone camera to hold under the door can just walk in unchallenged.
I now go to the theatre in a town 15 miles away. They have proper single sex toilets.

psychicoctopus · 14/04/2019 21:01

Pubs and bars with unisex toilets are awful. Drunk men piss all over the seat and the floor, they leave the seat up and don't shut the door while they're pissing. It's vile.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 14/04/2019 20:58

Hideous. I don’t know what men do in there but their genetic makeup must be half fucking garden sprinkler because they pish EVERYWHERE.

TheFallenMadonna · 14/04/2019 20:57

We have unisex loos, mostly used by teenage boys in fact. Individual rooms with own sink. Open onto the corridor. Cleaned once a day. Completely fine.

almondykess · 14/04/2019 20:57

Also...I don't know if the toilets around you guys are just cleaner than the ones I use, but in my experience women definitely aren't immune to pissing on the seat/floor Confused

QuentinWinters · 14/04/2019 20:57

Women equally piss on seats and don't clean up so what's the issue ?
So much rubbish. Women might occasionally leave a drip on a seat. Men (or specifically boys) often miss entirely and leave a puddle that stinks when it dries out- which happens easily if it's behind the loo.
I don't know why there is this myth that the ladies is as bad. We all have noses and all know which smells worse. Envy

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