Pink nail varnish for boys

Nail painting is more body decorating rarther than trying to look appealing to thr opposite sex.

Well I am definitely no expert but isn't it the case that porn women have stupidly long and painted nails?

Your confusing nail art with extentions.
Nails can but short and pretty with nice designs without being vampy sexy nails.

Agreed RO, that's what I'm doing. I hate that this is even a consideration for my DH.

Maybe your DH should/could paint his nails?

With the summer coming and sandals coming out, is there a reason why he wouldn't like some colour on his toenails?

Challenging sex-based stereotypes isn't solely for women to consider.

That's a shame anothernew. You should be able to feel comfortable and confident in yourself no matter what you look like.

Some women like to wear nail varnish (I use it for distracting from the overall mankiness of my feet in summer), others don’t.

It’s a matter of personal choice, not morality. Nobody should be policing what other people choose to wear.

I'm bloody awful at painting my nails but still do it every now and again.. it definitely doesnt make me look "pretty" because it is a bit of coloured paint on some dead cells however I quite like the colours! I don't see the problem with children painting their nails. Also I wear make up because I cannot stand how i look without it, not to attract anyone purely for my own self confidence (less than ideal I know!)

I suspected as much TBH. Most kids copy their parents and unfortunately the girls must be pretty trend is spiralling a bit out of control to the point that it is crisis if you don't get a good Instagram photo.

I think you need to address why your daughter is wearing nail varnish. This is slso gender stereotyping. Females must be pretty to look at and have pretty painted nails. What next- a little make up, some false eyelashes, debilitating heels. It's all just a girl thing isn't it?

I think Namelessinseattle that you have captured the insanity of this whole mess perfectly with that one sentence.

Come on society. Cop yourselves the fuck on already!

The DH isn't saying no because he thinks toddlers/ boys painting nails is bad or makes them trans, he's just worried that other people will think that and put ideas in his sons head that will lead to him being harmed.

Children will be more influenced by atitudes at home though.
Children will understand things according to their age.

The possible message becomes 'boys wearing nail varnish etc = dangerous" Many children (&adults) when told something is forbidden become more fixed on wanting it.
The most effective way of protecting children from external interpretations of their rejection of sex-based stereotypes is for children to recognise that this is what these are. No boys toys/ girls toys, boys' hair/ girls' hair, boys' hobbies / girls' hobbies etc

Make sure that you only use blue polish and then if someone does say oh excuse me but your child is clearly identifying as a girl, they’re wearing polish you can say don’t worry- it’s blue.

So my point is basically that I reckon boys are much less likely to think they are trans if you allow them freedom to Express and explore things traditionally thought of as feminine. Because they then arent going to desire these things but think that is wrong for a boy and so go down the whole road of thinking that they must not really be a boy then.

Hmmm.... it's difficult because my first thought is 'you cannot turn anyone trans any more than you can turn someone gay, people just are or are not' BUT I do worry about the 8nflux of female to Male trans kids.... when I think about it it is hard to come to terms with your female body when going through puberty.... I certainly would have taken an opt out card if I thought I could... not to have to experience the unwanted attention, the pain, the fear of childbirth having to think about that when you are still really a child... I dressed in baggy mens clothing until I was about 18.... I was very confused because what I understood about adult women via the Male gaze was that they weren't really real, and I definitely was... so in my head I didnt think I was a woman I just wanted to be a human being....but I AM a woman. Women ARE in fact human beings, just from the way they are presented to you in the media it's no wonder young girls cant identify with that (although I think its slowly getting better) I've gone on to have two kids and am in a het relationship, my fear of femininity didnt last... it's just that it's hard going through puberty..... when you look at the statistics now days of female to Male trans kids it's gone up alarmingly. I do not think all these girls are men born in the wrong body... I think it has to do with misogyny and how hard it actually is to be a woman and how no one really acknowledges that.

That said I really do not think you can turn a boy trans by putting nail varnish on him. My son as a toddler loved nail varnish and I'd let him play with it, any colours he wanted... he couldn't be more stereotypically masculine now... and that is not something I've encouraged, I always made sure to buy him and give him access to both things traditionally thought of as masculine and feminine, he has dolls and a home corner in his room and fairy wings... but to be frankly honest its diggers and trains and legitimate hes really obsessed with. And even if it wasnt I do not think that expressing femininity makes someone a woman or even think they are a woman... as long as you are supportive and allow them freedom to do these things without judgement over their gender or sexuality I actually think that leads to less confusion. Personally I feel it is harder to identify with a rigid gender stereotype and so it's less likely that someone is going to think they do not align with the gender they were assigned at birth if they have never had a rigid idea enforced on them about what that is.
For me idve had a much easier time accepting myself as female if I hadn't had constant bombardment of images of what that should mean and what I should be into and the reaction I should be provoking in people etc etc

Agree Caro, I'm not worried about my kids getting the wrong message in the home, it's the message they might get from school/ peers that concerns me!

I think some people are misunderstanding. The DH isn't saying no because he thinks toddlers/ boys painting nails is bad or makes them trans, he's just worried that other people will think that and put ideas in his sons head that will lead to him being harmed. The question isn't "is it OK for boys to paint their nails/do other "feminine" things" but "how can I show my son that its OK to do these things without making him a target for the woke-police". Right OP?

The only way to get away from all of that is to make it a total non event, of little interest.

This. My DC: “Look mummy DS4 wants to be a girl and his name is Joan.”

Me: oh that’s nice. Can you make sure that when you’ve finished with the dressing up stuff you don’t leave it lying all over the landing!

I've had this my youngest ds is 3 and if his older sisters want nail varnish or make up on he does too. I've been asked if I think it makes him trans or gay by a friend I just stated no it makes him a boy who lies to copy his siblings regardless of sex. He loves cars and diggers. I've also explained we don't have boys things or girls things here it's either baby toddler kid teen etc.
Children like to copy examples of things they see that's how they learn.

The only way to get away from all of that is to make it a total non event, of little interest.

It's mind boggling that there's this level of thought over a tiny childhood moment. It's just play. That's what I'd be saying to the DH, over and over. It means nothing, nail polish is brightly coloured and of interest to children just like face painting or dressing up. Pink is just a colour amongst many. No need to attach any significance to it.

HorsewithnoFrills

I doubt anyone else on here thought you went too far. There's a bully on here who's best not to bother with