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Feminism-different things to different people?

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Ella1980 · 21/03/2019 01:20

As the subject title!

I often wonder things like...

Can you be married to/in a relationship with a wealthy man and therefore not ever work but still be a feminist?

I was once married to a very wealthy man who turned out to be the most controlling man alive! He was horrified when I returned to my career after having children as he was offended by the fact that this would "challenge his male role of successful breadwinner".

I divorced him and made certain not to make the same mistake again! My fiance earns less than me on average. He doesn't define me by my gender and likewise and I love it ☺

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Ella1980 · 21/03/2019 02:10

But is that "discriminating" against men? Can you be a feminist and want equality for both men and women at the same time?

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ZuttZeVootEeeVro · 21/03/2019 02:08

Feminism is the liberation of women. Different feminist believe in different ways to achieve this.

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Ella1980 · 21/03/2019 01:49

Maybe it's more about everybody being treated fairly? Is there a word for that? So regardless of gender/race/background/religion/sexuality etc... Now that's a world I wish we lived in! ☺

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Crabbyandproudofit · 21/03/2019 01:40

I think so. I don't think I stopped being a feminist when I was a full-time child-carer, so not contributing financially to the household. I realise that's not quite the same as your example. As you say, the wealth/earnings of one partner doesn't mean that the other partner does not also contribute, whether financially or otherwise. Your ex sounds like a plonker, he happened to be a wealthy plonker. My view of feminism is about respect and not limiting or being limited by gender.

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Ella1980 · 21/03/2019 01:36

What I mean by that is he doesn't stereotype me because I am female if that makes sense? So, for example, my ex believes women should do what men tell them and that they should stay at home with the kids, men are more important etc... Is that more to do with sexism though?

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MsTiggywinkletoyou · 21/03/2019 01:32

Feminism is so many different things to so many different people that some are referring to themselves as believing in women's rights instead, as it's less ambiguous. There are the Lean In feminists (corporate career women), the "sex-work-is-work" feminists, the SAHM feminists (valuing women's traditional work), Greenham feminists, soldier feminists, you name it.

ColeHawlins · 21/03/2019 01:27

He doesn't define me by my gender

Feminism isn't about gender.