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Lingerie and pretty things

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TheFrontHoleIsConnectedToThe · 28/03/2019 08:42

I don't like these things. I think they're silly and uncomfortable and frequently not practical. However, since around the age of 19/20 I will wear them. Particularly if it means I will ger laid.

So I am wearing these things because men like the look of them. I started dressing more traditionally feminine around that age because looking like a scruffy teenage boy wasn't getting me any.

I like men dressed in typically masculine clothing but I actually think I look nice dressed that way as well. And I am drawn to it more because I feel I can wear it less now.

Women didn't invent stupid women's clothing. We were told to wear it by men who invented stupid womens clothing.

If we are going to decide onw sex is naturally more fluffy and into lacy pink shite... why do we assume it's women and not the men women are trying to look nice for.

*disclaimer not everything a woman wears is to attract a man. BUT attracting a mate is a thing most human will try and do..

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Floisme · 28/03/2019 10:05

Sorry - it's never been my thing

Floisme · 28/03/2019 10:05

I agree with questioning your choices - and what choice is ever truly free? However I also believe It's possible to love clothes and fashion while avoiding things that are uncomfortable, impractical or damaging to your health. I think some of the clothes at the Dior exhibition look amazing but it doesn't mean I'd want to wear them, any more than I'd want to take a Francis Bacon home to hang on my wall.

As for lingerie - it's been my thing but I would think that, if a man's got as far as seeing you in your underwear then they've probably already decided they want to have sex with you.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 28/03/2019 08:50

I was watching the lovely Sue Perkins on BBC4 last night (travelling up the Mekong - very much worth a watch). Everything she wears could just was well be worn by a man, although she is unmistakably female. I think she looks great.

but she is a lesbian, so is that why she is comfortable with that look?

I am very gender conforming in the way I look. I'm not sure how much of it is because I like make up and bright colours (I do), or because dressing that way garners male approval. It's so hard to know if your choices are made freely isn't it?

TheFrontHoleIsConnectedToThe · 28/03/2019 08:44

It's not uncommon for women as they age to dress in more comfortable clothing "sensible" we call it. Comfy shoes. Shorter haircuts. Traditionally what society sees as masculine.

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